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PAQE Elsa-1- 111i; QtfAitLOTTETOVYN QUARDIAN ' fl_ JANUARY 12.193L .Woman’s Realm -:- Social and Personal -:- Fashions -:- Literature l

The

Dorothy-Dix’ Letter Box

How Can a Grown Man Keep His Mother From Bossing Him? Can Husband Who Twice Broke His Promise be Trusted Again ?

Dear Miss Dix-I am a man of 28. My father has been "lit 0f \\'0l‘li and I have gladly kept up the home because I feel that it is my duty- But here is my trouble: My mother absolutely enslavcs me and tries to

take away from inc every trestige of personal lib- _- err)‘, Why do mothers feel that it is their Gori- givt-n right to boss their caililren even to the er;- tbp; oi‘ telling them where to go, what to do, what to eat, “hut to wear__".vltoii1 to asociate with and i‘ when to biotv their hilt-OS? Isn't there some way of making inoihers d their own business after their ehiltli-cn are ,=:. . . up men and women and ]ll‘l“.v(‘Il_\' able to run their own affairs? ROBERT.

Answer:

I'm afraid not, Robert, because you sea iiioth- - ers ti~.'.tr iiiiil out that their cliiiuixri grow up and get to be intelligent men and women, capable oi shaping their own lives. To lllflillul‘ hcr sons and litlllgilllllS are nltvays [Odd mg infants who have to be held by the hand and told to eat their spinach, and not to sit. up later than 3 o'clock.

she continues to think best for them as long as they lives That is why she medttles in all of their affairs and thrusts unsouglit advice upon them and tries to impose her own opinions and habits upon them.. It never occurs to her that hcr children have any minds or personality of their own. or that their titsws and inclinations and talents may be different from hen... Nor not-s she ever realize that liiir children are living in a dilfcrtnt world from hers, and that she can no more steer them along ilic course they mus: travel than a lanclsinan couitl furnish a chart to a pilot to cross the oce-an.

I do not know of any other one thing that brings ubuu; lllUlC un- happiness than this obsession that mothers have about their children re. inaiiiing perpetual feeble-minded infants, even after they have attained man's and woman's estate. It drives more girls and boys away from home than anything else in the world.. Tom and Sally get so worn out with mother's perpetual questionnaire about. where are they going and where have they been and whom did they see and where did they meet that girl or boy and who was his or her father and mothn and where did they come from, and so on and so on, that they tltc from l‘. at the first possible moment.

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Thousands of girls have got married and other thoixiuitis l..i' i got iObS lll I ' i to get avray from mother's ' cessant liciipeck- " llltf.‘ ti , to put up with a gyronchy husband, or live in a. hail bcilroeir. and cook over me gas jet than to lislen to mother contin- ually telling you what to ear and what to wear and to be sure to put on your rubbers and cover up your throat and watch out for automobiles and to come home early and not to stay out after 12 o'clock when you go to a party, and so on and so on.

It isn't that. the young people want to do anything wrong. 1t is just that they tvant to have a little liberty and the right to do what they want to do without having to explain it, or account for lt, or to be flagged about it.

And mother simply can't understand this, and she can't comprehend why her children resent it, nor why her married daughters think they have a right to keep house in their own way, and manage their husbands after their own fashion and bring up their babies according to the latest theories. Mother is so sure that her way is best and that-she still has a perfect right to live their lives for them and manage their affairs for them, no matter how old they are.

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It fa mother’: tyranny that is at the bottom of nine-tenths of the Motion between children and their parents, and especially bcttfvccit in- laws. Mother 1s trying to make hcr ‘children live the life she lived thirty or forty years ago. Elie is trying to make them conform to the customs and conventions and mode of dress of her day and the youngsters are bound to do what the young people of today are doing and wear the clothes that are the fashion now, and so there are the never-ending fam- ily ructlons that make so many homes a perpetual battleground,

And it is because mother 1| determined to boss her daughter-iri-law and aon-fn-law as she does her own children that makes mother's pres- ence in the house like a charge of INT under the doorstep.

One of the wisest women I knotv says that her tongue ls two inches shorter than it used to be, because she has ehetved off that much of it keeping from asking her children where they were going and when were they coming back and telling them not to stay out too long. And that woman's children adore her and go to her continually for advice because she never tries to make them do her way. ivoulrl that more women would imitate her example. DOROTHY DIX,

O I I O O O

Dear Miss Dix-I was married to the best wife in the world and we were very happy, but somehow I got into an affair with another woman. God knows how or why, for I didn't care for this woman. My wife left me, but returned to me after 1 had promised to play square. She never mentioned the affair to me and we were happy for about two years when 1 got into another SHAPE. My wife again left me, but finally I persuad- ed her to rcturii to me agaiir. She warned me that if ever there was another affair of that kind there would be no more making up. I don't know why I ciicl it, but 1 got into another mess and again my wife left

. this tizni getting ‘J. fll‘.'l)l'C[‘.

Now 1 renifre how mueh I love her and that life nicaiis nothing with- out her. We are both very young and I have learned my bitter lesson. i She says she \vl'l never love mc or want to live yvith me again. Don't] you think that we could be happy again to;;<.~ii,i-i-',* 1 pfgmigcd m db anything and to give up (‘\'t'l'_ hing for her if .ilL‘ will Ulli)‘ return, and I mean (Jl.'t‘l'_\lllllll4 I have lll'(.'ll'll~l‘ti K. S. l).

"PEASE PORRIDGE HOT" By Mary Moore

scenis to warrant the that we may attribute

nu1.'.;cn among children of pre

bad LCUih and faulty posture, to in

tielcpmcnt of preference for foods."

‘The foregoing is the closing sent ence of a. chapter entitled Dlelaryi Habits of ltfnn" ill McCollun

mous nutrlton experts discuss the‘ ivalue of the cereal grains in the human dietaiy and in view o: the And because tnotliri" knew best when her children were 3 years old fact m“ they were so lime used i Century, ‘when poor and decayed teeth were i Ivory common, recommend them now i as it fundamental food in our na-

‘before the Nineteenth

tional dietaiy.

classes.

ar adherents. One of the

was ln charge what the matter was

fuse t0 eat breakfast." She said "Do you know‘ why?" "Yes he replied, "They want bac on and eggs."

our own tables?"

do you serve for breakfast?" “Fruit and porridge." “The same as we have."

every morning of the winter."

particular virtue of being circa-p.

five people over two months.

Our morning porridge is some- times pla n “porrldgclas the S2015- rricn know it-made entirely of rol- led oats. Sometimes it is plain cracked wheat or rye. Vcry often it is a combination of two of these. In any case it is never cooked long- er than one half hour. We have often been asked why we did not cook porridge longer. For very young children, we recommend well-cooked

cerael, but for adults ceieals that sowed h‘ 1'4 ‘cllll lllkvllttrm Watcixlnml’ by spwnfuls ‘m grew“ 51ml

are cooked a short time are better because the grains are still whole and they are much more likely to be chewed when eaten. They need to be mixed w.th saliva for pfODCl‘ dlgeston. If cooked so long they are very soft they are often swallowed without any thought of ‘mastication whatever.

The cereals arc u=ed in other forms than porridge, however. The cracked wheat and rye go int/a our

anadian Cookery For V Canadian Women

By Jlari Moore. Specially contributed to The Guardian for . Guardian Readers.

"All the information available conclusfiiff]

in great l . . . _ . bel xi \\e .lice this V thin measure the high incidence of mal- icpe o“ ‘ m?

schcoi age, the faulty bone growth.‘

adequgistes in our national dietary, and to perverted appet ties which result from pamerlug and the de- sweet

“The

and Simmonds book, "The Newer] Knowledge of’ Nutrition." Thees fa- l

I heard second-hand a story that , left me a little shocked at the lack , use 2 cups of boiling water, to 1 cup of knowledge of some of our poorer

A charitable insltutlon ls conduct- ing a “SOtip kitchen’ in one of our ,large cities. A few weeks after its inception there was a. note of dis- content detected amongst its regul- women helpers who gave her services free. asked the reverend gentleman who

He so d, “They have decided to re- thelr porridge for;

“Good gracious. do they want for< nothing what we won't afford for

Then the gentleman asked “What

And when I heard the story, I echoed, “That's what we cat almost

You will perceive that the pont of my story-is to demonstrate the value that people interested in nutrition put on the humble cereals, aiiil I used hardly more than mention the;r i’

In our own home We g0 1n for cereals in a. big way. At the begin- ning of Novcmmr we bought a 20 pound bag o," rolled oats lthc doctor recommends rolled oats in prefer- ence to oatmeal.) for 54 vents; n10 pound bag of cracked tivheat for 50 rents and l0 pounds of cracked rye for 50 cents, The cracked wheat anti rye ran out just before Christ- mas, and we still have about 3 pounds 6r the oats. So that $1.54 provided cereal for breakfast for

and stuffed with date filling an popular, and are almost always to be found in Olll‘ cookie crook.

A certain dcIlCiOUB nut bread containing whole grain cereals ls often made in our kitchen (see re-

-and serve it with cheese and black currant jelly or plum 1am as des- sert. after a fuil course dinner.

' ’ 1r the whole gi-aiii cereal; iieea still further selling after all that, let. nie remind you of how Joseph stored cereals for the Egyptians 1n ‘Expectation o.’ lean years. which _ [sure enough, came. ‘those folks {long years ago lived on stored cer- eals-w'h ch does not mean they are adequate foods for the completely ilfllllht’ dict, for they are nob-but , it does mean that, with the addition of certain other simple foods such as milk, eggs and fresh fruits and VPEetables they will nourish the human body, keeping t normal and healthy.

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Ways o! Incorporating cereals mu; the Diet

T0 nuke porridge o: rolled oats,

0f mum 0MB. and l teaspoon of salt. Add cereal and salt slowly to rapidly boiling water. Cook, stirring all the i me. until the mixture thick- vlls. and finish cooking over hoi water, allowing 3O minutes for cook. ing time.

m9 58""? Proportions of cereal and water are used for whole wheat or cracked rye porridge, but the - wvklns time may be ecluoed to 2o minutes.

As mentioned prev ously, any two of these cereals might be used in I - . tvlllbllliltloll. using half rolled oats

the first mlxure. Rioll out to desred thickness, cut and bake in l1 hm OVCll. Scottish Delights

To 1 egg which has been beaten until light, add 1~2 cup sugar grad- ualw and mix well. Then add 2-3 table pcon melted butter, 1 cup roll- ed oats, 1-3 teaspoon salt and 1-4 teaspoon vanilla. Drop by spoonfuls on greased baking sheet, about l 1-2 inches apart. Spread into circular shape with a fork which has been dipped in cold water. Bake in a.

blue crepe.

' and half whole wheat, in place of lall one kind of cereal.

moderately slow oven (325 deg. F.) until delicately browned. These may be varied by replacing one third of the cup of rolled oats with 1-3 cup i shredded cocoanut. Whle still warm , Grilels tire thin pflrfidges “ran. these cookies may be rolled overi ed. They may be made “m, co'a,5e lithe handle of a. wooden spoon. and i cereals such as rolled oats or finejthcy will look most. attractive for cereals as cream of wheat. Peolloiiviiervmg- the genflfal "mes m‘ °°°km§ will“ rniii, UIIIMSCG, Unsweetened Bis- “Fwls given above to make a grueli cults of rolled oats, then thin the pQr~ , . ridge with hot milk gr watt-p Flavgr One half pound of either cracked with salt or sugar and a little lemon wheat or rye meal, l-4 pound butter Juice, Stranfland rc-heat before i rubbed well into the mcal. Make ai

50111118. ,holc in centre and add about one- 1

GfllBl~—l~‘or Invalid: and Nursing Mothers i

For gruel from cream of ivheat half cup milk o: enough to make. use 4 cups of boiling water to 1 cup ‘mature of O01l§lStBIlCy to knead. l o: cream of wheat and 1 teaspoon Knead well. Roll out on board on of salt, and make a pOfTidge the i which a little whole meal has been same as from rolled oats. Thin with i dutcd, and cut into squares of any milk. and flavor with Sugar and a desired shapes. Rolling andreirolllng little nutmeg. Strain and wheat a few times makes biscuits less breakable and more palatable, and also they may be rolled thinner. Bake them in moderate ovcn until they turn a deep cream color—about 20 mnutes.

A little salt and cayenne may be added for variation. Baked quite plain they are delicious with jam or cheere. They will take th: place of other brcadstuffs. -

Rolled Oats Cookies

’1‘\vo cups rolled oats, 2 cups floifr, 1-4. cup sugar, 1 teaspoon salt, 1-8 wllslwon soda, f-4 cup shortenng, 1'3 Cull hot water. Max first five lne-edlents. Melt the shortening iii lwt water alld add u» the mixture. ,Chlll, ioll out to th n sheet, outwith ,5mall cookie cutter, and bake on iblmermi 511°“ .11 a. moderately slow

"W" i325 dez. r.) When cool put ttivo cookies together with date fll. ling.

Bran Dri _ 1 cup bran, 1 1-2 cup. late flour, 2 teaspoons baking powwiicr, 1 egg, 3

tablespoons butt/er, 1 cup sugar, 1-2 cup milk. Mx all together, cutting. the butter into the dry ingredients. Then add milk. lwlxture should be about the consistency of fruit cake. t

Entire Grain Nut Bread

‘TWO flips scolded milk, one third Clip ntbiasses or l-4 cup sugar, 3 19351900118 Salt, 1 cake yeast dis.

4 2 3 lilllls Clarsc entire wheat flour. and Bake m i‘ h“ We“ mad i0 the m 1k me sugar m. moL Here is a real old Southern‘ lugs“ and sum when cooled to mommy's recipe for hasty pudding, Illukevvarnl add dissolved 5,0,“, Cake, or corn meal mush, as it. l- com~ i then the flour, Mix well and covet mmlil‘ ltllmvll l" U10 sollllli lien stand to rise iimii it doubles in ‘bulk. Beat again and turn into "Ml-Y Puddmg igrmsed bread puns, having pans Put two quarts of water into a ma“ mu (n mm are desired’ 1 b2 smooth saucepan, cover and let it ycups walnut or pecan nut meats may Mcome will“? hm‘ °"'°" u“ m“ ,be added 1M0": the mixture is “H,” then add a tablcspaonful of salt.

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Answer:

bake in a hot oven 40 to 60 minutes.

‘pd into 34mg) Let rise again amLTake off the light scum from the

home-made bread every week

in

top. Have sweet, fresh yellow or white corn meal. Take a handful of

I do not tlilnk a nmn who is as weak as you are ls lc of keeping varying proportioml Wmemms “is a promise, or of being faithful to any one ‘.l'0l'llllll. E .-. t ' you arc a éywrlniltl: (gfofihoiidgrstiglcttiinispzlzlifi born philaiiries-t-r and y" '.\‘lli ncvcr bc zililc to resist ilie fluver of a pctti- 1 ‘ coat. ‘You \"lii uluajys {ICL up and follow. ipari’ o! whim’ gram m 1 pa“ of .____ white flour. Cookies made with rolled oat-s

I think your wife would be foolish to come bark to _von unless she loves you w) ziineli that she can accept your infli ities, realizing that, they are only surface attractions, tthat thr-v rrally mean little and Wlii i" they are only nuifacc attractions, that they really mean little and will, longs to her . :

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I knew a ease outr in which a woman was capable of this deep uurirr- i standing of‘ her husband. He was a gay Lothario who could icsist no; pretty woman and he had a hundred love affairs", many of which came to] his wlfcls DOiAPI‘, but she went serenely and apparently unlroulilcri on her way. t

. liig ]70\\'(i(‘l' and salt. Melt shorten-

Tlie last. fifteen minutes heat. in oven should be reduced to moderate.

(Note: Entire wheat bread should not quitc double its bulk during last rising.)

the meal with the ‘left hand and a pudding stick in the right, then with a stick stir the WBiOI‘ around

All Children’ Benefit

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anti iiceilii protulitiviq

SCOTT'S

Crushed Whelt Biscuits

’I'hrcc cups crushed wheat flour, 2 Clips white flour, 1 cup sugar, 2 tablespoons shortening, 1 teaspoon soda, 3 teaspoons baking powder, l teaspoon salt 1 quart buttermilk. Mix togrtlier flour, sugar, soda, bak-

ing and add to buttermilk. stir into

"Oh, John can t help being flirtatious," site would say,

tome; homo to inutivr. Anti lie treats mo as ii I were a lady love, too." 5:15-51; ipirgh wot-d, 110w m“ 1 gmp

But few wonicn can achieve this philosophy. and if a wife's heart is torn with jealousy of her husbands ‘affairs she is wise if she separates hrrsel.‘ from him entirely after she has forgiven him twice. Three times-i is to much. 1t shows lie can't be trusted. DOROTHY pix,

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Answer: iabcut to say. Bit/a of! your tongue Dear Miss Dix-I am a. young married woman"

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I andlflamitiifc disagiTcAcTI-iileniat timg andTgucss I don‘t make life any "but he nlvrmvs » too pleasant for my husband and he is so

r Just snap out of it. shut your teeth on the hateful thing you are

speech that would hurt your husband's feelings. It is Just a matter of My health is poor sell-control and you can do ii. if you wish.

sweet and good to me, ncvcr being so hateful? T. C. T.

EMULSION

oi Norwegian

Cod Liver Oil

RICii Ill V/lltifillflfi /\ anti D

rather than make the disagreeable

DOROTHY DIX.

What the Fashionables are Wearing

By Annabelle Worthington

It has such a pretty neckline. trhe snug hips give it smart sophistica- tion this growing girl adores. At the

center-front, there is an inverted

plalt to give the skirt ample fulnesa and still retain its slim line. The original dress was carried out

in dark hyacinth-blue wool crepe,

the collar being of light hyacinth- Note how the collar terminates in a Jabot.

The pattern also provides for long

sleeves as in small back view.

Plaided woolens, wool Jersey, wool

challis and tweed-like cottons are sturdy smart ideas.

For more "simpler best" make it

of rough crepe silk 1n geranium red or of brown velveteen.

Style No. 854 1a designed for sizes

8, 10, 13 and l4 yous.

Size 8 requires 1% yards 30-inch

with ‘A yard 35-inch contrasting.

Price of Pattern 15 cents in

itamps or coin (coin is preferred). Wrap coin carefully.

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and by define let fall the meal. wiieii one handful is exhausted. refill it. Continue to stir and add meal until it is as thick as W“ w" stir easily, 0r until the Stick will stand in it stir awhile longer. Let the fire be gentle and cook for a half hour. Turn out into a deep basin. This is eaten with milk or with butter and syrup or sugar, or with meat and gravy, the same as p0- tatoes and rice. It may be served hot or cold.