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PAGE TWO TEE GUARDIAN MARCH 25. 195!

s Her Sorry Reward

Rumors Of Husband's Affair Willi Hired Women Are Confirmed

DEAR M158 DIX: I'm 21, married. have four children and up to I year ago was very happy. I've been working to help my husband make a living, and hired a woman, whom I shall call Laure, in care for the youngsters. Although warned that she couldn't be trusted around mm. I refused to believe the rumors Even when it became quite evident to everyone but me that sh was flirting with Martin, I wouldn't let her go. I trusted them both so completebl. I had to believe my own eyes ihowever. when I came lzome unexpectedly e.ir'.y and found them in each other's arms. She left immediately, and since then Martin has been going to see her. He says he loves her, and wants me to divorce him. I still love him. in spite of everything. and I know the children need him. What should I do? Emily R.

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ANSWER: You hate certainly reaped a sorry reward for your trust and confidence, not to mention the sacrifice you've made in leaving four small children so you could work for your husband. Your domestic setup would be better if you let him make the money so you could stay home with your family. I doubt that Laura's influence on them was very good.

Martin is making a great show of bravado with his claim that he viants to leave you ior Laura. Since he couldnlt support one family, how does he expect to make ends meet for two families? Perhaps you've let him off with so little responsibility that he's forgotten what the word implies. Well, wake him up. Make up your mind that from now on you remain home. where you belong, while he earns the living. Remind him that if you divorce him, he'll have to contribute to the children's support. as well as taking on the obligations of a new home. Paint a verbal picture of the life of hard work he'll have to endure, and I think he'll be scared off any threats of leaving home for Laura.

What your family needs is a proper division of chores-father as breaclwlnncr and mother as homemaker. with no outsiders called in for assistance.

DEAR MLSS DIX: I have a lovely home and furniture, which my husband and I worked very hand to get. It so happens that I am the "soft touch" of the neighborhood, getting all the babies to mind. older children to taxi, and all the kids in for refreshments. I've cared for rieigihbors' children as long as two weeks. However, when I ask for something. the answer is garierally "No." The youngsters are care- less about my things when they're in the house-furniture gets scratch- ed. ornaments broken. etc., with no apologies forthcoming from the parents. My husband is getting quite angry about it.

E. T.

ANSWER: You are just about the softest person Ive heard of. lines the neighbors don't mind hurting your feelings by saying "No,'" I don't see why you Oll'l'?. use the same tactiu. stand in front of your mirror and say "No. no, no" for a while until you get the feel of it. Doing favors is wonderful. but not when your kindness is abused and never returned. stiffen up a bit, and stop letting people take advant- age of you.

Miss Nlsaen cannot reply personally to readers but will answer problems of interest through this column.

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STOKE-ON-TRENT. Eng. (CP- Mlra. Catherine Ryder, celebrating her loznd birthday. received many greetings from Canada. she has a son. daughter. 11 grandchildren, 23 great-grandchildren and 12 great- ” greet-grandchildren living there.

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"What! A holiday today!" Jeanie chuckled this morning on the 'phone," then see that you make good use of it-they don't come too often to women on farms."

The boys were already off is their clansel. James to Alderlea for the day and Rob to town.

Their -t would give us, now

that dinner would be a deferred meal. some houn of leisure. What should we do with them-we who find no dread at the thought of

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'5 WP "We being left to oureelf but who have I 385- learned through the yearn to live 1 WP "13"" , "alone." Not that nowadays there 1 WP 1"?” milky is ever the desolation of once, on 1 We '0dF these solitary occasions. The tele- 1 tsp. baking powder. phone can bring us even distant

I squares chocolate or I large the. cocoa. a dial, radio brims the room. yoclkrleun llliuxre and dlclilgl-1' mid i These late winter clays, 4831118 .we n; a van a. ' d' h mute ak- all dry ingredients, add altcrnatelyilisngpeg lfugg. ellvfarlrecl-!rianddi:uIg1hter with m”k- F014 in CH Wh1W5- "'911.in school, Mack is with the farm-

voice: at a fancy; at a twist of

buwnn 1”? - ers about the barns. He is an in- pmn LN”. Munnm dustrlous fellow and give: good "Hung W. I-pprornise of being one day a line

stockman his Grandfather de-

clares, since he already shows much interest in items of choring. He likes to feed and bed and brush the calves; the horses too, lower friendly heads to be pelted by this little lad of the farm. . . .

"'I'herel” we gave is relieved sigh to the white cat yawning on the . much as we put by the handful

Q. Whllt l5 i-119 l'hrUl'"l'v'”'i oi waxed paper with which we had lion It A public dlml" or bllnflum been polishing the stove and thus

A. He 5135 M the Camel 0- We brought an end for a time to the BD93k0"' tRb13- Am” me Wise” housework. 4 he rises. addresses a few pleasaml The day was bright, the surf remarks in the comllli-ll.V El large. '18 mostly-white fields and then introduces the first speak- of the Vane). bug th, wind had; er. when that speaker has flmsh- g Wu), mmsk MM” seemed to ed, the chainnan comments on the, such mdoorsg 1,, made us select speech and then introduces the sticks of hardwood for fuel, both next Speaker. The E11969 01 h0"0Tv for warmth and out of regard for. who is seated at the chairman's Jan)es' words at pan-n18; --Be HEM. 15 me 13-91 L0 Speak careful of the fire, Ellen," he s. d.

Q. In there really -such a i-hills "It's days like this, cold and fair- Il Del-118 "fISh10n3blY 15"?” ly windy that stoveplpes and ....es

A. This (mild b9 F9-Phmsedlseem more likely to catch. Now "fashionably rude." One should al-lm-ma, don-L you so to gieepiu This ways arrive at-the appointed time. from James means literally. "While

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late. ,vlgilant eye about." i Q. In it really considered prop-.' Now what should we do first er to eat the olive 01' cherry In of the number of things we had one": cocktail glass? iplanned to take up on just such 3-7 A. There is nolhinc alall WT0l18.day as this? The new book, the with this. imagazine, the letter we sliouidi read again. the one we should urite? Or should we now turn to an old and entertaining love and do a hit of sewing? Or perhaps, the thought came to mind. since the rule of the ages which demands that femininity maintain its at- tractiveness and which strangely enough has not yet been out-mod- . ed, we should "do" our hair . . . ..:..l'l;t;' :27; -we mew Bhe WIS '3V9n0”5l3' hull”-" .0 wlmilligut use at the rm a dash 3' ,wmt 1' nu" wgrfff pm"of the ultra shampoo mixture that n';n0l;;;1h9" 01 Wlzlllgln 9 - rd . lsaleslady had shamed us may buy- ' 1”" mxlfh" he" Ml S ”'. mg on a lost lovely day of more d , 7 t "'m' empmen carefree years. ”'Vh3i-I '93?” ch d "mu "Soap!" she had exclaimed. "My Ag, ” 9” ”,wm' ' dear, no one, positively no one, "39" "WW7. . ,uses soap anymore on their halri 5- Wm" '5 ll Wmdm be,3l"”"l9i1t will ruin it; the oil sacs at the zzip. or um um - - I

well, what lit won't do to theml Now what, I'd advise you to do" she said ANSWERS taking us in from head to toe, 1. Bay, "The noted authorfiis to take home a bottle of 01-5 feminine, as well as masculine);-the big Jaristhe most economical said she was ravenous." "Raven-i-and you'll just love what it will one" mean eager for food. :l.ldo for you!" Pronorunce kam-pa-ne-le, first a as This we should try today. And

.ci-estion he looked to the Creator:

or never more than ten minutes gel.-e aw;-gy' be sum you keep 3 3'

in camp, second a. unstressed, both e's as in ins, accent third syllable. 8. Emperor. 4. Acuteneas of mind.

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need to read the directions on the

(Accent second syllable). "Robert

showed unusual acumen for a per- various Jain at our command to

son of his age." 5. Mutual. ldetermine which would be quickest

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Until tomorrow - . . . Diary ----Good-niizht.....

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For Tomorrow

STICK to established routines during the early hours. since the aspects do not particularly favor

can I clean kitchen new ventures. If chores seem mo-, towels m0l'I Gfflclcni-IV?

Q. How

noumaug, cry up exercise your; A. Add I. little born in the skills and talents a little better water when washlns kllchentawela. than you have in the past and The dirt and grease will be re-, you should find them easier of moved. the towel: will have A sood'

performance.

The evening hours are excel- lent for activities which promote mental and physical relaxation. You may have an opportunity to help a frelnd or business associ- ate out of a difficult altuatlonv

cultivate new acquaintances. For the Birthday

If tomorrow is your birthday, the month: immediately ahead should no many of your long- chn-ished in-can-is come true especially those whim deal with profedonal advancement and fi- nancial eeein-lty.

that can materially affect your future wll1becfferodbyebusineerIs- waste or superior, so be alert.

Domestic and family matters are under fairly good auspices during 1054 and you should enter upon a period of great social ac- tivity beglnning in August. Your ability as a lender may be put. to a test. in the sully fall. but do not be alarmed at the prospect. show that you can handle extra re- monslbllltlex since the increased prestige will be exceptionally re- warding to you.

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Q. How can I clean a greasy frying pan?

A. one simple way is to fill the! pan with hot water to which at teaspoonful of washing sods or to boil for a few minutes, empty,: and rlme.

Q. How can I make the scales of fish come off easier?

A. When cleallng fish, first dlpi each one in hot water for I mo-, ment, and the scales will then comm

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An excellent remedy for soften- ing and whitening the hunt is to moisten a little Indian men! with lemon Juice, or with vinegar. and then rub the hands thoroughly. Now wash the hands with hot water and before the hands are thoroughly dry. bathe them with a glycerin lotion.

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Lenten Meditation

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Few saints have attracted ouch attention in the modern world as Francis of Assisi. Yet there are numbers who may admire him for littla more than the secondary reason that he was a friend of animals and that he preached to the birds. Behind this sunny attractiveness, this radiant joy, was the stern decision which had surrendered everything for his Master. hancis was a rich young man who did not make the great refusal.

In his attitude to nature there

was nothing of pantheuism. "He 50 ""1011 fill” PC0919 thlt mete exulted in all the works of the things lost their importance- Earlier monastic movement. had

Lord's hands." wrote Celano, "and: penetrated, through those pleas- ant slghts in their life-giving Cause and Principle. In beautiful things he recognized Him who is su- premely beautiful: all good things cried out to him. 1-le who made us is the Best!" Beyond the beyond the sufferings of creatures to the, sufferings of Christ, which he was enabled. in a measure, to share, and whose life he was en- ablcd, in a measure, to mirror. Through anguish of soul he had broken through to that realm in which is experienced "the glorious liberty of the children of God.” The modern world is right to admire the Poor Man of Assisi: for to it he has much to any. This is an age of contrasts. In some communities there is the conspicuous Waste of luxury. In the welfare State of modern Bri- tain increasing numbers of people feel that life is poor if their dwellings are not equiv ped with all the most recent amenities which science has in- vented :and commercial advertis- ing proclaimed. Yet it is an all?

under-nourishment daily. '11:; great need is for.a sense of proportion, to realise afresh what things are valuable and what are valueleu. To put it even more plainly. the need is for . pentuice.

It was repentance which Francis and his Brothers ..readied in a situation not unlike that of to- day. They were happy people for they had no worries about pro- perty. They had no need to lea doors. either to lock anyone out. or. which may be more tragic, to lock themselves in. Francis cared

turned away from the sin and degradation of the towns to find God in the countryside: Francis and his followers sought the towns because the people there needed God. They would be where Christ would be, serving as he served. Poverty was not for them a re- atriction: it was the condition of liberty, the condition of that full life which is fulness of disciple- ship to Christ. "The revolutions in 1789 and 1917 called upon the peasant to endow himself," wrote Dr. Goulion. "Francis called upon him is despoil himself. And thatlsonereasonwhy the Franciscan movement still means so much to the modern world " It represents a way of discipline, of total commitment to God and through God to one's neighbours If the world of to-day is to be brought to that sanity in which divisions may be overcome it will be through the attainment of I Franciscan sense of proportion. St. Francis would not have called it an attainment, but 3 Ema. I gift which has not ceased to be offered since his Master walked in Galilee.

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31 Josephine Culbertson

A COMPLAINT AGAINST THE POINT-COUNT

A correspondent complains: "I bid the following hand exactly ac- cording to the books - and got nowhere. Whats wrong?" i

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Iy James W. Inrtoll. ILD.

REASSURING INFORMATION ABOUT HEART DISEASE

In examining Johnny Dundee. the champion boxer. I found N5 heart beating less than sixty times a minute. While this slow rate of beating might upset tie. we were not getting enough blood to the heart to keep it beating

south deals - I 1 . it is really a. sign of a r'onh'Sm:: ;u3m"Sme' Aillgllllzr l,iea.rt.biole hago 9:838? hill; hundreds of xing u an 01531 . uscularhart wassowell C9764 lrualrrlgd nit did 110: have to best 410101 ias often as others, pumping more AK954 N .J.,32 blood to the heart with each beat Q36: .Q9.” than would an untrained heart. 9.153 2 W E . A8 "The growing public awareness of Q8 7 S a. K 5 4 3 heart disease hfast m 8,111 e lpeopgc frightened of s as or ow ear- OAQ7 best, an irregular beat. palpita- V AK19 tlons, murmurs or pain in Ch" .KQ10 chest tangina pectoris). Some of. O5-T95 these may be symptoms of heart.

,The wrremondent sat south and opened the bidding with two no-I trump. The auction then proceeded: ; pass..pass, pass. i

West opened a low spade. and South easily won ten tricks-which made him feel all the worse, since he had not reached game. South noted that his hand counted exact- ly 23 points in high cards, which put him right in the middle of the 22-24 points recommended for two-notrump openings.

South went on to say that he could not blame his partner for falling to raise on only 3 points - "so where was the catch?"

The catch is that not all games ran be bid with relative safety, and (more important) that South's specific holding might well have been opened with three. not two izotrump. Point-count authorities do the best they can to prescnbe exact requirements for all bids. :specially iiotrump, but they c.iiinot cover every conceivable situation. Take this case. Suppose South's hand had been:

disease but usually they are harm- less. Four of five people who riisii to a doctor with "pain over the heart" suffer with digestive dis- turbances. What really matters is the norm- nl rate for a particular heart. Glenn Cunningham. the hcavi'" built. powerful runner. has a heart that boats 40 times to the minute Even a slow rate caused by a permanent change i.n the heart is not necessarily 8. cause for ala.rm.i For example, Mrs. While, an rx-, tremely busy, energetic woman. had an uncommon condition known as complete heart block. In this condition the electrical impu: that sets off each beat of the hear is blocked in its passage from ti" upper to lower chambers. For mr than 30 years Mrs. White's he: !'5ll.8 was down to 33 beats a minu' she reared a family, made a min 'or herself in her profession. a" flung hersc'f into a great numb. of strenuous campaigns for war" criusns. she seemed in be alfecl by her condition only when .t , had a fever and flier heart speed. .up to about 40. Then she woul comment, "It's pounding like 5 triphammer." Because the individual become

.AQ7 aware of his heart when it i: QAK4 beating rapidly. more anxiety If Qxqg felt about the heart. Sometimcr A5143 a rapid heart is normal for tha'

in other words, suppose he had, lacked the three excellent fillers which he actually held - the heart ten, the diamond ten and the club

during this period. Try, also to 50813 Wwd” ll” W9" "ddSd' Annwinlne. Then he would need extrasll

ordinary luck to win nine tricks, and so three notrump would not be a sound contract. The logical

iooroiiary i. that with the inm-

mediate cards mentioned. the South hand was substantially strengthen- ed. and so a slightly shaded bid of three notrurnp would , have had

point-count method should be taken with a small pinch of salt.

"Help your wife," wrote the

t” ' me home economics edi- tor. "When he washes disheo, wash dlmu with her; when in man the floor. mop the floor with her."

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