I i Women's realm DOROTHY DIX" A S- PAGE TWO THE GUARDIAN JULY 10, 1951 Mid-Morning Coffee If you're lucky enough to have a next door neighbor who shares coffee at ten with you after the breakfast dishes are on the shelf the beds made. and the children have had the first layer of dirt washed off for the morning. you might ask her for me. if you would. to tell of her worst baking failure. Perhaps your neighbor won': tell; but if she does. or if you'll admit to having one of these your- self, write me a note as I really need it to dispel an inferiority com- plex. I'm sure all of us would treasure .a list of baking failures be- longing to other people. 0 O 0 But summer is not the time of letter writing. This month and August belong to the cottage vil- lages which dot the harbour and the coast line of both sides of the lsland. The verandah and ter- race of Dalvay House is a lazy place for lucky people. and vice versa. The white rambling Stan- hope Beach Inn is ideal for'con- versation and morning coffee. while the sun strikes the dullt; just over to the right Of U18! long line of surf. Keppoch Beach. someone from New York talks to some one fiom Montreal who li-is just finished an involved discus- sion with someone from Chicago. now sunning himself on a bleach- ed log at the edge of the beach. At Cavendish a worried mother watches the four figures of small children slide bravely down the side of the great sand dune and then see: them run to the ocean to wash off the beige coating which covers them from head to foot. At Brat-kley. a Toronto busi- ness man sits with the hotel pro- prietor in the stable behind the Inn and learns about prize cat- tle. At. the Brighton Shore cot.- lagcs the giassed in sunporch is the best place for meals and even set the breakfast dishes rest on the table because the shore look- ed much more inviting. Who really would want to write a letter! O O 0 said the man over the counter. "It's not going to rain again all summer. It rained all Festive Week and we won't get another drop of rain tiil Sep- tember. Soon we'll be crying for It." Everyone knows he WIOH3. ltNnn' O O I I-feeding my own advice of last ....:.mm.zmm.:. rMcMcM”MM”MM'"”"”g lTliai Body Of Your: By Junes W. Barton. M-11 i I EMOTIONAL DISTIJILBANCES INCREASE WORK OF THE HEART I have written several times of low Nature comes to our help in emergeilcles. enabling us to put up a. stronger fight by increasing the amount of blood pumped at each beat and also increasing the num- her of beats of the heart per min- ute. These emergencies that cause us to call on Nature for help may not be due to any real organic trouble but can be caused by the emotions. In The Journal of Clinical In- vestigation, Drs. fan P. Steven- son. Charles H. Duncan and Har- old G. Wolff (Cornell University) tell of their study of heart rate. blood pressure and output of blood by the heart, before and after a standard exercise test. in persons with and without structural heart disease who had varied emotional disturbances. In patients who were only slight- ly disturbed emotionally. average heart outputs were greater before and after exercise than in those who apparently were undisturbed. This difference iincrease) was largely due to increase in the power or stroke volume with each beat of the heart. In patients with striking anxiety symptoms. the betlrt outputs were greater before and after exercise than in those who were slightly disturbed emo- tionally. The difference was large- ly due to greater increases in the heart rate. Despite the increased output. there was shortness of breath, pai- pitation and weakness in the emo- tionally disturbed. In 10 patients with structural lteart disease-leaking valves. weak muscular walls of heart-the same relationship was found between emotional .disturbances and signs of weakening of muscular strength of heart. that is, shortness of breath. palpitation and fatigue. The symptoms were the same as those of a failing heart but these symptoms often disappeared when the snxiety disturbance had din- nppesred .slthough the structural defects in the heart were still pres- Int. What we do we learn from the kn ' " that emotional dis- turbances can cause symptoms when exercise is taken. whether the heart is perfectly round or the heart has defects in its structure? Both conditions-henlthy or a de- fective heart-are less able to withstand exercise when an emo- tional disturbance is present. In seven patients alterations in ability to withstand exercise (ex- oroine tolerance) were observed in loss than an hour. In the early uuu of heart niobiliutlon (in- crease in heart ntroko. increase in heart rate Ind increase in blood reuure) this mobilization is main- y achieved by incruscs in the strength of the heart stroke: in advanced stages. the increase is due to increase in heart rate. 'Ordliury physical Ixertion. our ovtrydoy work. performed durtm periods of relaxation put. little extra work on the hurt compared to the m increase in work douc,by the when omotioi-iol disturbances such II anxiety on present. . 'tltg.work .uf.tho hurt on yo? an anxious. Aiutioiy is You is chopped week for the Exhibit of Historical interest I went to the attic ro see what I could find that might have any value in the town's past life. Found I possessed nOillll'if'. moi'e startling than household be- longings of another century or two. My pleasure was the small leather chest of n vagziiionri who had filled it with sliccts of music lic had arranged for violin. cello and piano. filled it too with it pi'ospector's lianinier. .1 bag of checkers. dice. a flute. a map tell- ing nf an island he hurl sold off the B. C. coast. a box of gravel and a plan to nizike a violin. The trunk uas the story of a human being who believed one should do as he likes. Hi: was nappy in his philosophy as were those who played checkers with him. listen- ed to Haydn from his violin. or believed the stories of the gold rush. 0 O I For this morning's recipe you will nyd a good friend and a relative, unless you are fortunate enough to locate a grocery store where pecans are sold shelled and ready for baking. I couidnlt find one so I had to put my friends to work. armed with small hammers. While they are shelling the nuts you may prepare the cup of chop- ped dates the reci e calls for. Sift together it cups siftei flour. 1 teaspoon double-acting making powder. in teaspoon soda. 1-) teaspoon salt. Combine -72 cup shortening. 1 cup sugar. Cream well. Blend in 2 eggs. Add 2 tablespoons milk and 1 teaspoon vanilla. Blend in sifted dry in- gradients. riiix well. Add 1 cull pecans. 1 cup chopped dates. 1X3 cup clionpwi mares- chino cherries, mix well. Shape into balls using a level table- spoon of dough for each cooky. Crush 2'-J; vups Corn Flakes. Roll each half of dough in corn flakes. Place on greased baking sheet Top each cooky with H of maras- chino cherry. Bake in moderate 1375 degrees F.) l0 to l'.' oven minutes. Do not stack or store until cold. This makes about six dozen cookies. They 100k "19? and taste Just as good as the! look. I O 0 Remember if you have any baking hints. ideas. household time-savers which 3'0” Wiluld llk" to share with others. please let us know about them.--E.M.D- (copyright Serial No. 91258, Ottawa, 195i.) ELLEN s nunv . ,i By An .niuui Farmer's Wife Two nice lads are these helper-5 of ours - brothers - a V831” be- ween and not much difference in isize. Babies it seems to us orillf the other day. but now into their teens. Slight but well proportioned. brown-eyed, fairish fellows, the younger it appears more serious than his brother, but both happy and alert .. . "Great fellows" James said this evening. talking over the events of our day. What 3. time he would have with these, were they our.-i He would be all for clearing another piece of land. or buying more acres to settle them on farms of their own. He would be already planning to give them "that heifer" and "3 young sow - of our own breed", should they be interested in farming. He would be regarding the ways of the weather on the pond mornings of these years when they should be kept to school to comment wist- fully. "Don't you think. Ellen, it would be better for them to stay home today than to be caught out in rain? You know it's not good for children to sit all day with clamp shoulders!" And giving in not altogether gracefully. we should catch sight of the three presently caught up to a man in some pro- loci. of farming and all as happy as granddaughters cat and her kit- lens when they lie in the sun. 0 O I ' Today at Alderlea was different . .. "Did you ever dream, Ellen. when I used to call to take you out buuy- riding in the long ago that you would one day find yourself in a nice scene like this?" James untied It us this evening looking up from the cow he was milking at the moment. We drew Gage, who had tried his best to keep awaits to see the last of things, but had given up at length to the whiles of the sandman, closer to 18, and slipped the other arm about Jamie. then the current man-of. the-place. Rob was away today. in his absence. Karolyn and the boys had been our guests. and only recently Juries hsd motored the flmily home to a lonely house. Barely in time to collect "the low- ing herd" in the afterglow. to the milking. Lonely it was when go some but not quiet. Pervsded y the usual sounds of a farmstead which at morning or evening still awaits the charms. Familiar these are to farm folks. insistent and sometimes Ictullly pleading: can at the bars lowing, begging to in relieved of their milk; calves pleading for their fare. I O I We had gathered the hard. then fell to milking, leaving as Widqw's Dilemma Choice Of Beaux Complicate: This Young Moi'lier's Life DEAR MISS DIX: I find myself in s most unhappy situation and I am asking you for counsel. I am a yoilng widow with a child. and I have managed to make myself fairly secure in the business world. I had been keeping company with a man who has also been fairly successful financially. We both appreciate the nicer things in life, such as entertainment, clothes. hobbies, etc. Our families are not the type that would get along together and we are of different religious beliefs. My friend does not dislike my child. but has never shown signs of affection towards her. He assures me that the differences in religion and family background are of no consequence in our case and that he loves me for myself alone. I be- lieved I loved him. but hesitated over marriage. afraid it might not. be a success We quarrelcd over my indecision and parted. Since then. I have met another man who has asked me to marry him. He is charming to my .. . , baby. our families get along well together and he is more settled in his ways. I think he would be a fine foster fatli or to my child. In the past two months I have occasionally met my former boy friend and he has called me. asking me to forget oui' quar- rel and go back together again. I believe I still love him, but am assailed with doubts as to whether or not I should accept the man who likes my child and seems a better matrimonial prospect, or go back to the one I love. ,w-: L. P. .ANSWER: .With so many doubts in the atmosphere, I don”t think either suitor is the man for you. I could certainly never ad- vise you, or anyone else. to marry a man you don't love-which would seem to eliminate suitor No. 2. CONSIDER YOISR CHILD And for any young mother with a child to contemplate marriage to a man who is not whole-heartedly fond of her baby is to lay the groundwork for a miserable future. This point alone would make me very wary of suitor No. 1, and in conjunction with all the other vital matters on which you don't agree makes him indeed a poor prospect as a husband for you. At this point. either marriage would be dis- astrous, and you'd be better off continuing as you are. making your own way, supporting your child and being answerable to no one. Your love for the first young man doesn't. seem too strong; per- haps if you stopped seeing him and had him discontinue his phone calls. you might develop a stronger attachment to your second beau. Don't rush into either marriage and perhaps time will resolve the question for you. DEAR DOROT Y DIX: What can a wife do with it husband who swears and t rows things and breaks up the furniture if any- thing goes wrong in the home or he has had is bad day at the factory? For twelve years I have been trying to solve the riddle I am mar- ried lo and find out what makes him act the way he does; whether he doesn't like me. or doesn't like marriage. or what's the matter. When we are at home alone at night he never speaks to me. When his friends come to dinner he spends the evening making fun of me. deriding my figure. my walk and how much money I spend. It is hard to keep the tears back and put on a front. and I feel I can- not do it much longer. I would rather go and make my own living than to stand what I do. ANNE ANSWER: Many husbands use their wives as escape valves for all the bottled-up temper and nerves and irritability that they dart: not show the outside world. Many a man takes his revenge at the way the world treats him by mistreating his wife, and many a man inflates his own ego by deriding and ridiculing his wife before people and showing how superior he is to her. So because your husband treats you the way he does is no sign that he regrets being married to you or wants to get rid of you. Probably, on the contrary. he finds you necessary to his comfort and happiness. because you not only make him a comfortable home. but you afford him an outlet for his spleen. But perhaps your husband would find more interest in a wife who would fight back instead of taking his iii treatment. You might try it and see. DEAR MISS DIX: I have known this boy for four years and in that time he has shown signs of being in love with me. However. I do not return that love. At present he is in the service and on his last leave we had a misunderstanding. I am wondering whether I should write first or wait for him to take the first step. CHARLOTTE ANSWER: Since you say he has shown "signs of being in love". you do have some doubt about it. If his feeling for you is friendly. it would be a nice gesture on your part to write a note and try to clear up the misunderstanding. Let it be clear. though, that you want to be friends with him and nothing else. If. however. you reiillv feel that he is in love with you. it would he kinder to let the matter drop, rather than incite hope that you may return his love. DOROTHY DIX cumot reply pt: fly to readers, but will uns- wer problems of general Interest through her column. Jame.s' share the more fidgcty oft. them. And w. two milk-stools” together. our shoulder made a pil- yl "s;sA.x. . Modern Etiquette l low for the small sturdy lad. who. after an extremely busy and g isfylng day. had gone dreamland with a smile and word on his lips. The milk from ' 15 R proper to me the Me gltlfealriili tg0lii'Ia:1;:5P9geg1ou'?ed 5te;:l1m:1htppe to acknowledge receipt of a Karolyn and Jamie now arranged. A. This is not Considend good the c3”lP"”'5 l" 3" ”rd"1Y '9" form. The receipt of a gift by mail and awaltedpthe signal from James BN3” cans for 3 personanyg wntg 1” "plug l". '-he 59p”3W'- Th9 ten note of appreciation. Spotty-dog sat in an expectant Q. when leaving 3 person to aultude 1” the 3'0”? 0' "me '0 whom you have just been introduc- sniff at the sleeping boy or Jamie ed, and mag person wysg --I am as though after his long (Ely alone giad to have met, 3.0"," what By Robert: Let! .....i sat- i away into a he could not believe th y were should youf response be? here in the flesh. The w ite cat. A, "Thank you" is sumdent left her kittens and in the glow of or. if you can say so sincerely. the lights blinked up from her you may reply, "Thang you, )1 hope place at the cat-pan. licking her I shall see you again soon." lips in anticipation. "Did you. El- en?" James repeated. "Did you?" :- Kai-olyn chuckled turning the ” question out of our sphere. ' ' Until tomorrow- - Diary - g Mornlng Smile Good-night. . . . Honest ' The Stars Say - - The Latin teacher was in fine humour after lunch and instead of setting right down to Latin. he IIampbe1l- Walsh Wedding Mr. and Mrs. John Campbell photographed during their wedding giclalzllgunit K191-lgocgl Beach Hotel following their recent marriage at W” nwmmnlus. '25 lica. From left to right. Mr. Louis Campbell who an MA 1 M . e groom and his bride the former Gladys Walsh. MI 8' g r o r. and Mrs. John Walsh, Charlottetown. the bridesmaid as bllcen Walsh. The groom is the son of Mr. and Mr; '1' Annm- Campbell, Charlottetown. ., G.,...,',,.,,;, mm... mm A country iiariien Mrs. Gordon lllscMilian 'protection and some have lived in this garden for several years with care, They reward the gardener with lovely fragrant flowers for months and even after frost many trees. The Sweetbriar Rose is now lleauilfully fragrant with its small single pink flowers covering every branch of the graceful arching sprays. Eglantine is the name given this rose many years ago and it was described in this way .. .. The leaves constitute the value of this plant; for they are ,.ossessed of so grateful an odour. as to claim admittance for this sort into the first class of aromatic plants: the odoriferous particles they emit are sweet and inoffensive; and they bestow them in such profusion, es- pecially in evenings or after a show- er, as to perfume the clrcumam- bient air to a considerable dist- ance. For this reason, plenty of Sweetbriers should be planted near much-frequented walks; or if the borders of these are designed for Who'knows the power of good .more elegant flowering shrubs or Metgihilzih one small rose imparts? iplants. they may be stationed at, 3 n s.vie should not striveldistsnce. out of view. and then appraisals to compose. they will secretly liberally bestow For God alone can probe the'their sweets to the refreshment of depths of value in the rose. all. The Eglantine to me, when I - H. F. Grelnernpassed through the "Sweet Gar- ,den" as it is called. just after a. soft. Roses are now blooming in the summer shower had the sweetest rose-garden and the season has scent of them all. been good for rosesnsevcral new Many years ago the sweegb;-tar roses were planted this spring and i was planted in this garden and it Hybrid Teas and the Polyanthus ' is one of the cherished roses along are all we have hoped for. These lwith the messed crimson and frag- roses require a winter covering of rant white. Rugosa Roses are ex- carth hilled up around them for ltremely hardy and will grow with little care; they attain a height of HOW may a man compute the value of the rose? From out. the distant past E through present times. it goes ver to greater heights of beau- teous destinies, - Adorahiy serene counted litanies Of dew and wind, of sun nnd cloud. till its repose. secured by faith; aim fragments close Of fragrance it has shared. God loves it. it must be, For sharing His great gift so 1 W911. and cheerfully. T55 by this simple grace the rose has gained that touch which bends the will of man to love. and love it much; And. if it but inspires some love in human hearts. through un- folding U -rho cola on-iii . casionslly in order to prevent theirl 5 . squeaking and rusting. roses are gathered from the rose-. 4 r so Houseliold Scrapbookl l How Can I ! i ! 3. Roberts on 3 :9 Anne A-may .N:.9.' - ....N:.-xx Q. How can I eliminsfe the squeaks from my porch swing? , The cold drink should not be, A- Try wrspplniz the hooks. psweetened too much. The purpogg where the chains come into con- of the drink is to quench the tact with them. with pieces of thirst. and u very sweet drink will thin 1e-ther. pix-kin. or other only induce thirst. suitable material that will not wear through readily Q. How can I remove a bulge from the bottom of an aluminum 1! you have cgsgmmi; ..- dam pan which has been heated excess- in your home, oil the hinges oc-l Weir? A. To strengthen this out. heat the pan slowly and when hot. pound the bottom lightly with ., hammer. Q. How can I soften shoes that become stiff from being wet? First wash the slices in warm water; then rub them well with Casement Windows four or five feet and bloom until frost. They are suitable as speci-, m" mens or planted as a hedge. '1'ho' A' Grootendorst in red and pink have been grown here for many years. c”l'”" ML ,The bloom is like 8. lovely coma-i Ktion but without fragrance and It I like fragrant flowers. Red roses srol -I””t”V'” V? I the sweetest in fragrance, and this! . , l Vtiue otlldhnosep scent that has Better English lg c arme uman ty from tim im-' ; memorial, is assuredly the most ex-I BY 9- 0- Wlllllml Jiuisite and refreshing of all florsli NM” odours - pure. transparent. in-, -"00-N comparable. The perfume of the. 1. what, is wrong with this ggsfetrignatlsg ll::e',:.'Il;lc'yl3K "ind sentence? "We left as soon as we rose may h Id lthz 3" '3? 9d were through with our work, but man 95 " 9' 59”" 1” the foreman obyet-led to us leav- "ElllleIl'w":l'l:'ll evllile leg:-.'e gard n mg: l ' Q3 2. What is the correct pronunc- , glhen the first sunshine sparkles in iagion 0; -;c.,io,1c''-,i , e delll End em” with l-h"lklUl5 3. Which one of these words is happiness one of the lovelies: misspelled? Persplration. perspic- Wen" 01 emit What A diversity. Liity. porogative. pertinence. and yet what a harmony of colour. 4, vnmi; does the word I There are White Roses. Striped nine" mean? Roses, Pink Roses. Rose Roses. Car- 5, wimp is a word beginning moine Roses, Crimson Roses. Scar-hi-ith '03 that means "playful mu. let Roses. Roses almost Black. and - lery; banter"? Roses of a glowing Gold. What A diversity. and yet what a. harmony of outlincl Dwarf Roses and Climb- ing Roses. Roses closely carpeting 1. the ground. Roses that droop in snowy foam like fountains. and "aqu- AN SIVERS Say. "We left as soon as We had finished our work. but tlit roses that stretch out their gorimtm toblectedl mllobllr lealllmtlllin ccen econ s a e, no branches upwards I! though they first. 3. Iirerogatile. 4. Hookede; would kilssthe sugl; roses in clus- ' prominent like the beak of an eagle. ers an roses oom rig singly:'aoplied especially to the . Roses in bud. in their glory. decline "Many great men of history 2:: i:nd5fall.LAndlyet allbthese glowing had aquiline noses." 5. Badinage. in no ony com ne. but en-i hance each the other's beauty. All these variations of individual form Cu; slmlxiledmlen-lofll lukg and general outline blend with al :33,” eboeflf ylkhuclngure wk mutual grace. And over all this.;';ac;' Etna El" oconmfnl ed la perfect unity, what a fragrancel. M..- min hf... Add p0wdQ..8ed'l1l;ul.: "eshnessv Wmyv 5B1e"d0lll".': ' 1 pectin and stir until mixture comes ” "" EEI 335' to a iuil hard boil. At once stir in sugar. Bring to a full rolling boil then boil hard 1 minute. stirring constantly. Remove from heat. -vw and skim. Add green colouring to give desired shade. Pour quickly into glasses. Melt new wax and pour over jelly: cover. Makes about 6 six-ounce glasses. makes hospitalitu east; Cook's Corner h MINT JELLY 2'; cups 11'. lbs.) prepared Juice 3!: cups ii!-I lbs.) sugar. 1 box powdered fruit pectin. 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In Tomorrow AN obstacle, 3 letting down. I postponement or a temporary atagnstion. could prove I factor for averting sinister entangle- ments. crafty alliances or bslcful involvements. sordid and sinister commitments engineered from high plsceii might be delayed by this "breathing spell" while wily de- signs. spend themselves or die of inanition. A turn of the wheel could sidestep disaster. re: the Birthday Those whose birthday it in may find themselves in 1 position where they gain and find security by static. frustrated or delayed conditions. Escape fi-air the men- ace of involvement. with the sin- ister. although lnfluentls. sources could afford.-time for matters to incubate or ripen, while the crafty find defeat. Time could spell vio- tory in the long run. A child born on this day might. prone by its innate hndoncy to postpone. put of! or defer vital decisions, turning disaster into dlsclplim ' decided to tell the class a couple of jokes he'd heard the night before. 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