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Dorothy Dix’s Letter Box

The “Other Woman” Gives Her Viewpoint, ‘ Declaring That the Only Reason for Her Existence is That Most Wives Are Fools in Dealing With Their Husbands

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Dear Miss Dix—I am the “0ther_Woman" of whom we hear so much and who causes wives so many hysterics, and I want to explain something about this triangle business, and why we are.

It is because the Wife. through Selfish- ness or ignorance, ceases to make her hus- band happy and contented, and because this "Other Woman" does. That's the whole thing

‘in a nutshell. As long as 8. wife caters to her husband the "other Woman" does not exist.

what wives are too dumb to recognize is

that whether the “Other Woman” is tall or short, fat or thin. dark or light. her art in charming is nothing but making a man com- fortable, whether that means entertalninfl him when she is tired. or listening to him when she is bored. What he dislikes to eat. say or do are of the first,imP0ftBnCe to he!‘- ' She gets pleasure in submerging herself and putting him forward. whereas the wife feeds her ego instead of his. mail- ing him dread to come home because of complaints and whining and Icenes and hysterics.

Most wives are iools in dealing with their husbands. They are ill- ways afraid of some woman taking their husbands away from them. but. in reality, a wife has every advantage in _the world over the Other Woman." First. Her husband is in love with her or he would not have married her. If she has thrown away his affection, it is her own fault.

Becond. she has public opinion to back her. It is only when 3 man is desperate that he will flout convention. Third. She has the home. Every man loves his home if it is made a-homefor min and not ahouse for him and a home for his wife, children and his wiles relatives and friends. Fourth. If there are children ,they are her greatest weap- om. Men love their children and do not want to be parted from them. Any woman can hold her husbnad by teaching the children to play up to Daddy.

1-"ift’h. she has his love of peace. Men are Paciflsts. at least. it home. They abhor fights and scenes. especially with women. and more especially with women for whom they have cared. They would much rather come home, put on their slippers, take off their coats and relax than lie, evade and sneak out to the “Other Woman."

Incidentally, appearance, not beauty. but cleanluiem and smlirthess keeps the “Other Woman“ away. The “Other Woman" knows that if she is unclean or untidy that the man will leave, whereas the wife is so sure that because he is married to her that she can be as sloppy and lazy 85 she pleases about herself and he will have to stand it. And she is so sur- prised when hc docs something about it.

Or the wife may keep such a darned immaculate home and be so touch-me-not herself that she drives her husband to some place where he can smoke sitting in an easy chair. and vent his desire to run_ his hands through some \voman‘s hair who is wil.Li.ng to comb it again if it gets Ill\l55ECl.

‘ "Most of the women who boast of being such GOOD wives are Ohiy good to themselves. They cook what. THEY like to eat. They fumlsh the house the way THEY like it. They go to the clubs THEY like. They have in the people THEY like. They see the shows THEY like. They mm the home the way THEY like to do it. And husband is only the man who brings home the pay check. And that's why husbands roam. Be- lieve me, a. few kisses and caresses, his favorite dishes, an easy chair would keep Iiine-tenths of the wandering husbands home.

Wives make me sick. Either they should care enough for a man to make him happy or they shouldn't marry hirnarid make him unhappy and then raise cain because some other woman is making life worth while for him.

If wives would fight as intelligently after marriage to keep their hus- bands as they do before marriage to get. them, they would virtually‘never lose their husbands. I am the "Other Woman." I know many ‘ Othfil‘ women" and I have never known one of us who wasn't in deadly fear of losing the man she loved because his wile COULD win him back if she tried hard enough. But we are never frightened if the wife thinks more of herself than she does of her husband. X.

Answer:

Here speaks the voice of authority. I commend this womans letter to the careful perusal of every wife. Cut it out and keep it in the back of your bag when: you can read it over every day. It will save you a lot

of grief and maybe a trip to ljerio. .

Dear Dorothy Dlx—I am up against it. I am 35 years old. keeping company with a young lady who is 30. I have been going with her five years. She wants to get married and is willing to support me 3-5 1 3"‘ an invalid who will never be able to work again. The girl has a $0011 position. My parents advise me to stay with them, as I have a good home

What is your advice?

ER.

Anmer:

You alone can decide this question because the success of such a mill’- rlage would depend entirely upon your disposition and that of the E11‘!- If you are of an independent nature you would find it very galllng to be dependent upon your wife and if she is of the thrifty, ambitious type she might get very tired of supportlniz a husband. But. on the contrary, if you are easy-going rind amiable and she is the sort of woman who likes to "mother" a man, you might get along very comfortably and happily together.

Nature. of course. intended for man to bring home the bacon and the woman to fry ii. and when these roles are reversed and the wife has to support the family it seldom brings happiness to either party. The man is humiliated by his failure to be the provider. He is jealous of his wife being ti better man than he is, and he takes it out in surliness and g'rouchl- ness in the home. I know many women who support their husbands and invariably the husband is like the dog that bites the hand that feeds it.

I _ . Nor does it always improve the wife’; temper to have to be both the man of the house and the woman of the house. Often she is shrewish and contemptuous of her husband and none too generous in dealing out cigarette money to him.

80, taking it all in all, it seems to me that your parents are a better be ‘ as a meal ticket than a wife. -"“ ' 0 O O C O O "’ Dear Min Dix—I am a girl of is. very much in love with a man of 52. flyp-andfather says that the man in too old for me. but my younger ones

n't'so_em to understand me as well. Do you think that age can be an ' ountabie obstacle to our happiness? ANXIOUS.

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'f""It certainly is when is marrle’I‘I 52. You think you are in love with this man because he treats you as your father would. spoils and pets you and doesn't. criticize you as a boy of your own age would. But is you marry him, you will soon find that you have nothing in common with him. and both of you will be perfectly miserable. He should have more *3”, even if you have not, than to gointo such a marriage.

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The HOUSEWIFF and HER ACTIVITIES

FOIIDEAIIANCE

I-fast thou named all the birds without a. gun?

Loved the wood—roIe. and 19“ it on its stalk?

At rich men's tables eaten bread and pulse?

Unarmed, faced danger with a. heart of trust? And loved so well a high be- havior, In man or maid that thou from speech refrained, Nobility more nobly to repay? 0, be my friend and teach me to be thine! ——EM'ERSON.

NAMING TEE BABY

The one thing to which parents are mostly indifferent when nam- ing the child is the essential beauty of the name. It is, no doubt, for aesthetic reasons that a number of girls are named Gladys or Gwen- doien, but it is difficult to be- lleve that it was love of beauty that ever led a father to call his son James or George, Thomas or Robert. There is a curiously prosaic quality in most boy's names , as though romance and poetry were unmanly. In our own time with its increasing population of Antonys and Michael; and Christophers there has been a slight tendency to a more romantic nomenclature; but even to-day how few are the parents who would have courage to give a son. the beautiful Irish name, I-Iyacinthl —Y. Y., in the Spectator.

LONDON'S NEW LANDMARK

London‘; new landmark is rapid- ly nearing completion. The two three-hundred feet chimneys of the Fulham Power Station are being stripped of their scaffolding and. by the autumn of this year. the first section of this great building, which will cost nearly three mil- lion pounds, will be opened to sup- ply the country's winter demands.

The output of this section alone will amount to 120.000 kilowatts. but the completion of the work on the second section, which will be equipped with two further chim- neyh will bring the total output up to 310,000 kilowatts. Of this amount Fulham will only take five per cent the rest being taken over for the

grid.

All told the station will cover ten acres of ground and consume two thousands tons of coal a day.

The construction of the first sec- tion lias created a record in the

matter of building. In thirty-three weeks nintecn thousand tons of steel were erected and the arena used were those which helped to construct the Sydney Harbour Bridge.

OLD LAVENDER

There was a time when Lavend- er Toliet Water was the only true scent for a gentlewoman, and al- though today it has been joined by many mixture perfumes and every flower under the sun,it still retains its charm and popularity. But to- day it is not merely a toilet water but a definite lavender perfume, and the best choice of all for the young girl, and for all sports oc- casions.

Incidentally a few drops of lav- ender in a bowl of water near the fire will impart a delicious fresh- ness to the whole room.

ALPACA FOR DAYTIME

Alpaca. is a popular fabric in the daytime frocks. appearing frequent- ly in jacket dresses in combina- tion with white or pink

A TOY BOX

In the cupboardless room of mod- em houses and flats the storage of a child’: toy is sometimes a dif- flcult matter. A mother has solved this problem in an economical and ingenious way. An out-of-work car- penter made her a substantial deal box measuring 2 ft. long byi ft. 3 in wide and i it. 3 in. deep. with a neatly hinged lid. This was en- amelled the color of her children's nursery and upholstered in a wash- able fabric to match the curtains. Four cuwrs made it not only easy to move when cleaning the room but also a joy for the younger children to ride on. Inside. the box was fitted with a shallow tray for lighter toys after the style of the old-fashioned trunk. such a box will prolong its use- fulness when nursery days are over. Re-upholstered to match the color scheme in a guest room it makes a most welcome shoe-box and fireside seat combined.

LINING Till DI-Ill!-I DBAWIII WITH PAPII

home, but it saves trouble to buy it ready pickled from the butcher. Half a head makes a good quantity- Wash the head and put into a saucepan with half a pound of veal and an onion. Put in a muslin bag a d0Z‘."i peppercorns. a. blade of mace, a. bay leaf, two cloves, and a piece of parsley Cover with water. add pepper and salt, and bring in the boil. then skim well. Put the lid on the saucepan and simmer slowly for three to four hours. or until the meat is soft, skimming when necmsafy. When the meat will fall easily from the bones, drain it from the liquid, remove any

into small pieces. If it has not enough flavor and more seasoning.‘ Press it into small molds or glass jars, adding a ‘little of the liquid to each one. Or it can be put in one large mold with a weight on top to pi-em it down. Leave overnight dip the mold into hot water to loosen the brawn.

FOR. AFFECTION

For afternoon a. street length beige lace with flared hemlilie is outstanding. Chocolate brown hat, shoes and access ics match the belt of the drefs.

EVEN THE RUSSIANS ARE DOING IT NOW

TOG-r “Yes sir, That's My Baby." "st. Louis Blues," “Stormy Weather” and various adaptations of tunes from ten years to six months old blare forth throughout the S:"iet Union. The soviet swain kisses his lady's hand and swings out on the floor. Mast Russians had a rogue idea of the foxtrot, b‘.‘Z all wished to learn and a. new profession of dancing mnatgrg sprang up. so many that a trade union isexpected to be formed, and Defhfibs an academy of ballroom dancing which would issue diplo- mas to those who qualified as dancing instructors.

A visit to a proletarian dancing class, that of the best dancing nas- ter in Russia, is to say the least. entertaining. First, there is a ser- ious lecture on the art of ballroom dancing. This is followed by a dLs- course on manners and etiquette of which the following are extracts; Never ask the lady's escort, whether he will permit. her to dance. Our women are independ- ent enough to decide that for them- selva. But do not ask a lady to Wh°m you have not been introduc- °d- Y0“ me)’ receive an unpleasant surprise. "NGVGT but your arm around the lid? until the music actually starts to play. After you have finished the dance, do not desert your partner but escort her to her place. Do not kiss her hand arm- the dance is over. You may do so ”‘ 5°m° 0'38!‘ Plue. but not or. the dance floor." The instructions given by an; teacher are not universally follow- ed. Among Russlan patrons of night clubs, instruction are gener- B-lly ignored and the lady so mm. ed to dance refers the requegt to her escort. Hmd-kissing on the anoe floor likewise has not been eradicated,

L : zru-ING A DIARY

The writing of a diary Lg sug-

flvsted by Miss Clemence Dane the well-known novelist, as amusing and interesting pursuit,

writes Ann Adair in th 01 Herald. 6 “flow

Hardly any one, Miss Dane do. cllfei. can give a coherent ac- count of any chosen day in her- paat life. Yesterday, like an on newspaper with its record of a hundred multifarious happenings is shoved away and lost. Lost. too. are all the fascinating little details which gather interest with the yea.r‘s——the kind of dress you won at t .e Forbes's garden party, nail. in: dtilpsrles or abbreviated skirts; the limes you played. croquet or centre court tennis, even the re- freshments provided. Were cock. tails just coming in then, and was grape-fruit known as a bever. are or was Russian tea all the Y3-Se. and if the Forbes being rich ‘end extravagant had Neapolitan oes.

Most women consider their do- inn too unimportant to be worthy of a chronicle. All very well to ""50 1! diary on holiday when no two days are alike. Delightful to look back to those weeks abroad “"9. to record one's impressions Urn entering the dreaded Bay, upon attaining one‘; first glimpse .of Gibraltar. But very dimmm the diary of a stay-at-home.

‘I'll! DOMESTIC DIARY

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The midday whistle had blown when Murphy shouted, "Has any- one soen me vest?"

"sure. Murphy, "laid Put. our ye've got it on."

“Right and I have," replied Mur- phy, gazing solemnly at his bosom, “and it's a good thing ye seen it or I'd have gone home without it."

He had saved the Admiral from drowning. The great man was full of praise for his action.

"And tomorrow." said the Ad- miral. "I shall thank you before the eyes of all the men."

The sailor began to quake. .

--on, guv'nor, don't do than‘: he pleaded. "They'll 'alf murder me."

breakfa.t. Ralph cross because bath-water cold. Gave Mary notice. Wish could give Ralp notice, too. Telephone ceases functioning. Rush to call-office to demand as- sistancc. Telephone-man arrives lunch-time. Very sarcastic when he tested ‘phone and finds it work- ing perfcctly. Feel a fool. .

“After man departs looking superior. decide to ring up servants’ registry. ‘Phone dead as ‘ . Rush to call-office to recall sup- erior young man. on retum, Mary reports I».-it-phone all right, and gentleman to see me. Said gentle- man. complete stranger, wrings my hand warmly, proceeds to unpack new type of carpet-cleaner, and to sprinkle newly cleaned carpet with suspicious-looking powder.

“ ‘There!’ he exclaims trium- phantly as he applies machine to hitherto pristine surface. and goes off on long dissertation in the mid- dle of which Mary ushers in lvilrs. Bore.

“Problem: should one introduce unknown gent? Mrs. Bore gushes. over noisy machine. Unknown gent greatly intrigued until she admits she bought one six months ago. Get rid at last of U. G . not of Mrs B Ralph returns, glowers at her. Unmistakeable odours of din- ner arise from below st-airs. What to do? Ralph does it. “R.ain‘s coming on. Mrs. Bore. I'll run you home in the car if you like.’

"Clever Ralph, Decide not to give Ralph iiotlce. Nice dinner. De- cide to keep Mary on. Wireless afterwards. Decide after listening till midiilght programmes aren't what they were. Telephone bell rings. “Bell all right? There was some complaint earlier?’ ‘Gosh.’ says Ralph, ‘We'll lJe'cut off if I keep on forgetting to square the bill-"’

Now no woman in her senses thinks that sort of thing - worth committing to paper. And the big thl\ -, in life only occur once in a whi..‘. When they do, keeps us from recording them. some inner retlcence forbids us writing them down. Nothing would induce us to record that we fell in love. or out of it. on this day or that in a little gilt-edged book which anyone might prise open and read. Nothing would induce us to expan- ate upon the anxiety we endured when our loved ones were ill, or in danger, for the simple reason that at the time we daren't acknowledge even to’ oumelves the extent of our anxiety

For my own part, I cannot con- ceive any woman sitting down at the end of the day. pen in hand, and writing the truth, the whole truth, about its happenings. We are so much creatures of the moment that the result would be an unfair showing. our anger. our affections. are so short lived, that it were bet- ter to leave them unrecorded. We should only reveal ourselves as vacillating creatures groping in a mass I:? fear and doubt. In fiction there is invariably an ending to cevry story. In real life, conversely. so much is unexplainable. so much is never satlsfaotorly straightened out, that a truthful diary, would only be a mass of tangled threads that never achieved a satisfactory pattern.

I have one friend who keeps a diary. and who lives in constant dread of lesing it. although her on- trics are cryptic enough. "Had the aunts to dinner. Help Black lace. Ducklings. strawberry flan." Con-

fusing this, a trifle, until you realize black lace is what the writer wore. ducklings what she

gave her guests to eat. The rea- son for those mundane details is because if she wears the same frock soon again her relatives are apt to aay—“Dear me, have you not another dress in the world?" and to think her lacking in house- wlfely instincts if she inadvertently provides the same things over again to eat.

Mom of a giveaway is another entrtv in this dlary—"Wcnt to the Smi ha party. Never again." only two lines, but enough to give its

owner a sleepless night when she miilays the book containing them. Here. in I. nutshell, is the reason

"Merv overslept. Rush to get

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APRIL 28. 1936

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WHAT A GRAN

JUST WHAT lV'E'SAiD ALL Al.ON_6. MAXWELL House Is A PERFECT suswo - ALWAYS coon NO MATTER HOW