I omens realml PAGE TWO mm Body of Y.-.u..;g , I: Jung W. larfon. nu). g k Ngi t'4D.u-VJ-!i'..s.Id.3Id'zI-IIV OVEIUOPTUUSM AND OVERPESSIMISM Most of usuwould sooner be con- sidered optimists than pesslmi.sts.- and alothough we dislike the? idea of being called "Poliyanna.",' nevertheless it is the Pollyanna It type, the overoptimist, who can best survive extremely trying situ- ations. "People who exhibit constant overoptimism or overpessimlsm are considered borderline cases be- ' tween normalcy and pathological (diseased) conditions. They are grouped under the hypomaniac- slight mania or madness - or the chronic depressive." the hypo- nianiac is usually the "life of the p:rty." he constantly busies him- self with making social arrange- ments, writes to newspapers and 4 to congressmen. sells tickets to I all kinds of enterprise, always feels on top of the wzrld. He us- ually is a considerable strain on his environment but he has many friend.- I am quoting Dr. Alexandra Ad- psychiatrist and Assistant I .cal Professor at New York University. in an address beforel the Cooper Union. New Ycrk City.ft As it matter of fact. we are all optimists or pessimists at times.f Thus. as Chesterton said, "an at- tack of indigestion. a sleeplessi night and a rainy morning can make 3 coward out of one who. would otherwise have been a ' hero." l Many otherwise well-adjusted 1 people may say, before they have. had their first cup of coffee lni the morning, that they do not; care whether they live or die. Also: there may be a great monotony in one's daily tasks about which one cannot be ex- . pocted to be always cheerful. . Parents who become discourag- ed with the behaviour of their child at times should remember: the other times when they are' gladdened in spirit by the thought-0 fulness and unsolfishness of thisl same child. Just as adults have their moods, so also do children:; teachers know this and parental should know it also. In speaking of the overoptimist, Dr. Adler states that "in extreme- ly trying situations, on which the human being with all his limita- tions is unable to predict the out- TAIIES A CHANGE WINS BACK HEALTH Mrs. C. Wal- lacesko, Let h- .b r i d g e. Alia, says: "I took a chance and tried another remedy for r e l i e f of stomach upsets and sore back. . This time I took a " Sarnak. After 'n" '”'m”3530 only two bottles. my backache was relieved and I no longer-am troubled with stomach apsc-ts." If you suffer from rheumatic. neuritic. or arthritic pain. sciatica or backache or from some stomach. kidney or liver disorders. nutritional anemia and nervousness. try Sar- nak for one week, prove that Sarnak can help you. M35 at all drug. sixes. deal of: THE GUARDIAN, MARCH 19, I951 Cook's Corner m:w5 JAM JAMS EX;!'2 . Two eggs. 1&5 cups brown sugar. 185 cups shortenina. 1 heaping teaspoon cream tartar, ,1 level teaspoon soda mixed with 1 cup molasses, flour enough to mix stiff. Roll thin and cut with cookie cutter. when baked spread one side with jam filling and lay two cookies together, making. one. Bake in slow oven. - nmmw- How ,Can I ! ! l -( By Anne Ashley 4-.:6)3.61t).4ac;-.x 2-sx.;:C2oY.9.9v.N.!-.1-Nstx-s , Q. How can I take care of ivory knife handles? A. Do not put the ivory knife handles into hot water, as this turns them yellow. Wash with warm. soapy water, and wipe quickly. Once a month rub them with flannel moistened with de- natured alcohol and dipped in powdered whiting that has been sifted through cheesecloth. Q How can I make a novelty candlestick salad? g A. Use a thick slice of pineapple for the base. place half a banana upright for the candle. and top his with a maraschino cherry. Serve with French dressing. . How can I treat enlarged pores around the chin and nose . One remedy that is said to be good is bathing with a little lukewarm water and borax. vs-V vvvwwvs vs. .. - i'r?.'v?(7xx9o.x9x9cNnN.s(.x'xwxyZ-;1Rr?I-t g 4 M . . g ornmg Smile nvw; -:e':d.-.,v-I '1"-?:'R'7X3x).me o The Remedy :- "Oh. doctor," cried the wild-eyed man. "I'm dreadfully afflicted. The ghosts of my departed relatives come and perch on the tops of the fence-posts all round my garden when dusk is falling. I can look out into the gleaming any evening and see a couple of dozen spooks sitting on top of the posts, waiting. waiting. waiting. waiting! What can I do?" ”sharpen the tops of the posts," advised the doctor. come. overoptimlsm is the most suitable reaction to survival." This was true in the horrible exper- iences at concentration camps. Only those prisoners survived who all through the years were con- vinced that the day of liberation would come some time. However. While the above is true, the brain and emotions con- trol our actions, there are times when the body - sluggish liver and gall bladder. constipation, overeating. lack of exercise -- con- trols the brain andimotions, mak- ing us "quitters" for the time be- ing. Better English By I. 0. Williams ..m'ob6D(4DCVaV.V4hGV3('(;YN..V.V. QEQX, ', I. What is wrong with this sen- tence? "He sure feels badly about the matter." 2. .What is the correct pronunc- iation of "chartreuse"? 3. Which one of these words is misspelled? Aibominate, abdomenal, abstemious. abstruseness. .F l 4 What does the word "forti- C R ESCE NT CARNIVAL FRANCES PARKISON KIYIS (Continued) The delay put him back rui-um than he expected. It was still light 9110381: when he reached the en- trance gates of Splendidn, for him 50 Cit”-h Sight of something which made his hands turn cold. There was a row of little stakes driven into the Kroun-d. -no I: either end of them I pile of underbrush that had been cut away. The house seemed to be desert- ed as he entered. When he reach. ed the rear of the long hall, he heard 3 strange sound coming from Drew's bedroom. Breck op- ened the door abruptly and 5:;-one into the room. Nana was on her knees in front of the. dresser. emptying its con. tents into a large open suitcase, Drew was screaming at her and striking at her. . "1 WWW let you yd Mother take -me away. I'm going to stay here with Daddy!" fw-hat is the meaning of all this?" Breck asked sternly. "Mother's upstairs, packing. She -53:” I've got to go with her. And she told Rufus he had to go. so he's run away and hidden. You're not 80mg to let Mother take me away. are you. Daddy?” "Certainly not. Nana. stop pack- ing iihose clothes-Be qulei,Drew. '&I;l)iere's something I want you to "Go straight over to Mr. Yales' house and stay there until I come .for you. Tell Mr. Yates I said you wercnlt to leave there on an-y ac- count, with anybody. You don't need to be frightened any more. Go along, Drew." "Ilm going, Daddy." When Breck reached the door of Annals room. he did not neglect to knock on it. It was on-ly when he received no answer. that he turned the handle and walked in. speaking to her maid before he spoke to her. "You may leave the room. Me- .hita.bol." he said coldly. When she .had gone he asked Anna the same question he had asked Drew. "What is the meaning of all this?" "You know as well as I do that there isn't a woman in the world who would stay with her husband, if she had any pride. after he de- ceived her the way you've deceiv- ed me." "I'm afraid I don't follow you,? Anna." "You don't follow me? You didn't see any stakes driven into the ground. in a long line, as you came in, I suppose. You know -what those stakes and those blazes mean, dont you?" ”I'm afraid they mean that my efforts to prevent the removal of -the levee haven't been successful. Continued on page 11 tude" mean? 5. What is a word beginning with of that means "to rub out"? ANSWERS 1. Say. "He certainly feels bad about the matter." 2. Pronounce shar-truz. I. as in ah. u as in fur, accent second syllable. 3. Aubdom. inal. 4. Patient and constant courage in meeting danger or ad- versity. 'In adversity and diffi- culties. it is always well to arm yourself with firmness and forti- tude." 5. Effaca srop wusezmo SLEEP couronrsasv D9 You sit up night after ni he 5 hting ggglirthaitglrlgecause ofaethma? smog.-ton'I ml. r' 4 Wl,” Rive You comforting '9 ""7 quickly-lets you breathe. frccly-sleep rcstfullyt One one box of TEmDleton's RAZ-MAI-I will convince you- happiness for us, feel that I could ANSWER: children. s.- .. own your case is different. able, and helpless enough to want a 4 stepmother there are the that is why he feels so badly about if he can get all hot and bothered DEAR DOROTHY DIX: like him? it takes more optimism than most noaotx A s- : ANSWER: Your husband must be the great orlginal.t.ouble-h Siepchildrehn Women With Maternal Instincts. Can Raise Them Successfully DEAR MISS DIX: I am I. widow, 34 years old. financially inde- pendent, with a good job and no children. I am settled in my ways. good-natured and very fond of children. An old friend of school days, I widower of 38. has asked me to marry him. He has I nice home and I. good business in I small town. and twoichildren. land 0 years old. We hrs just as romantically in love with each other as if we were boy and girl, but if we marry do you think there will be any chance of or would his children forever attend in our way? I very easily fit into their lives. but my friends tell me that I would be making the mis- take of my life to give up I good job to be a step- mother. What do you say? HELEN. ! think. on the contrary, that you would be throwing away I great chance for happi- ness by refusing to marry this man and mother his Certainly it is I fine tuning for I woman to have a job and be self-supporting as you are. but . z. ' it is I better thing for her to have I home of her and a man and children to love and care for and make comfort- able, instead of just working for herself. TEEN-AGERS DIFFICULT I grant you that the problem of being a stepmother is one to make even the boldest stop and think. and in a case where the children are in the early teens, when all youngsters are hard to manage. I should "1; gold ""1 can), for ug to gee think that none but the foolhardy would tackle the undertakln-g.' But Here the children are young enough to be pli- mother to love them and pet them and guide them, and it will be easy for you to win their little hearts and calling the world to rise, to and take a real mottheris place in their lives. We hear a lot about cruel stepmothers. but where there is one mean of good stepmothers. unselfish women who are real mothers to motiberless little children. who work and sac- rifice for them and whose stepchildren rise up and call them blessed. As for these two children coming between you and your husband and making trouble, that is in your hands. If you are jealous of them and neglectful of them, and if 'you make their little lives unhappy. you will alienate your husband from you if he has any decency in him. But if you are good and kind to the children and are a. real mother to them. you will draw him closer to you by every tie of appreciation and grat- itude and admiration. The women who adapt children love them as their own. I have never been able to see why a stepmother should not be able to feel the s's-me way about her stepchildren. DEAR DOROTHY DIX: When I was 15 years old I used to go with some boys and girls. Like all the other youngsters, we did I little kiss- ing and necking. Nothing more. and the kisses were really children's kisses that meant nothing. My husband knew all about this at the time of our marriage, but he seems to have gone crazily jealous over it. He keeps bringing it up; reproaching me with it and telling me that he can never be happy with me on account of it. I know he loves me and '10” u um, run, on gum; would this. BROKEN-I-IEARTED BRIDE. and pea-green with jealousy over your having kissed a boy when you were 15. It sounds is if he were very young and very silly and had no knowledge of modern society. But you are dealing with the problem from the wrong an-gle. You are taking your husband seriously and believing all he says. Laugh at him. Ridicule hi-m. Make him see what a fool he is manloin-g of himself by making a mountain out of I. moleh-ill. And dig up his past and find some girl that he has kissed and throw her in his face. I have been married twenty-five years and have worked the entire time. My husband has never had I regular income. He has been one of those who is always about to make 3 mil- lion and never makes the rent money. Now I have reached the point where I am tired and discouraged and hopeless. I have kept up the spirit of the family until I am now too weary to care much. but my husband.insists that I do not give him enough encouragement. you think I have done my share? And what can be done with a man Don't WEARY. ANSWER: It seems to me that I woman who has supported her husband for twenty-five years has about done her part. and should not be expected to keep his ego infla-ted in addition. A common alibi for failure among husbands is that their wives do not believe in them, but woman possess to have faith in I man who never makes good in anything. Modern Etiquette Brloborhlae .vN,uv- Q. When a hostess sends a man and his wife an invitation to din- ' ner, and the invitation is not ack- Inowled-gerl. what should she do? - A. It might be best for her to ltelephone this couple and elk " the invitation was received. as it vileged never to repeat any such invitation to these ill-mannered people. Q Is it proper to use the com- ma following the salutation in an informal letter? A. No: the corrum. is out of use now. The proper punctuation fol- lowing the salutation in all letters is the colon, Is. "Dear John:" Q. How many ushers should one have It s church wedding? A. There is no set and definite number. It is up to you. the num- ber 'of guest; expected, and the "mall's aunt Illllslnlurarmqrawhe "I'm this old" James commented, using I favorite expression as be moved I. suspender into place at I window in the room above the kitchen: "yes. I'm this old. and never before have I seen the ice out of the pond so early. T-hero's none left, Ellen! Of course I never saw so little on it Is there was. If folks wanted to harvest any. well, there WII never any depth to it. My. the depths I've seen- and cut there some wintons..li-eat ealkes of it-and now". he said it 1 bit wistfully. "we haven't even an ice-house. How the times change! And what. queer winter weather we've been getting these years! I never saw one so mild-or so free of snow...The wind'I got some north in it today. Ellen. and the ground in frozen. We should have been up earlier. I reckon. we'll never get I better morning than this to haul home the threshing gear. Donlt be too long getting down, like a good soul, Ellen." And he was oiif eagerly then to meet whatever his new day might bring. . O 0 It was flooding in. through the dark lace of the branches of the birch. suffuslng the sliver of dawn before our eyes come again to the duties that were theirs. . An empty nest, not It all desolate now but symbolic of the joy and laughter and love of In waves of l msiouvs. ll's Mild! any PALMOLIVI-It's Mild! Miler leowlfvl rulings... gm Smurf Young women : Dy llobcrtalao El-louseliold Scrapbook A Tight R-lnl To remove a tight ring. take I. yard of cotton cord, soak in sow- yudg, glycerim. or oil. and Wind snugly around the finger 0'0!" near the fingertip to the knuckle joint. Then pass the end of the the spring season makes I. dark bewltching spot in the upper boughs. Not only a. fresh day was homing. but another week. We lay I minute longer in pleasant. contemplation. What was it bring- ing to us? what in thu Ind suc- ceeding days, commencing too with dawn and new-lit fires and a kettle set to heat, we should live, if s-pared. one by one? only oom- monplace happenings? Items so or- dinary one might dlsmlss them with only I passing glance. On the contrary. lovely things written in amber and rose and silver letters for us - bewitching scenes that as be recorded again and again for those who enjoy them, nor in the repetition lose one whit of the charm. O O I We should hear chlldren's' laughter tinkllng happily in some carefree amusement of the mom- ent - granddaughter fascinated in the sight of I pair of kittens at play amid the golden branches of 9. willow. Or Jamie, schoolbag on shoulder, black and white dog scouting Ilong ahead. stopping to laugh merrily at the spitting Ind be-vined telephone pole by the lane-side. Laughing, but as in terror the kit-cats mounted higher his looic change to one of concern. Then there was I hurried confer- ence among the three children. their eyes on the besieged Ini- mals. But when presently the cause was removed to the kitchen - with some spirited tugging, their world became serene and lovely again. Pictures like these then. we should see in the new week ahead - and spread tables and firellght. Baked loaves and I line of wash- -a wind swaying lightly the tops of the spruces in the orchard cattle to the stream - I ewe and her twins in the barnyard A dog It the gateway - sunset light- ing his candle in L mill-gable a farmer feeding his flock - I team at the hauling. O 0 0 And the thruhing gear was hauled from storage It the other farm to this. On the magic car- scurrylng of the same eats up a n string under the ring. and pulling the string tight. unwind it The lightly wound string will lessen the blood pressure near the ring. and hue by little the string presses the flesh and Pull! 01'! 1110 Yin!- Whltor Clothes Try slicing I lemon with the rind into the boiler of clothes. It will make the clothe; beautifully white and remove stains from pocket handkerchiefs. underwear and table linens. Mullet Floor -311. -dark spot! on floors caused by moving beds and heavy furni- ture about the room can be re- moved wlth a soapy 010”! MP9” in kerosene. that old fallacies take I long time to die! But there James is "dead tired" ind "” threshing due in the morning! Until tomorrow -- - Diary r- Good-nisht. . .' very evident ---tr---. The Stars Say - - 3 I: Genevieve llunbia g (gs. For Tomorrow TI-IE slderesl operations an strong and stimulating to the en. orgies and drive to initiative and aggressive attack on unusually promising plans, projects and oh. jectives at the same time an un. familiar development or situation may challenge to I rather erratic "jumping It conclusions" or ei- forta to make unusual explorations, in which originality or inventive genius could prove disastrous. Thu urge to put over eccentric or re. volutlonary ideas should 1). curbed. If It In Your Birthlihy Those whose birthday it is, may find themselves strongly launched in I lively, constructive and am. bitious program. strenuous and progressive. Under I well organ- ized plan. strenuously and astutely put-over and developed. much is to be gained by sound, enthusiastic and workable tactics and tech- niques. However. such prospects may be entirely blighted and nul- lined by Iome wild,erratic and im- pulsive acts or untenable ideas. Cleave to prudent, rational nnd pr " cl action and programs. A child born on this day, bril- liantly endowed with abilities. qualities and talents for I pro- 'gressive career. yet may ruin it: prospects by erratic or impulsive emotions or notions beyond rea- Evar since their Doctor started than on Aylmor Baby Foods. these famous is possible that the invitation may have gone astray. If. however. it was received. the hostess is Dri- size of the church. lilllllis it's Spring and I-Iolmsn's brings you the flower-bright, the boxed, the belted. the beautiful Ole Fashion-gloriousTOPPERS, SHORTIE " Velour: "' Twill: " Wliipeord "' KIIIII ?SIIedu 4? .....'... - cesium. bh& O I '0' c 25.00 in this presentation. For here are the Toppers Ind ' shoi-ties the Fashion Magazines ,., And now HolmIn'I hagstyies. 5 I lfislwslzes-12 to 20;. if e f i S everyone Wants you who Idord spring and long for Summer will . .binoyIterwhlte,nIvyofeo1trspg,.::. pet of the two smallish busy trucks. acknowledged by this to pay their way in the farming. And James made us nails inward- ly when he came in with an old quads-born Oct. 13. 1949 in Sault Ste. Marie, Ont.-have grown into lovely healthy babies. Aylmor Baby Foods are of the highut quality-mild and delicious in lavor-and are atrdncd and incidental" query. originating we believe sway back when our world was new. and school-teach- on were supposed to acquit them- selves more creditsbly with pencil paper than It the mixing- "Be lure you have enough bread. Ellen. . and we must try to have the meals on time!" It is extra line for any digestion. Itart in life-with Aylmer. Be sure your Baby gets the but M YOUR BABY DESERE AYlMER QUALITY i.....mos............,-........ ix BE BEAUTIFUL THIS SPRING, ' WITH BELCANO Skin Care I Woihsvo arranged fora nmnnnn moron onowru. Itepnesenhtlvo or BELCANO COSM ETICS to in our Cosmetic Department for eolslllteflonf r I wtfAl!0l!15thto?4th;inoluIIve. ( , reiopaou NOW for Iatosxo X .... A Iltcsuo MASK - ssnn ns . . " A sum-Hm - cocoonu-3 .r-on arm will it titers