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DORUHIY DIX

Wants Definition Of Love

DEAR. M135 Dlx: In all yes of marriage-10 to be QXIC'r- I has yet to find out what is love. My home is complete in every re- gpect; it's a pleasant place. well mmuhed, with happy children and a wonderful husband. Nevertheless. I still do not know what love is. Is it a word. a figment of the imagination. or something real

Mary C. LOVE HA8 VARIOUS ASPECTS

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ANSWER: You are the person best qualified to define love for your own satisfaction. Surely you haven't maintained a happy home for 10 years without love; it do- minates every day of your lives together. so you must understand at least some of the facets it has for you and yours. Since love means different things to different peo- ple, the definition that might suit you wouldn't quite fit somebody else. It has many aspects. and each has many expressions. Love of God. of country, parents, child- ren, spouse. sweetheart, friends, all contribute to the overall well- being of each of us. To some. love is best shown by service; to others. it means to be served. It can be selfish or selfless. possessive or re- linquishing. Probably more words have been written on this sub- ject than on any other. There are

i . books and poems without number

to help you find the definition you

. seek. if you saw the television pro-

' . grams of Bishop Fulton .1. Sheen

last season, or will view them dur- ing the coming year, you will hear the most beautiful commentaries on love that have ever been spoken or written, not the sentimental or romantic types of love. but the in- finite love of God for humanity. This is the love that is breathed into happy homes.

if you want a definition of love on the romantic scale, I'd like to quote you one of my favorites. "Love is not a simple emotion, but a complex thing. It is compounded of three elements, the physical, the mental and the spiritual. Any two of them, or perhaps any one, may produce an emotion which we loosely call Love. But only when all three are involved is Love really complete."

Certainly love is reali The world would be in a sorry state if it were not. A word, a figment of the imagination could never make the sacrifices that people who love each other perform willingly. Won't you try again to see where love fits into your home, and, having made the discovery. hold onto it?

DEAR. MISS DIX: For the past few months I've been friendly with a boy, 22-four years older than I am. He's a wonde ful person,

Smooth bls'ck wool and white jersey are combined in this dress .but has a facial twitch that both- and stole twosome giving it an elegant look. The simple sheath line of the dress is buttoned from neckline to hemllne with the last top his engagament had been broken,

button left purposely undone.

the belt anchoring the stole firmly to the waist.

For shopping or

ers me. Just before I met him,

The huge white stole is built out fromidue, he claims. to a difference in

.religion. However, I am wondering

huslnr.-as the stale can he replaced with an accompanying (back) self- if this twitch may have had some-

f.-ihric hell; (f'I' Photo).

Better English

By D. C. Williams

1. What is wrong with this sen- tence? "He was obligated to remain overnight because of the bad wea- ther."

2. What is the correct pronunci- ation of "annihilate"?

3. Which one of these words is misspelled? Froiicing. frolicsome. frontispiece. frivolity.

4. What does the word "recur" mean?

5. What is a word beginning with wi that, means "self-determin- ed; intentional"?

ANSWERS

i. say, "He was obliged to re- main." 2. Pronounce ti-ni-i-lat. first a unstressed, first i as in night, sec- ond i as in it, second a as in late, accent second syllable. 3. Frolicklng. 4. To come up again for consider-

How Can I?

By Anne Ashley

Q. How can I prevent sticking.

the finger when sewing?

A. Bind a small piece of adhes- ive tape on the finger to.pi-event it from being pricked by the needle when sewing or embroidering.

Q. How should books be packed when storing them away?

A. Cut off the corners of stiff envelopes and place them on the corners or the books. It will pre- vent. damage to the books.

Q. How can I make a clothes haniper?

A. By covering I barrel with crrtoniie. The inside of the barrel can be emmeled.

ahtion. "Salad argument is cer- tain to recur again and again." 5. Willful

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Household Scrapbook

By Roberta Leo

Mntli Preventive

Hang a couple of small bags of gum oamphor inside the piano near the felt. but not touching the re- sounding keys. and this will die- courage moths from feasting on the felts.

Baby's Nails

To avoid trouble and scciknts when cleaning baby's nails. try tak- ing a piece of paper, fold it several times into a square and use the stiff

corner. Ulunlng Paint

Mix I paste of,ooi'nmnn whiting and warm water. Rub briskly with a piece of fllnnel. Then wash in cold water.

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iihinclo do with it. and if I should (ask, his ex-fiancee why she really called it quits.

Lenore A.

ANSWER: I advise against mak- ing any contact with the former ifiancee. What her reasons for break- ing the engagement were should have no direct bearing on your actions. If the man has a nervous condition that annoys you. your attitude won't change because you do or do not find it shared by another person. Sinpe you live in a small town, your own doctor could probably throw some light ion the case. Be frank with him. ,tell him you are interested in this 'i3articuliir man and ask what. in his experience generally. causes the difficulty and ask what are the chances for improvement or cure,

DEAR. MISS DIX: I recently Went to a party with Ken: in was our first date, though we had been quite friendly in school and in itroups. However, we had an argu- ment at the party, and he left after a very nasty display of tem- per, 1 really like him very much and would like to get him back.

Hazel

, ANSWER: Since Ken took you to the party, it was his duty to take 'you home. His actions were boorlsh, inconsiderate and ungentlemaniy ,Hc owes you a. humble apology. and there's nothing you can do until lyou get it.

Modern Etiquette By Roberta bu

Q. Iii it good manners to place nne's hand on it person's shoulder or arm while talking with him?

A. This is a popular habit of some people, and can be very an- noying. It should be avoided. Of course, in a matter of condolence, it is often done, even to the hold- ing of a person's hand while talk- ing - and in this case it is quite all right. i

Q. Should a bride-elect mail wedding invitations to friends of the bridegroom who are unknown to her?

A. Certainly. she and her fiance should get together on the guest

Page 10 The Guardian

OMEN

'Frlday. July 9. 1954

(This article Is anchor is signed to offer ” pared by the Department

Fear Can

Many parents criticise a child constantly. They feel that unless they do this he won't have the urge to improve and won't grow up properly. Criticism is a form of punishment. It can make your child feel afraid and insecure. Don't withhold your praise and ad- miration because you thlnk your child will become. conceited. He should know that his parents are always ready to appreciate and en- joy him. He will come along faster if you tell him now and then what a wonderful child he is.

A child who cringes as a result of harsh or frequent punishment has been made emotionally sick. His days and nights are full of fears. He may start lying and de- ceiving just to protect himself a- gainst pain and humiliation. No thoughtful parent will use such punishment.

Fears show up in many ways. some are easily seen. Others are hard to detect. But fears will al- ways show up somehow! Your child may be afraid of the dark. even afraid in the daytime to be alone in some part of the house. He may have nightmares, start wetting the bed. suck his thumb. bite his nails or have a twitching in his face. He may be cruel to his pets. or not play well with other children.

ACHILD TRAINING

a series ea child training do- d All ”' " are pre-

ln .- . of National Health and Welfare).

Harm Your Child ran it ,

A child who is Jestlesa. irritable. who easily "files off the handle," is often called nervou's. The most frequent cause is fear.

Your .child's fears and worries may seem silly to you but they're very real to him. And the most harmful. common fear is that you will cease loving and caring for him! Your child can only feel safe in a strange, changing world if he always feels sure that despite his mistakes you will continue to love him. Then he'll feel sure you're always ready to help. Such a feel- ing of security makes him more self-reliant and eager to do better. It's natural for your child to yell his head off in revolt at times This is healthy but it takes plenty of patience from the parent! You should not fight back the way children do. When you get angry it makes your child afraid.

To teach a child that he is bad if he doesn't always behave and talk nicely is to give him a burden of guilt that is far too heavy-and undeserved. For if he tries to bat- tle up all the mean words and feelings,r and never blows off steam. he is wounding his per- sonality. It he feels he's being a bad child because he has such thoughts and desires. he will be- come frightened.

(Next week's article will discuss Lying and Stealing.)

Contract Bridge By Josephine C " ' "PREFERENCE!"

One of the chicet" of all bidding pl. blems is this: when should you give partner I imm- cries for his first-bid suit. and when should you accept his sec- ond suit?

The following deal caused quite a discussion in a New York bridge club.

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South dealer. Both sides vulnerablt 9

AJ 4 QKD13 5873 QQ65 A06! A73 985 N vAc2J QQ95 W E 1043 skis S on 42 AKIOD AAKIOS5 Q6 QAKJ104 Q73 Thebiddlng: south West Nortl East 1; Pass INT 2' :9 Pan BA Pass 4 A Dble. (final bid) South went down 500 at four

spades doubled, whereas (as he asgued in the postmortem) he would have bought the contract at three diamonds undoubled and. going down only one. would have shown no loss because of his honors.

Though expert opinion was divid- ed, it certainly seems to this ob- server that South should have been permitted to play a three- dlamond contract-at least inso- far as North was concerned. To begin with, North's response to the spade opening was optimistic in itself - a pass would not have been too cowardly. Next, when East bid hearts, the greatest part of North's slim values. the heart king ,becalr.: a highly question- able asset. and at this stage North might well have looked upon his holding as a "washout".

So. despite the strength of South's tvhreo-diamond bid, North knew (or should have known) that there was no future in the hand. (After all. Bouth had not opened with a two-bid.)

That being so. why give South the chance to hang himself? From

lNorth's point of view any undou-

bled contract was all right: there- fore simple logic demanded that three diamonds be passed. at least until it was doubled.

Perhaps South should have pass- ed to three spades. but he should not have been exposed to tempta- tion. '

list before ordered.

0. When should s person place this napkin across his lap, after

the invitations are

being seated at the table? A. That should be his first act after seating himself.

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By James W. Barton. M. D.

EMPLOYMENT you nuiniirica

It seems difficult to realise that just thirty years ago. out of every thousand persons who had diabetes. 755 died of it within a fairly short time. Nowadays, thanks to insulin and other methods of treatment. no person with diabetes mellitus is considered lost, even very advanced cases. Everyone can be saved and his condition controlled.

How is he as'an employment risk? The American Diabetes Association.

done great work for the diabetic. has emphasized its philosophy that the diabetic, because of his ability to perform a. full day's work satis- lactorily despite this disease. should not be classed with the physically handicapped. This organization with liaison with the C. I. 0., the A. F. L. and Railroad Brotherhoods. among others. has drawn up mme recommendations for both labor and management regarding the em- ployment of the diabetic.

Mildly diabetic persons. in no need of insulin, present no prob- lem. Of persons with severe dia- betes. needing both insulin and diet control we will find two types: (l)the well-controlled, cooperative person. and (2) the uncoopuative and poorly-controlled one. The lat- ter, if hired, are liable to prejudice employers against all diabetics, for they are not only poor work risks because of their diabetes but are likely to be iibsentees because of complications from their disease.

Some of the standards suggested are these: 1. A diabetic seeking employ-

ment should present lt note from his physician stating that he is con- trolled and undergoes periodic ex- aminations.

2. Diabetics should work straight shifts (unbroken and nonrotsting). If a rotating shift is absolutely necessary, they should avoid the mid-night to eight in the morning schedule. This is the only conces- sion in terms of hours that a well- controlled diabetic should ask.

3. Diabetics should carry cards or tags identifying their condition.

4. if the worker's schedule is such that he cannot visit his regular lab- oratory regularly, the plant physic- ian. in cooperation with the dia- betlc's family physician. should per- form periodic -blood and urine ex- aminations. '

ii.l'.ach diabetic should have a complete annual examination.

6. Those taking insulin in large doses, where there is the possibility of coma (unconsciousness) occur- ring, should not be placed in Oll- tions where these attacks might en- danger themselves or others.

If these employment standards and personal directors. the diabetic are put into real use by employers applicant should be considered just as eligible for work as' those with- out diabatea. His effective cont: -

demonstrated.

a voluntary organization which has

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1,4 teaspoon vanilla

ti cup cream (whipped)

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screamed into the 'Ph0n9- "3 dmY the lawyer, "and tell me what's the girl's husband has made 3

terrible mistake. screamed the man. "He's named me as co-respondent

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two, a hy little-girl's smile play-

ing winsomely along her cheelm. . . .

It was Mack, youngest of the four, who bore us away to look in upon the downy nestlings of goldfinohes at home in the heart of a blossoming rosebush-in a cradle artistically wovmi softly lined ahd quite full. "We must:n't make any noise!" he whispered, standing on tipioe to view them.

"June" lilies are in bloom there. and peonies like great over-blown roses. And below the front mea- dow, iihe pond rested. and the mill, gray-gabled. And the hills of

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Our study at Aideelea. is closed though our desk and chair andmomeutoaalssd - souvenirs of other years about. await it would seem patiently our return. we came there this eventing to visit briefly after a lengthy in- this one of our favorite nooks of that house. We took from ashel!abook...toi'epl.aceit; visited with a. collection of pie- desk-lamp. And then, at a window looked out at the bit of lonely old orchard and beyond to the fields which stretch back now so green and promising

"Well, what do you think of it?" Granddaughter who had entered the room softly, smiled. her voice hollow in the quiet surroundings.