race ElGl-l’l‘_ Dorothy Dix Letter Box How to Acquire Tact - Does a Woman Grow l\lore Foolish the Older She Becomes? Dear Dorothy Dix-I am a young man aged 23, single. lug for the other fellow. B0111 lflllllliei of any kind. comes my way. very much to marry her. my position? UN DECIDED- Answer: that \\'ilS worth her taking and until I could offer lie: a decent living. 1g 1 loved n girl I would think too much of her to be Wllllllg for her to inzi:r_v a shiftless" itifcr-tlu-ivcll who cuuldnt kccp her in bread and butler and shoes. so bagiti by putting the marriage proposition out of your head until pa, lptt») i'ill'li\‘(l the right to miii"i"y'. Let this girl be your goal. and tho any you luisale to get her will be the measure oi your desire for her. Tl en. if I were you. I would sit doim and have a heait-to-heart session with myself. in which I would take stock of my abilities and try ti- decide on the thing that I had the most aptitude for doing. Next I would go to work and learn how to be an expert in that line. The day has gone by, if there ever was such a time, for the jack of all trades, In t. i. day (it ilrrce competition you must know how to do some one par- i ‘tr ti _ and do it better than the other fellow, if you hope to suc- r. ‘ll. l having ciccldcd on my trade or profession, I would stick iii it. The men who are always changing about from one occupatlsn to an- other ziccomplish nothing and get nowhere. There is more to learn about (‘1l!'].'\‘lllf‘l'illg or the green grocery trade or law or medicine than any llllillilll Irving can ever master in a lifetime, evcn if he devotes his en- tire time to the study of that one su bjcct. So if you perpetually shift f: sin one job to anothcr you neve: acquire the skill or knowledge that is worth paying for in anything. Nor do the uicn succeed who are always moving from place to place and who think they have riches waiting for them in some distant place. Opportunity knocks on just as many doors in Squedunk as it does in New’ York or London or Paris ,and just as many men make a fortune at home as do abroad. I wouldn't waste five minutes looking for an easy job, because there are no casj: jobs that have a blue-ribbon tag on them. Every man who succeeds buys success with sweat and, labor, with self-denial, with weari- ncss, with die grim courage that made him hang on through anxiety and despair that atc out his very soul. Every dollar of every fortune is wet with hie blood of the man that earned it. Noi- m. id I throxv up a job because I got tired of it and it ceased to iiitcie. t me and I thought I would like something else better. There is iii wii a in the world oi which you will not weary at times. Anything by v. eh you earn your living and which you do over and over again every (l4) gets to bu a tieaiily" grind. - isn't a worker who doesn't often have to force himself to his l; L ii he has the will power to do it the reaction comes and he t " of the t'l‘1\llSlllll.ll and goes on to success, while the quit- ' ' into the discard. n13" boy. your late is in your‘ own hands. You can go to work ‘of yUlXISUlf what you will. Five years from now you can be 1i.i;ip_v, prosperous and self-icspectliig. 0r you can go on as you now are and be nothing-a failure, a loafer, drifting about from ill-paid job to ill-paid job. The (lccision is tip to you. DOROTHY DIX. U t >3 I l O I U " - Dix-J am writing for information regarding being dip- lomatic and tactful. Is it a gift or can it be cultivated? I am told ‘that I lack tact and I \\'(."ll(l like to correct my fault if I can. RUTH. Answer: _ 11m; i: i‘ 1y the golden rule put into execution. as We would like to have them treat us. It is treating others Of foursc. in its highest expression, tact is a gift of the gods. Some ire born with it. They have a sixth sense that makes them zltiiclg: how to keep oil the grass of our tender feelings. They p l-IUW iii‘. What is Carnation Milk? Simply pure, wholesome, whole milk, evaporated to double crcaminess, sterilized for safekeep- ing and conveniently packaged. You'll find it absolutely dependable and wonderfully econ- omical. Carnation Milk is safe- E. .it‘less Iouth Who Wants to GetlMarrieda I have never imounted to anything in life. Have tried business for myself. Also work- I have no trade or profession Would like to do something worth- while, but I haven't any patience unless everything I am in love with a sweet girl and would like What would you do in Well, to begin with, I should have too much pride and manhood about me to ask any girl to tnoirv me until I had made something of myself SO 'TlS SAID ' I d .* iifiaiifi, i"? General-Look here, my man, why don't you be careful? Army Clerk-what is wrong sir? General-Why, instead of ad- dressing this letter to the “Intelli- gence Offlcer," you have addressed it to the "Intelligent Officer." You should know there is no such per- son in the army.—Stratford Bea con-Herald. never bring up unpleasant subjects. They never offer gratuitous critic- isms. They never say the tinintentlonal unkind things that cut you like a knife. They never get into arguments. They bide their time and wait for the psychological moment to come when you will be in a mood to listen to their advice and suggiwtlons and will take them instead of being offended by them. They are always welcomed everywhere for their presence is as soothing as oil upon the troubled waters of daily life. 0n the other hand, the tactlcss person is always like a bull in a china shop. He smashes things right and left. He oiIcnds without intend- ing it. He hurts where he means to be kind and he stirs up strife wher- ever lie goes. The tactless woman can never resist talking about dishoncstyto a. woman whose son has defaulted or telling stories of faitliless men to a sviie, whose husband is a philanderer. She tells the mother of a delicate only child that it looks tubercular and jokes with the woman of 35 about becoming an old maid. She asks the fat woman if she hasn't put on ten pounds and tells the shallow woman how unbecoming her new green hat is to her. She can't even give you a })l‘€SC‘lll. without making it an insult and she asks her husband for money before dinner. She may be the best and kindest of women. but she is a human steamroller that flattens out everybody in her pathway and she is feared and avoided accordingly. Oi course, the best brand of tact is that which comes by nature, but anybody can acquire it. One has only to say to ones self, "Would I like seine one to do or say that to me?" ‘Would I like some one to tell me {hat my new frock is too young for me or that I am not rearing my children right or that they have heard the story I am telling before?" And if the nays have it, then suppress your candid opinion and keep silence. ' And, on the other hand, if there are certain things that you would like to have said to you, then they are the things to say to other persons. i DOROTHY DIX. O I l I O I O l Dear Miss Dix-I ant a girl of 18 and I am going to be married. They tell me that I am too young to many; that I dont know my own mind. I resent this, for in affairs of the heart there is no woman who knows her own mind, regardless of age. No woman knows but that to- morrow her heart may set her mind in an entirely cllllcrcnt angle from what it is today. In fact, I think that the older a woman gets the more foolish she becomes. I would like to know ivhzil l have to say along these lilies? CECIL G. T. Answer: _ Perhaps there arc girls of 18 who have reached their full maturity who know all that they areever going to know and whose ideals and tastes wlll never change. I hope you are not one of them. Cecil, be-l cause to have reached the limit of your development at 18 would put you in the class of high-grade morons. I trust that you are going on growing mentally, changing your view- point, getting a broader outlook, so that in five or ten years from now you will lok back on what you were at l8 with as much amusement as you do now at what you were a 8. And then you wlll wonder that you could have been so interested in playing dolls. . And you arc mistaken, Cecil. in thinking that the older a woman gets the more foolish she gets. Just living is an education in itself. DOROTHY DIX. “These CLARIVS PORK and BEANS make a mighty‘ fin e meal, Doll.” “Yen, and it’: no bother to Dre are them- y in I jiffy." ll? "lo Clflvli Klfdiom help yo» '01 cvlcliu one bonu mule A Canadian Hm: Elinbillhor i877 ;of guarded at the source by strictest cleanliness in the care and milking of the cows. And this pro- tection continues until it reaches you in hermetic- ally sealed containers. Write for Cook Book and Baby Book CARNATION CO., LIMITED Aylmer, Ont. Milk from Canadian cowl, "um: in cni-a- iii Canadian um and can. :jk\ \l ' cl-KS PQRK and BEANS With lomaio, Chill OI Piam Sauce i0 aaiassirsst" "How did you come to raid that barber's shop?" the dry agent was asked. "Well." he replied, “it struck me kind of funny that such a lot of fel- lows should buy hair restore: from a. bald-headed barber." THE CHARLOTTETOWN GUARDIAN WWoman’s Realm -:-' Social and Personal ‘-:-,' Fashions dlsluiour Grocer / Prospectus: | eluded that." What the Fashiontibles are Wearing" Illustrated Dressmaking Lesson Furnished With Every Pattern By Annabelle Worthington Patron: ‘May I have some sta- ionery?" l-lotel Clerk (haughtily): ou a guest of the house?" Patron: “J-Ieck, no. I am paying wcnty dollars a day." Pompous: “You have asked for .iy daughters hand in marriage! lhat. may I ask, are your financial respects?’ Prospectus: “We have an Income about $11,000 a yearl" "i Pompous: "Well, that's not bad. With my daughter's allowance if $l0.000'annually, you ought to able to get along!" _'_li “Are "Yes, sir, I-I—in- For The Cook ; mm‘ route l Two cups sugar. 1 quart water, 1 cup orange Juice, 1% cups boiling ‘ water, juice of 8 lemons, 1 pint lgrape juice, I cup strawberry Juice, mint leaves, about I dozen. Chop l mint. and pour the boiling water ' over it. Boil sugar and quart of water 15 minutes. Let tlia mint stand in water 5 minutes, then strain, and add to syrup. Add frult juices and onill. Pour into punch bowl. add grape Juice, and dilute with iced water. Serve with a few mint leaves in each glass. Etiquette . ' AVQGUST s, 1931 —¢_ —_-_§ 7'9 teiré ti: d “ Lunch- a m 0 s t i m . portant meal or salesmen” “When you’re on the go all day long, the food you eat for lunch must be chosen with care. Don't eatheavy foods that make you-warm and slow you down in mid-afternoon. Eat nourishing foods-of course-but don't over- load. I usually order Shredded Wheat with berries or other fresh fruits for lunch. There are enough combinations with Shredded Wheat to . k give you variety. Try it. By Roberta In Q. As a rule,_do women shake ands when being introduced? A. It is a growing custom among JSlIIOSS women. Q. Is it proper to cut lettuce with .ie knife? A. No; lettuce should be cut with Ill‘ fork. i woman’s arm when walking to- ylher? i A. No; the only thing he should do lsto offer her his arm. I Q. Is it proper for a man to hold j _ for lunch today." u THE CANADI - - mtiiaaitrasém Made in Canada < . with Canadian Wheat s A dainty ruflle softens the cape of this charmingly cool chiffon print. And Paris has so many relightful ways of using peplums. Don't you think this one attractive? It opens in such a smart manner at the front snasnusn AWITH ALL THE BRAN OF. THE WHOLE WHEAT WHEAT beneath which the hips are smooth- ly fitted. The skirt favors moderate circular fulness so comfortable for afternoons and informal evening summertime galtlea. Style No. 3189 is designed for sizes 14. 16, 18, 20 years 38, 38, and 40 inches bust. The 16-year size rc- qulres 3% yards of 39-inch material. Moussellne de sole in dusty pink. pale aqua-blue flat washable crepe silk and yellow eyelet batlste are only a. few of many smart suitable combinations. ‘ Be sure to fill in the size of’ the pattern. Send stamps or cola (coin preferred.) Price of pattern 15 cents. No. 318B. Size ..---uu-u-u-nu- Name -----.i..--..... . . . . . . - “nun-u. Street Address “u..."mutual-wet".........-. City State l gloves are the accessories for the teaparty. For dinner the jacket may be removed without fear of appearing a bit too "dressy" f0!‘ a rather informal affair. final transformation. The scarf is untied, thrown back from the shoulders and circles the waist as a. soft crush belt with B bOW Bl one side. Paris Styles _ By MARY KNIGHT United Press Stall’ Correspondent PARIS August 5.—(U. P.)—A basket-weave spring coat in one of the lighter shades of green blue or brown has its attractiveness increased with the addition of a lei collar of soft fur that Schle- parelll slips over the head Just as an Hawaiian would its counter- part of flowers. The fur is twisted once or twice to give the nec- essary “different" turn. More and more are couturlers making things practical for the society woman whose time always is so limited. This yeti!‘ they have made for her a teagown a dinner dress and a full fledged evening model - all in one. A large triangular scarf attaches itself by the point to the center of the low back decolletage, comes up over the shoulders and loops in a soft bow in front. Over this a jacket ls worn with long sleeves and of a wrap-around variety at the waist. The skirt of the dress is about to the ankle, the new length decreed for dancing. A small lace and straw hat and Then for the formal dancing comes the .9] "P at all good flora: 80 T111.» A Little Matter Of Elevator Etiquette i i I l/ll/l/l/l/l/l/l/l/l = {(\l\/\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\ Uta: myinuuulmg. slenderly fitting _ delicately shaded knitted to wear well ask lo nee our pflplllll‘ {L09 _|lll° in chiffon, semi service and service weights ITIERCIJRY HDSIGRY m I ll s o ulrlAnll [gel I av BRIGGS SO! 7001M: oFFYoim NAT Fox A Lmil! ' Buncil or Fum- Bin Mia’. PoP-Ygus WIFE iTiatt you lTo6l<iT OFF 0M8: i wAS H01’ -—~ fr» é /.