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{he Later Marriage Usually Proves More Suc- _f eessful Than the Early Marriage, Because

the More Mature a Man and Woman Are, the More Experience and Judg- ment They Are Apt to Have

The Rockefeller Institute has been having the Holy Estate scientifically nvestigated and it finds out that marriages made late in life prove much iappier than early marriages. Also that in cases of unequal marriages, I r when one membe of the domestic partnership is more intelligent and better educated than the other, the superior one is nearly always dissatisfied and unhappy,

while the inferior one is content.

_ All of which goes to prove that human nature ls human nature, and that marriage does not alter it, which very obvious fact the great majority of people do not “take into consideration when they take unto themselves husbands and wives.

Somehow they seem to cherish the superstitious

belief that there is some conjure inthe marriage cere-

~ mony that will endow them with all the virtues they

lo not possess. and that will change those whom they are espousing from

what they are into what they should be. Also they are firmly convinced that

the law of cause and cfiect does not work out to its logical conclusion on the hither side of the altar.

It has always seemed to me the most tragic and bitterly" ironic thing in the world that we not only permit, we actually encourage boys and girls to wreck their lives by making early marriages, just because the poets and the novelists have sold us the idea that there is something particularly romantic and beautiful in love‘s young dream.

At an age when _a lad is so immature oi’ Judgment that we would not trust him to pick out an automobile by himself, we permit him to select a wife. At a time of life when a girl changes her mind as often as she does her lrock, and when she is crazy about a thing one day and iothes it the next, we let her make a life contract. We permit youngsters who have no idea what they are going to be themselves; or what their tastes, or desires, or nerds arc coini: in be when they are grown up, to bind themselves to OlllEl‘ fi|’l‘.lll2~li‘l'i~ whose characters arc gust as undeveloped and as probicniatical a: H1021‘ own.

And we justify ourselves in this by taking a lot of drivel about the ad- apirlbilzty of youth and boy hmbands and girl wives growing up together and drvrluniliu along lhe same llnffh and being drawn closer together by ihcnl- early strut-gins. and so on. All oi which is ultcr rot. Honey. Youth isnt adaptable. It is hard and uncompromising and arrogant and selfish. It takes age and experience to teach us how to get along with people, how to sidestep their angles instead of bumping into them, how to be just enough to see anothers point of view and wise and generous enough to give in, even when we are right, for the sake of peace and harmony. (

That. is why young husbands and wives fight like cats and dogs, and why older married people, who have acquired tact and discretion and self- tcntrol, live peaceably together.

As for youthful husbands and wives growing up together and develop- ing along the same lines, that is sheer luck when it happens, and it doesnt happen once in a blue honeymoon. Almost invariably one of the couple autgrows the other. One stays put, the other goes forward. One stays put where he or she was the year he or she was married, a perpetual adolescent who in time loses the charm of youth and becomes dull and boring.

The other broadens, grows, learns, becomes as different from the boy or rlrl he or she was at marriage as a babe is from a. mature man or woman.

The irail of the neglected wife is that she is not to blame, she ls just what she was when her husband married her. And ‘that's the trouble. She is the same, but he is as different from What he was at 20 or 21 as ll he were mother man.

Furthermore, early marriages go on the rocks because the boy hus- Jands and the girl wives have not had their playtime. They are not ready to settle down. In the phrase of the clay they "want to go places and see things and do things." Their feet ache to dance. They long to be in crowds. The desire of their hearts is for pretty clothes and sports cars and ball games, and to make whoopee generally.

Under the influence of a temporary romantic spell they think that they are willing to give all this up for the sake of being married, but once the {act is accomplished and life settle down to the jog trot of domesticity and their wedding finery wears out and they get shabby and it is walking babies with the colic instead of going to a night club, then they call marriage a. failure and only too often throw up their hands and quit.

As a matter of fact, marriage is like every other venture in life. The nore intelligent you are, the mort experience you have, the sounder judg- ment you bring to bear upon it, the more likely you are to make a success if it. So it is no wonder that the men and women who marry later in life ire happier than the boys and girls who take a shot at it. Marriage is the serious vocation of adults, not the pastime of children.

DOROTHY DIX.

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Woman's Realm -.- Social and Personal ~A Personal Interview‘ With

DOROTHY DIX

Dorothy Dix was standing on the urvper gallery of her lovely stonel house that faces Aildnbon Park in‘ New Orleans get-ling an utter, stranger who had sought the inter-' '.'Il‘\\'.

“Tlsni life that Waiters! ‘Tisl the courage you bring in it." 'l"his opening lino of Walpolcs Fortitude might have

ear. For the flame of courage flash- orl lrnm the eyes of this grey-haired woman. small of statue.

taken her single-handed to her suc- eess and courage she has given as sustnance to thousands who have come to her ‘for help. .

Scme 35,000,700 people the Englis

speaking world over know Dorothy Dix. She talks to them every day, counselling, guiding whomsoever she can in a common parlance they all can understand. Thirty years, with- out missing 5, day. she has done this until her daily newspaper feature hold the record for unbroken service. For this she receives the highest

writer—a salary greater than that of the president of the United States. Yet comparatively few know of the woman herself. Who is she? What does she look like? Where does she live‘? How does she know the heart of the world, and why is it given to her to be able to assuage its perplexitles and heal its wounds with the balm of understanding and sympathy and courage blended with the rare and precious emollient of common sense?

There is no secret to the answer to any oi those questions. Dorothy’ Dix has never evaded the public eye, but she has developed no start- ling eccentriciiies, mlistrd no fan- flare of triumpcts. She has lived most of her life in New Orleans‘ where she started "on her great ad- venture asemissary plenlpotentlary to the troubled heart, and in New York where she wrote her lachl-y- mose ncws stories as the original "Sob Slsicr." She has looked into the secret places of the human heart through the countless letters that have floivcd across her dcsk-detiers

a great and kindly arbiter. She has taken time to travel to the odd plac- ai of the globe since the yearshave brought their compensation.

Yes, this Dorothy Dix might well be called the universal phlianthopic psychiatrist as she stands alone as 0M lo whom the world may appeal to analyze its mental pain-nor race, not creedfnor color, nor fee, need bar one from her diagnosis. Small wonder then that she is of lute-rat to this news reading world no mat- ter what angle her story is present- ed.

Born Elizabeth Meriwether in Woodstock. Tennessee, as she would tell you, she "learned to read, grad- uated from the academy in a love of an organdie dress, tucked up my heir and got married" all in less than

ility. As Mrs. Gilmer, and barely out of her teens. she faced the necessity of making her own living and caring for others. ‘ " '

Fate, with the usual twist brought her an illness that took her to the Gulf Coast u, recuperate and landed her in the news of the New Orleans Times Picayune on the princely salary of $5.00 a week. From then on the smudge of the printer's ink was on her hands. Body and soul she went at her job to which she carried a keen mind. an interest in people, an inquisltivsneu of life

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She had faced responsibility and dtsillusionment at less than twenty- five. The some indomitable . BlYlTlZ carried her into this untried news- papering and kept her at the daily round of city street and court room. Then she ivas told to write a daily gnhimn 1m» women readers. Conrail eoigslv she decided Y0 tell wmnen

bout themselves. She did it and headed her column DOROTHY DIX

unprecedented treatment.

Five or six year later William Randolph Hearst came to know of the work oi’ Dorothy Dix on The Picayune and sent for her to come to New York and work on The Jour- nal, which she did for twenty years. There she continued her daily Doro- thy Dix Talks. 1n addition she did all sorts of human interest stories, covered all the important murder trials from 1901 to 1920 or thera- alcouts, and would literally "drip out" her sob stories to the world.

“The problems of the working wo- men of New York fascinated me. I rode miles each day in trolly ear, elevated and subway, side by side with them," says Mrs Gilmer. "They would bury their head in the latest newspaper and snatch eagerly the only moment out of their hectic day to read. And they were young-piti- fully young. And what they read was all important for they looked to the written word for guidance." There girls hurl lost confidence in the judg- mcnt of 1110i)‘ mothers as to present day living. Those mothers had, many of them, lately come from foreign countries and overwhelmed with pov- erty and child-bearing knew nothing ibcyond the horimn of their tene» mtnt. The newspaper was the med- ium through which these girls might learn of the outside world, the world beyond the food-necking stench of hall hr-rirmm and tortuous mile; of store alslrs. What they rcad was de- cidedly important.

So Dorothy Dix talked to them with her printers ink. She reasoned viith them on the fundamentals of ‘life and loving and in their own up- io-the-mlnute slang. She foresaw their needs and desires and with her calm but spicy wisdom she gave them sound advice they would never have heeded had it been gin-bed in other

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words.’ Then letters began to pour linto her mail box. Men and women, boyaand girls brought their prob- lems to her. Sometimes it was a domineering parent, a wayward girl, ta philandering husband or a nagging wife who caused the trouble. Dorothy Dix 1mmiered over their case and .gave sincere and practical advice.

ha", m-em 51mm jtlivhai, in lhnt day and lllili‘. YEW "Y! The newspapers clamored for her sounkicd so clearly in the stranger's lhem hflrl ever heard. the truth R-ilarticles and the mailbox bulged un-

Qiil she had i0 give up her other work fand set herself down to the business

gentle of TALKS. The ivvmm 8851194 buiitof answering these letters. A great face and soft oi voice, Courage hasffiimd lhcmsflvés felrP-‘Illed by bllls; syndicate took over the task oi send-

ling out her articles for they go to hundreds of papers in America and to every land and country where an English-printed paper is published. Saskatchewan and Africa. not only read what she has to say but pour a goodly proporatlon of letters into her mailbag asking her advice and re- eeiving a bit of her flame to carry on.

She is perhaps the only woman writer in the country to have a mail pouch of her own for it takes a special one to hold hei- letters. Some of these can be answered from any book of reference when some one asks "the population of the Wind- ward Islands." ‘line people who ap- peal to her for guidance she answers herself from tshe dept of her limit- less experience-anany of them through her daily column and others in personal letters. As she says, "I have been prlviliged to know the human heart. For thirty years I have been shown little bleeding pieces of it every day. I halve seen behind the veil of good and evil." Do you won- der that she knows?

Mrs. Elizabeth Meriweikier Gilmer is a woman of rare charm of manner and culture. She has chosen the language of the masses not from any lack oi knowledge or oonversance ‘with the highest culture of the past and present. Her vocabulary and lstyle were made to fit her need. That long line of working girls, those busy fathers and mothers and their prob- lems stnd clearly in her mind. She must write so they will read.

Mrs. Gilmcrs New Orleans home stands at the intersection of Prytan- ia. street and Audubon Park and is filled with rare treasures which she collected from all parts of the world. "My house might throw an interior decorator into a fit of horror. But |the things aren‘t furniture and rare lpieees of art to be. They are mem- ories." Candlesticks from an old Chinese temple, a Si l bookcase from Scotland, embroidered shoes her great, great grandfather brought from the Thieves‘ Market in Hong Kong, a tiny piano of 100'! bought udor an auctioneers flag in upper New York State, priceless wall hang- ings, Spanish tables, Moorish candle-

aot of rnarquotry and ormulofurni- tum, exquisite as jewelry, from. a little lcdnnithb chop in Bria‘ an but-afewoftlnplaocutowhichsho cnnflrfllmvmlticcarbvtcfmcm- on. Such an my fin-makings. Poor .thin¢I. but mine l. Jumble of por- iodl and ommkicl and noel, but anyone who drqmd in ever u; emu- aliy would know the place for mine and ny: flare liven that scatter brlin Dorothy Dix!"

Nor is this prophet without honor in her mm country and mwng her own kind for New 0:12am knows, loves and delight: to honor Donthy Dix. ‘Tulane Uunivcraity of thetouisiam conferred an her degree of I‘ tors of latter! "In reo- ognition of her exalted character. her eminent attainment in Alta and letters, her constant dentin: to ltruth and welfare ct caddy." Ogle

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icrred an honorary degree on her this May. The city of New Orleans designated a “Dorothy DlX DRY," m June of i928, and the city turned out to do her honor. A silver service. flowers from 500 factory sirls. r0898 named for her were among her Bill's but the greatest was this: Dr. Dixon. president of ‘Newcolmbe College said. “One reason for the phenomenal popularity of Dorothy Dix is that in her solution of problems she always appEfllS to the self-respect of he!‘ questioners, reminding them that within themselves are‘ the only Juda- es from whose decisions there can be no appeal." -

Adulation, honors and Great sums of money which she has the satis- faction of having earned herself have not changfld llle Slmllle ilhlm" of this woman. Her greetlns l5 5m- cerc. the clasps of her little soft hand is firm, the modulation 0f her

your problem is genuine. It docs not matter if she has heard the same story in a thousand variations. She must help you. Like a surswfl Bl"? probes your wounds with skill and understanding so the throbbs will cease and healing will come with proper treatment. e

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Ho Answered that hi; “mm c n to his pN-iblun t,“ mam?“ overlook thg veg-y mum ted. Much later he wmt, well another unbroken‘ bar credit.

In a little South Oar-ohm tam‘ nmo 000k suddenly snghmm can: lllin at her work after- |, m iod of depression. im- mistress ' she hid hid l-miible with her h . bind M01’! lplthli on gig-muting u‘. "will the ladies o1 his color m", tending to the fires oi.’ his hem], ‘M 80 she asked if Gordqm w“ dom.‘ better. "He Ibo’ a Mo, m“, I am lenmt how to make him. r mt m. 110W Wm nishi and read; “u, Mialmrothybixllyltodotohu bands and than I tries it out on Gq.‘ don. I bout got that man when h‘ lfbhfli. Min pflffiiy knqw; haw u handlvem." " '

It is siuwiaii-ig m; should keep I balancedt 3.32:1‘; 0! old human nature after “ch m‘ ups of pervesities and ‘war-m m twists. But Dorothy Dix aces Straight; Bhewfll wllmthateuslsm, m clothes, differences in trmmmm and laced o! ommnunioations h“, 110$ flhlnled humands and wives m4 lovers since the Garden of Eden, gm herself will tell you 1,, h" hm mWfli-y and sorrow and coil. That has not clouded her vial“ The simple expedient m; 1mm!“ lies within the power o1 m who m to her for help-to mg you. ‘m,’ therightrcadumgqgwudm‘ gain no matter how many glam m, flattens you out.

DOW"!!! Db: is about sixty m, hair a white and wavy and her m. is as fine oi’ texture and delicau q “Wm: as a woman of twenty-n“ could wish. Her eyes n, bmmh m, eyes. Well it is the eyes that give u,‘ clearest index to the woman. ma“ is an inquisitive tilt to ' her limit shaped head that tells part u; h; scorn’. But the eyes 100g out on m, with a claarneu, a kindlines, q eagerness to know-and with till flame of high courage.

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eight or nine months a year. The . week-ends she spends at her beauti-l » m1 cowl-w home u PM missile», For 77w Cook Mississippi, where the front verandah

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looks imitately over the blue waters at the Gulf of Mexico. There she plays with two little grand nieces and he; dog, a, wmpanion of years. under the live oak-s. ‘There she train-B her rose vines and in the wood lot she plants her wild flowers and finds the restfulness she needs after "those bits of bleeding flesh!’ "Rim or four months o: every year Dorothy Dix spends in the far corners of the globe. Last year she went deep into the Persian desert and this June she sets sail for the South Sea, Islands. Australia and I-Xong Kona. Dgjottyoglignwglléhigglxcgsarhtge i: The bread must be very fresh, if ii natures in her mall bag would tell a l5 t‘? "J11 51100668111113! and every ves- remarkable awry‘ but a “my that m tige of crust must be trimmed awn! at mm she never betrays a w” so that there is nothing to encourage fidenm A phsycologm m, no“ wrote “bi-coking." Spread with soft butter, m her some yum no to w; he‘. lay a stalk of asparagus on the slice, ‘udgment He was trying w work out season with salt and pepper or pl.- his difficulties with his wife without Pr!“ "<1 "l1 ll "P "l"! 1 "llnlflm" rmrtmg to divorce Md m, m, jelly roll. Secure the rolls with tooth- could give dlsspatlonate and clenr Plckl- Put on a rack or can in i!" sighted advice. She wrote him what 0"" end bake them-or if W" W‘ she though wmud be his be” Mm‘, fer, toast the rolls.