GLBQ
      SUPPLEMENT
     
    
   
   
    
     
      When
      I
      had
      the
     
     
      opportunity
      to
      be
      with
      a
     
     
      woman,
      it
      felt
      right,
      and
     
     
      that
      is
      when
      I
      realized
     
     
      that
      I
      was
      a
      lesbian.
     
    
   
   
    
     
       
     
    
   
   
    
     
       
     
    
   
   
    
     
      —
     
    
   
   
    
     
      A,
      the
      LGBQ
      supplement
      deadline
      came
     
     
      closer,
      I
      tried
      to
      figure
      out
      what
      sort
      of
     
     
      article
      I
      should
      write.
      I
      finally
      decided
      to
     
     
      interview
      a
      lesbian
      couple
      I
      know.
      What
     
     
      better
      way
      to
      raise
      awareness
      of
      the
     
     
      homosexual
      community
      here
      on
      Prince
     
     
      Edward
      Island
      than
      to
      talk
      to
      two
      members
     
     
      of
      the
      community?
     
    

    
     
      To
      protect
      their
      anonymity,
      I
      have
     
     
      changed
      their
      names
      to
      Terri
      and
      Lisa.
     
     
      Terri
      is
      in
      her
      fourth
      year
      at
      U.P.E.I.
      and
      has
     
     
      known
      that
      she
      is
      a
      lesbian
      since
      she
      was
      18
     
     
      years
      old.
      Lisa,
      a
      part-time
      student
      in
      her
     
     
      first
      year
      here
      at
      U.P.E.I.,
      realized
      that
      she
     
     
      was
      a
      lesbian
      when
      she
      was
      17
      years
      old.
     
     
      The
      two
      women
      met
      through
      a
      mutual
     
     
      friend,
      and
      have
      been
      together
      for
      over
      a
     
     
      year
      now.
     
    
   
   
    
     
      How
      did
      you
      realize
      that
      you
      were
     
     
      lesbians?
     
    

    
     
      Lisa
      -
      When
      |
      was
      with
      a
      guy
      nothing
     
     
      clicked,
      I
      didn’t
      feel
      very
      comfortable
      doing
     
     
      anything.
      I
      was
      best
      friends
      with
      a
      girl,
      and
     
     
      we
      always
      felt
      comfy
      and
      happy.
      One
      day
     
     
      we
      were
      watching
      television,
      and
      she
     
     
      grabbed
      my
      hand,
      and
      it
      was
      like
     
     
      ‘OOOHHH’.
      At
      first
      |
      thought
      that
      I
      should
     
     
      not
      do
      this,
      but
      |
      wanted
      to.
      When
      I
      was
     
     
      with
      a
      girl,
      |
      felt
      comfortable.
     
    

    
     
      Terri
      -
      \t
      was
      basically
      the
      same
      way
      for
     
    
   
   
    
     
      By
      Grace
      Kimpinski
     
    
   
   
    
     
      me.
      I
      always
      thought
      that
      I
      was
      different,
     
     
      you
      know?
      My
      friends
      would
      go
      on
      about
     
     
      guys,
      and
      I
      just
      didn’t
      feel
      the
      same
      way
     
     
      about
      them.
      It
      took
      a
      long
      time
      for
      me
      to
     
     
      put
      a
      name
      to
      it,
      I
      just
      didn’t
      know
      what
      it
     
     
      was
      that
      was
      so
      different
      about
      me.
      |
      just
     
     
      always
      thought
      that
      a
      male
      was
      supposed
      to
     
     
      be
      with
      a
      female,
      and
      that
      is
      why
      I
      had
     
     
      boyfriends,
      but
      it
      just
      didn’t
      feel
      right.
     
     
      When
      I
      had
      the
      opportunity
      to
      be
      with
      a
     
     
      woman,
      it
      felt
      right,
      and
      that
      is
      when
      I
     
     
      realized
      that
      I
      was
      a
      lesbian.
     
    
   
   
    
     
      How
      is
      sex
      and
      a
      relationship
      with
      a
     
     
      woman
      different
      than
      it
      is
      with
      a
      men?
     
     
      Terri
      -
      Well,
      for
      us,
      being
      lesbians
      is
      what
     
     
      feels
      right
      to
      us,
      having
      sex
      with
      a
      man
     
     
      doesn’t
      feel
      good
      to
      us.
      We
      have
      the
      same
     
     
      sort
      of
      intimacy,
      contact,
      fondling
      in
      our
     
     
      relationship
      that
      two
      straight
      people
      would
     
     
      have
      in
      their
      relationship.
      The
      only
     
     
      difference
      if
      that
      there
      is
      no
      penis
      involved.
     
     
      We
      still
      have
      intercourse,
      foreplay,
      and
      all
     
     
      of
      the
      same
      elements,
      just
      there
      is
      no
      man!
     
    
   
   
    
     
      Do
      your
      families
      know
      that
      you
      are
     
     
      lesbians?
     
    

    
     
      Lisa
      -
      Yeah.
      They
      think
      that
      it
      is
      sinful,
      and
     
     
      terrible.
      They
      think
      that
      it
      is
      just
      a
      phase
     
     
      that
      I
      am
      just
      going
      through.
      My
      step-
     
     
      father
      said
      that
      he
      thought
      something
      was
     
     
      up,
      and
      it
      didn’t
      really
      surprise
      him.
      My
     
     
      parents
      said
      I
      could
     
     
      change
      if
      I
      wanted
      to.
     
     
      Terri
      -
      My
      mother
      wasn’
     
     
      surprised,
      she
      said
     
     
      whatever
      makes
      me
     
     
      happy.
      She
      doesn’t
     
     
      support
      me,
      but
      she
      is
     
     
      not
      against
      me.
      She
      is
     
     
      concerned
      because
      she
     
     
      knows
      that
      I
      am
      in
      fora
     
     
      hard
      life,
      she
      just
      wants
     
     
      me
      to
      be
      happy.
     
    
   
   
    
     
      What
      do
      you
      think
      or
     
     
      say
      when
      people
      say
     
     
      that
      being
      lesbian
      or
     
     
      gay
      is
      morally
      wrong,
     
     
      or
      that
      you
      have
      just
     
     
      chosen
      this
      lifestyle,
     
     
      and
      bitch
      to
      you
      about
     
     
      it?
     
    

    
     
      Lisa
      -
      |
      just
      say
      that
      I’m
     
     
      happy
      the
      way
      I
      am,
      and
     
     
      I
      just
      wish
      that
      you
     
     
      would
      just
      let
      me
      be
     
     
      happy.
      I
      try
      not
      to
      be
     
     
      bothered.
     
    

    
     
      Terri
      -
      Yeah,
      there
      are
     
     
      people
      who
      say
      that
      it
      is
     
     
      a
      choice,
      and
      that
      I
      can
     
     
      change
      tomorrow,
      but
      it
     
     
      is
      not
      a
      choice.
      Why
     
    
   
   
    
     
      |
      Homosexual
      Life
      in
      Charlottetown
     
     
      |
      The
      X-Press
      Chats
      With
      a
      Nice,
      Young
      Couple...
      of
      Lesbians
     
    
   
   
    
     
      t
     
    
   
   
    
     
       
     
    
   
   
    
     
      would
      I
      choose
      to
      live
      in
      secrecy,
      or
      choose
     
     
      to
      always
      be
      lying,
      and
      charsing
      stories
     
     
      saying
      ‘‘he’’,
      or
      ‘‘him
      ard
      1’’.
      No
      one
     
     
      would
      ever
      choose
      that,
      why
      would
      anyone
     
     
      want
      the
      hassle?
      |
      couid
      sie
      to
      myself
      and
     
     
      try
      to
      live
      the
      heterosexual
      tifestyle,
      but
      |
     
     
      would
      just
      not
      be
      happy.
     
    
   
   
    
     
      What
      about
      coming
      to
      your
      friends,
      how
     
     
      did
      that
      go
      over?
     
    

    
     
      Terri
      -
      Um,
      |
      started
      telling
      a
      small
      group
      of
     
     
      friends
      in
      high
      schooi.
      It’s
      not
      like
      I’m
      out,
     
     
      I
      don’t
      scream
      it,
      but
      my
      good
      friends
      know.
     
     
      I
      let
      people
      assume
      what
      they
      will,
      I
      don’t
     
     
      hide
      it
      any
      more.
      Then
      of
      course,'l
      don’t
     
     
      flaunt
      it
      either,
      Lisa
      and
      I
      don’t
      make
      out
      in
     
     
      public
      or
      anything
      like
      that.
     
    
   
   
    
     
      Do
      any
      of
      your
      friends
      treat
      you
     
     
      differently,
      have
      you
      lost
      any
      of
      your
     
     
      friends
      since
      you
      have
      told
      them
      about
     
     
      your
      homosexuality?
     
    

    
     
      Lisa
      -
      Yeah,
      the
      first
      person
      I
      told
      stopped
     
     
      hanging
      around
      with
      me,
      lately,
      we
      have
     
     
      started
      talking
      again.
     
    

    
     
      Terri
      -
      1
      had
      a
      close
      friend
      in
      high
      school,
      ’
     
     
      and
      she
      did
      not
      want
      to
      have
      much
      to
      do
     
     
      with
      me
      after
      I
      told
      her.
      You
      get
      to
      a
      point
     
     
      where
      you
      know
      how
      to
      choose
      your
     
     
      friends,
      you
      get
      to
      know
      them,
      and
      after
      a
     
     
      while
      you
      tell
      them:
     
    
   
   
    
     
      How
      big
      is
      the
      gay
      community
      here
      in
     
     
      Ch’town?
     
    

    
     
      Terri
      -
      It
      is
      a
      lot
      bigger
      than
      most
      people
     
     
      think.
      I
      have
      been
      to
      house
      parties
      where
     
     
      there
      has
      been
      a
      turnout
      of
      over
      100-200
     
     
      people.
      I
      have
      been
      to
      a
      few,
      and
      I
      meet
     
     
      different
      people
      every
      time.
     
    
   
   
    
     
      So
      what
      is
      it
      like
      being
      a
      lesbian
      here
      on
     
     
      P.E.I.?
      It
      is
      not
      like
      Halifax
      where
      there
     
     
      are
      gay
      bars
      to
      go
      to.
      How
      do
      you
      meet
     
     
      women?
     
    

    
     
      Lisa
      -
      Sometimes
      |
      find
      it
      frustrating.
     
    

    
     
      Terri
      -
      It
      is
      pretty
      difficult.
      The
      [gay/
     
     
      lesbian]
      community
      isn’t
      huge,
      but
      if
      you
     
     
      keep
      really
      close
      contact
      with
      them,
      you
     
     
      will
      hear
      of
      a
      house
      party
      or
      a
      dance
      or
     
     
      something
      going
      on
      in
      the
      gay
      community.
     
     
      If
      someone
      is
      lucky,
      they
      might
      meet
      a
     
     
      single
      woman.
      As
      far
      as
      going
      out
      to
      a
      bar,
     
     
      it
      is
      really
      restrictive.
     
    
   
   
    
     
      How
      do
      you
      deal
      with
      homophobia?
     
     
      Lisa
      -
      |
      feel
      hurt.
      1
      try
      to
      live
      with
      it.
      1
      thin
     
     
      that
      P.E.1.
      should
      be
      a
      little
      more
      open
      to
     
     
      people
      who
      are
      different.
     
    

    
     
      Terri
      -
      It
      used
      to
      bother
      me
      a
      lot,
      but
      I
     
     
      realized
      that
      nothing
      I
      can
      do
      is
      going
      to
     
    
   
   
    
     
      change
      someone’s
      mind,
      so
      I
      just
      walk
      aw:
     
     
      from
      it.
     
    
   
   
    
     
      Do
      you
      find
      that
      there
      are
      more
      women
     
    
   
   
    
     
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