Amanda Doi "Escape. The palm trees, with their lush and glossy leaves, will bend to your will. The ocean, with its clear water and calming waves, will undu- late at your request. The fragrant air will continuously fill your lungs with the sweet smell of flowers and coconut. You will forever be at peace. This is life living to its fullest. Let the essence of the tropics tanta- lize and elevate your senses. Tropical Breeze Aromatherapy© dish soap is cleaning like you've never experienced before." At least this is what they promised me. My name is Sharon, and I am a forty-five year old house- wife. I have an insensitive husband and two beautiful, ungrateful chil- - dren, but that information is of small consequence to the story of my life, at least after today. Today I bought dish soap that promises me a tropical breeze life: This is no small feat for Individuality Lost a dish soap to accomplish. It is a good thing that not many people buy this brand of soap (it's 93¢ more than the regular, non-aromatherapeu- tic kind), otherwise there would be a massive epidemic of frustration amongst the masses. Centuries of human quests for inner peace would have been embarrassed by this sim- ple, new product. This quick fix that they told us did not exist. Well, here I have it in my hand. This is the key to my salvation. I begin to fill the sink with the aqueous catalyst for my journey toward nirvana. I searched the house for every hidden cup and plate that may have been forgotten or hidden due to the massive self-indulgence that my family gorges themselves in. I knew where all of the plates were, of course. Two months ago, I decid- ed to conduct an experiment. I left - the dishes that resided within the crevices and nooks of our furniture, closets and window sills. I said noth- RE a et 22 HRAVEL CUTS Sie Ue Ree eet sy to beat any available internet airfares for travel within Canada! 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And sometimes it scares me that my resentment has compounded to this level. However, the pain of liv- ing your life completely for others, and knowing that they live none of their life for you, should be under- stood. I am past the half way point of my life. The better half. The part where I am able to be crazy and spontaneous, and go to a tropical island with my friends, or, dare I say, a lover. I have nothing to show for my years of toil and labour, nothing for myself, at least. Instead I have my missed life bottled and packaged in this convenient squeezable, plastic container. Ahh, my quick fix, my drug. You offer me an escape. You are the key to my salvation. If you do not work, there is nothing left for me. The sink is half full. At other points in my life, I tried to free myself from the monot- onous chains that bind me. I joined church groups, women's groups, exercise groups, book groups, spiri- tuality groups, cooking groups, UPEI Cadre December 2 2003 page 14 sewing groups, and charity groups. But within each of these groups, I failed, yet again, to establish myself beyond a generalization. I was a Christian, a feminist, a jogger, a reader, a troubled soul, a cook, a sewer, and a pro-lifer. I was not Sharon. I wanted to be separate from a group. I longed to be left on a deserted, tropical island. It would be then that I could breathe and not fear suffocation or categorization by oth- ers. The sink is almost full. I cannot bring myself to work. When I was in high school, I was one of the smartest in my class. I graduated in 1986, and planned to attend Queen's University. The sum- mer before I was to leave, I made a mistake, literally. Nine months later, Susan was born. My new husband had a well paying job as a plumber. He said that there was no reason for me to put myself under the stress of simultaneously obtaining a degree and taking care of a child. After a few years and another pregnancy, | gave up the dream of secondary edu- cation. I settled for this life. The sink is full. I can't bring myself to remove the plastic seal that winds itself around the neck of my liquid salvation. I cannot take the chance. The soap bubbles may annihilate the protective bubble I have fashioned for myself. I need the prediction that is killing me. I can't risk the failure of my sudsy Valium soap. I have had problems in the past with my immu- nity to outside forces for happiness. But it may work. I'll keep that in mind. For right now, I'll put it in this cupboard. I am sure that J will use it someday soon when I feel particular- ly in need of perfect tranquility. There is some happiness in that. There is water everywhere.