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Fear Can Harm Your Child rsar r

it is normal for your child to be frightened at times. But if his fears are too intense or too pro- longed they can be harmful and cause much permanent damage to us developing per ality. For this reason take his fears and worries seriously and make every effort to relieve them. Some fears are brief and immedi- ately forgotten, like a loud noise, or a scary I-Iallowe'en mask. Others are lasting and deeply injurious. Fear of authority may develop from a father who is too stern: fear of sailing from too rigid toilet training; fear of dirt from constant harsh scolding for set- ting dirty during play. The list is a long one. Whatever seems to. make you withdraw your love will worry your child because he loves and needs you so much. Avoid the growth of such fears in your child by being tolerant and friend- ly about his progress, or lack of it, in his eating, playing or keep jug dry. Praise him for his ef forts even if they are clumsy. if

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aoiuc Acm - A NURSERY POISON

There have been more than one report in the newspapers of SW!" poisoning caused by the use of that common drug-boric acid WW4"- A recent editorial in the Canadian Medical Association Journal tells us more about it.

'”'Boric acid is one of those "in- gipid" drugs which arouse little en- thusiasm but continue to be used because their employment appeals to have been sanctioned by tradi- tion. The general attitude is i-hit me drug is a. mild antiseptic and because its antiseptic action is mild it seems to be generally assumed that its poisonous action is sl-90 slight."

Because of this indifferent atti- tude toward it. borlc acid continues to be used in large quantitim on the view that if it does no Rood it at least does no harm. This at-iiiMd0 has persisted although over many years proof has been offered from the medical preu that boric acid is really a. wolf in sheep's clothinl-

We now read of five caseeof borlc acid poisoning. three of which ap- peared for treatment at the Child- ren's Memorial Hospital. Montreal, within three months. In four cases. the history was one of rawness of the skin of the buttocks from diarrhoea in a. newborn infant,-to which borlc acid powder was ap- plied. In the fifth ease. the borie acid powder was applied to s weep- ing navel and vomiting and cori- vulaioris dev ' -' one of the east ended in death.

There has been a review of 106 cases (60 fatal) recorded in medi- cal literature and it is believed that minor episodes of this condition are by no means rare and are com- monly overlooked.

What are the commonest symp- toms of boric acid poisoning? They are convulsions, delirium, un- consciousness: diarrhoea and vom- iting: ind skin symptoms such as a red rash followed by shedding of skin leaving a raw surface.

What about its treatment! No specific treatment is known as yet but general measures such as blood transfusions help. Any buttock con- dition may be treated by exposure to air and protection from urine or stools.

we must remember that the danger is greatest in babyhood and that the poisonin is commonest from taking by mouth or by ap- plying the powder to a raw nirface. In fairness to boric acid powder, there does not seem to be any danger from it when it is ap- plied to perfectly healthy skin. However. considering how easily it may occur-in one case its applic- ation for just two days to a raw skin surfac-we should all be-very

Monday, July 5. 1954

publications are pro- attslal Ilealh and Welfare).

will be full of fears.

Afraid of being alone in the dark at bedtime is common and the child cannot be persuad- ed there is nothing to fear. Ridi- cule or stem measures only make it harder for him. He is show- ing how badly he needs comfort, love and reassurance. not just at bedtime but during the day, tab. The usual cause is a lack of self- confidence. Ease up on your seoldinu. They make him feel guilty, a failure. I-Ialt the battles

And if Dad has been using the "stern father" method, he'll soft- en up when he realizes his child needs less -managing and more affection and approval. Praise your child's little successes and so build up his inner security. For the two-year-old leaving the bedroom door partly open will help. Fear of bed-wetting can make a child of this age afraid to go to sleep. His bladder con- trol is not yet perfect and he may be afraid he'll lose his mother's love if he wets his bed. Such a child needs to be told his mother loves him wet or dry. This World Can Be Frightening A child of three or four often fears thunderstorms. snakes. cats, dogs, etc., especially if the parent has shown similar fears in his presence. Or he may imagine frightening things. Reassure him and avoid ridicule. He needs af- fection to help him over the in- security that is the basis for such fears. And show him that you are not afraid. but appreciate his feel- ing the way he does. Your child is more disturbed about family matters than you probably realize. Discuss such do- -” troubles out of his hearing. Fear of death shows up at this age and you can allay his worries by treating the subject reassur- irigly. toning your child that peo- ple don't usually die until they are old and (with a cheerful hug) we'll. all be happy together for a long time! Meet his questions honestly and cheerfully. If your child is sure of himself and not being punished or crossly scolded he won'tibe much worried by imagined fears. Ifamily quarrels can produce an uneasy fear in your child which may endure and become most damaging. He may not under-; stand the bickerings, but they can profoundly affect the child. He, feels that something is wrong with the two people who mean the most in the world. Parents often promote a childs fears through ambition for him to, shine. If, you want. him to be the tidieat. best-dressed and best- mannered of all children and push him too hard to reach unnatural and impossibly high standards. he'll very likely react by showing off as you desire. Instead, he'll shew symptoms of fear. maybe not obviously but in some ”ner- vous" habits. (To be continued next week)

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HALIFAX (CP)-Lightning does strike the same place twice and Al Vogler has a scarred ceiling, to prove it. bolt arrowed into Voglei-'s home on midtown noble street during Friday night's big electrical storm and Vogler .re- ported the plaster showered down. He said a second charge slammed into the ceiling two feet away only moments later and more plaster was knocked loose.

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The river Dee, f:mous for sal- mon, flow: so miles through beau- tiful scenery to the North sea at Aberdeen.

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YOBKTON. Bask., (OP)-A '16- foot smokestack which served Yorktonii first industry. a flour mill built in 1&4. has been taken

over toilet training and eating”

than that which came her

humiliation.

Life will probably never hold a more agonizing moment for eight- way at the annual Scottish Games here.

of the intricate steps of the Highland Fling, forgot what to do n (garolyn Sloan of Edmonton, unperturbed, kept right on dancing.-(CP Photo).

year-old Trudy Mercer of Calgary Poor Trudy, right in the middle ext so she broke down and wept in

DOROTHY DIX An Invalid Wile

DEAR MISS DIX: You may think this is Just another version of the "other woman" story, but it really isn't as simple as following the usual advice to "give him up at all costs."

Anyway, heres the story; Five years ago Lee and his wife lost their only child, a 3-yen-old boy who was not normal. The mother had a nervous breakdown and has not completely recovered. She has lost all interest in everything. does absolutely nothing about the house, won't see people and has withdrawn into a world of her own. Lee waits on her hand and foot, does the cooking, shopping, house cleaning -even to the laundry. Then he be- scan to talk to me, confiding, seek- ing advice, etc. I was sympathetic until I realized he was becoming too dependent on my company. Our relationship has been quite open, consisting almost entirely of lunch and dinner dates. There has been no question of love on either side; under other circumstances I might -have grown to love Lee, but with full appreciation of existing conditions, I've restrained my emo- tions. He seems to have a need for somebody to talk to, and I'm the person. He says if I won't see him, he'll spend his evenings at taverns -and he has on a few occasions where I've tried to be firm. What can I do? - Eloise ADVICE FOR BOTH

ANSWER: Lees dependence is bad for both of you: he needs a more permanent source of comfort, and you should have the opportun- itv of meeting other men with the object of establishing your own future. Hos Lee exhausted every possibility of restoring his wife's mental health? Your city has sev- eral mental health clinics: he should consult doctors at one of them. Naturally, if she assumes her place once more as a healthy and capable wife, the problem is solved. A deepening of his own spiritual life also would be a vital factor in re-establishing the man's emo- tional health. A good talk with his pastor would be the'keY there- Even if Lee isn't a regular church- goer, he will be welcomed by a clergyman for the sort of consulta- tion he needs. Working through these suggested parties, you shhoulu be able to shift the responsibility from your own shoulders. Perhaps, in addition, Lee may have 8 rela- tive-sistcr. cousin or aunt-who would provide an outlet for his con- fidences. Everyone needs someone to talk to. so it's understandable that a man, who finds himself closed off from home ties. would make good use of the first recep- tive ears he finds. You filled suc-

down and moved farther north lo serve a plywood factory. The land-

csreful in our use of boric acid powder. if we use it at all.

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The Stars Say

By Estrelllta

For Tomorrow '

1T would be well to attend to im- portant matters yourself this day. instead of llll'l'llnK ii mponsibiii--5' over to another. in fact. your wil- llngness to accept additional respon- sibilities, even at some inconven- lence to yourself, might so impraas those in a position to be helpful to you that it could prove exception- ally worth-while.

During the evening hours. friendlinms evidence itself in all you do or MY -- even in what you write.

The aspdcts are fine for promot-

ing congeniality and for social life

generally, so do your part - warm- heartedly and with a sense of humor.

For the Birilidnly

ff tomorrow is your birthday, your l

horoscope indicates an excellent year generally. Financial matters should prosper throughout the sum- mer months opportunities for travel the early fall.

during

There is also the prospect of gain- ing added prestige through the good offices of someone in authority. By year's end. you should be greatly satisfied will! your progress in both

business and personal affairs.

With the beginning or October. you will enter a cycle which will be fine for social attain: new ff'iC;id-

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by an Island Farmer's Wife

Monday...The on the word for we wrote it wli last week, weary and war

or idly written the heading. 0 e .

had presumed to look thus f into the future.

over the week-end? Who

ward bend of road to see the he penings of

ing chair, over

even the nesting birds and

purpose some, given;

a youthful hurtr-even to spank

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By Roberta Le: Mending screens

the screening until the new piece firmly in place.

Bust spoil

until the spot is gone. Oranges

lf oranges are

weeks.

ink is hours dry

was drifting away down the river of time. Then having closed that record, we had turned to a new leaf and there at the top had rath-

And at once we had put aside our pen and come to sit by the wlndow, there to wonder why we

Who should say whether the pen was to rest only could peer into the shadows of that for-

that period between? We smiled, in that little old rock- our unanswered queries and leaving our every ques- tion and care to Heaven, then keep- ing so tenderly the valley about- the fledglings, we too came to our rest.

And now from the hindsight of the day itself we look back to re- member that ll0i.' for some idle

has it been granted. To missions of moment were to others, the lesser. Anti ours, as we saw them? To smile, or perhaps with a tinkiing laugh to ease someones fancied or real burden of care; to offer an encour- aging word when spirits quailed-to lend a helping hand. Ours to kiss away the ache of a bump, to treat

"Aw, she never gets 'round to

If the hole in the screen is small trim the edges until it is roughly squarc. Cut a new piece of screen- ing about an inch larger each way 'than the hole. Pull out several of the wires on each side of the patch and bend so that they stick out at right angles. Place the patch over the hole, push the loose wires through the screen and bend back through

If there is rust on steel, cover the spot with sweet oil and rub well, al- lowing it to remain a few days. Then rub with powdered unslacked lime

thoroughly dried with a cloth. each one wrapped separately in waxed paper and placed in a box, they will keep for

S DIARY

it", we overheard Gage tell his grandfather the other day after some issue had arisen to cloud our usual peaceful horizon. "She threa- tens", he shrugged. "I guess," he regarded James with a merry grin, "that's about all she can do riowl"

But James, bless him, giving the youngster some disturbing food for thought said: "It's Just as well to be a little cautious, We men can't ever allow ourselves to under-ei- timaie the power of a woman. With a man it's different. But with one of them," James smiled, "you just never know!"

Or could it not be that this day has been given to worried folks- those concerned about many things, to find a certain peace of mind and heart in the glory of the sea- son spread so beautifully about? To look out once more, maybe with more appreciative eye. to the pictured fields-they not so long ago drab and lifeless. but pulsing now with much life and be-flower- ed. . Daisy, clover, buttercup, tangle of purple vetch, cream of Queen Anne's Lace. And above and about the fascinating creatures of earth and air-bird, bee, butterfly, all of these "little ones" which, as some poet has written "like the angels, also have wings."

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Wings more colorful, but not more gentle than that of the night which now so kindly covers "as a hen her chicks" every inch of valley and hill.

Until tomorrow - Diary - Good- night....'. '

ford. Mass. The groiemsi-nan was the Sacred Heart Church, Lowell,

Pictured above are Mr. and Mn Arthur F. King (centre) of Lowell. Mass. The bride i. u... former Mary Deagle of Charlottetown.

Her bridesmaid was her sister, Mrs. Florence Uskst, New Bed. Francis ll. King, brother of the groom. The wedding took place ut Mass., last April. '

By PAULINE KENNEDY Canadian Press staff Writer FREDERICTON, (CP)-The Na- tional Councll of-Women Tuesday listened to two guest speakers. urged the federal government to establish a. coast guard for the west coast. and curtail govern- ment free-franking privilege, and then had a small-siud squabble. Speakers were senator Muriel McQueen Ferguason of Fredericton and Mrs. Lilias Toward, Halifax, Maritime field secretary for the Community Planning Association of-Canada.

The resolution on the coast guard arose because the council felt there was too much loss of life- and dependence on the United States Coast Guard on the British Columbia coast.

ABUSE PRIVILEGES Free-fruiking privileges by House of Commons members and the senate are being loosely used. they said. A third resolution urged bet- ter selection of immigrants with a woman on every board.

A squabble blew up when five resolutions from Ontario prov- incial council were thrown out of the meeting. These resolutions, which came in too late, will be referred to local councils and'-con- sidered at an executive meeting. Mrs. Gordon Kerr, Ontario prov- incial pf ident from Windsor, threatened to boycott Ontario's at- tendance at another national meet- ing Jecauae of the matter. Mrs. L. . Merig, Ottawa, currespond- ing secretary for the council said the resolutions never arrived at Ottawa head office for study.

B! SILENT PARTNER

Modern Etiquette By Roberta lad

Q. when writing a letter of ap- plication for a position. should it be written by hand or typed?

A. Usually a typewritten letter is preferred. some business firms. however, instruct applicants to write their letters by hand, the idea being to test the legibilityof the applicant's handwriting.

Q. Should a woman rise when seated at a table in a restaurant, and another woman comes by and stops to exchange a few words?

A. This is not necessary, unless she is very young and the other woman is elderly.

Q. Has a divorced woman the privilege to continue wearing her rings?

A. If she wishes: this is entirely optional.

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BTRIKERS RESUME WORK

OSHAWA (CP)-Normal transpor- tation service was resumed Mon- day wiih the end of the month- long strike by 115 bus drivers and railway maintenance employees.

IN MOVIES NQW

BURFORD. Ont.. Mrs. N. R. Parrott celebrated h

lng home here, colored movies

great - great - granddaughter, M Allan Balsdon.

the balance of the year.

p A child born on this day will and sympathetic friend to. these need.

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I stores cited vi New ilaeheadiss , Wide Aalettnieati for lawn!

(CF) - when 95th birthday at a party at a nurs-

the occasion were taken by her

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THURSDAY IS THE DAY

.. .. .. .. as every year at this time .......... ..we begin our traditional. Value-Giving Storewlde BIRTHDAY IALIJ!

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