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Girl. 20. Loves Boy. Same Age. But Parents Of Both Scowl

DEAR Muss DIX: I have spent many sleepless nights trying to 11nd a solution to this problem; perhaps you can help. It may be I am making too much of the first problem I have had to meet. I am 20, am considered attractive, have many friends, and a good education. My parents never disapproved of my friends-until I brought Martin home. (methim two years ago. and he is the first and only person for whom my parents showed bitter dislike. There seems to be no good reason for it, except that he doesn't show much consideration for people except me, and drinks oc- casionally. He is 20. and still in college. His parents also have strong objections to him spending so much time with me. Now. though we love each other, I cannot stand sneaking out to meet him, or having him go to the corner drugstore to telephone me. I feel we would be better off apart. but he doesnt agree with me.

J. G.

ANSWER: Both sets of parents seem firmly set against the idea of their children becoming serious- ly involved with a sweetheart. You will both buck the same opposition with anyone else you happen to

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love. PARENTS DISLIXE OF BOY UNWARBANTED

. Your parents dislike of Martin is unwarranted. if his short-com- 4185 U9 not Ereaief than you indicate. His people seem to object to you 5019137 on the ground that the boy is too young to have a permanent heart 'ntereet. If you are sure you love the boy. you should continue as friends, using any inducements at hand to win your families over to this phase of your relationship, promising to postpone definite involvements to a note auspicious time. and hoping that by then the folks will be com- o.etely won over. Your mistrust of your own love, however, puts a slightly different aspect on the matter. It's scarcely worth making the effort to appease both families. if the ultimate result is to be negative. Why not try seeing each other less often for s. time, and perhaps your own doubts will resolve themselves. Keep an eye on Martin's conduct. too. Decide whether his lnccnsiderateness is due to thuughtlessness, or inherent selfishness, and whether or not his drinking has become habitual. These may be deciding factors in your personal verdict.

DEAR. MLSS DIX: I'm very much in love with a girl of 17, who lives quite a distance from me. Consequently, I only see her week ends. Lately she's been having dates with other boys on Saturday nights and I'm afraid she's losing interest in me. I know she likes me and I don't want to lose this friendship altogether.

RICKY

ANSWER: A girl of 17 invariably participates in many school act- ivities, some of them including boys. It would be very difficult for her to restrict her hometown dating to school days, leaving the week ends clear for you. Furthermore, it's not easy for an active, personable young lady to cut herself off socially from her; home-town friends. It would be necessary for her to do so, if she dates only you. Of course. it isn't easy for you to love a girl who is unavailable mos? of the time. so I earnestly urge you to extend your own dating. Be friendly with girls nearer you, even though you continue to see the distant one occasionally.

Miss Nissen cannot reply , new to readers but will snswel problems of interest throurh this mlmnn.

A Women's urealml

PAGE '.I.'W0 TEE GUARDIAN

SEPTEMBER 4, 1953

I1JnseeW.IertoII.lLD.

IS FEELING YOU HAVE AN AILMENT THAT IS NOT REALIJV PRESENT Many of us are apt to blame her- vous or neurotic tendencies in our-

A NEUIIOSIS

selves or others upon the upset state of the world and the occurr- ence of two world wars within a generation. It is only too true that there are more cases of neurosis (thinking you have an ailment when no ailment is present) now than at any previous time in his- tory. This means that we have more psychologists and psychia- trists than ever before.

In "Postgraduate Medicine." Dr. John R. Peters. Associate Professor of Psychiatry, College of Medical Evangelisis School of Medicine, Los Angeles, California. states that a student once said that "A psycholo- gist is an individual who tells you something you already know in terms you don't understand.

"All physicians see psychoneuro- tic patients and for the most part the family physician should be able to handle them. The psychoneuro- ses are a benign (not malignant) group of personality disorders, or disturbances representing a physio- logical reaction to personal situ- ation problems. These reactions are not under our voluntary control. The symptoms represent Ways of meeting specific stressm in life."

It is in the treating of a neu- rosis (symptoms present but no dis- ease present) that a full history of the case is more important than what the physician finds by phy- sical examination - pulse. blood pressure, temperature. Thus a mill- tiplicity of body symptoms not sub- stantiated by physical findings is a neurosis, "A person who has had four or five major operations is sus- pect." A person who is tired all the time, particularly if he doesn't really have thin blood or fever or some constitutional disease or who hasn't overtired himself by work or exercise is most certainly neurotic.

hr. Peters gives a list of neurotic traits. that is symptoms of which the patient complains but for which no physical cause can be found. "Headache, excessive perspiration. heart conscious, tremors. backache. twitchlngs. head noises. tenseness. apprehension. shortness of breath. loss of appetite. muscle ache. sleep- lessness. anxiety, palpitatlon, numb- ness. fatigue."

In order to treat neurosis, the

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OORNQ. BROOK. Nfld.-(ClP)- Two motorists crawled along in low nor for more than half an hour on the atqhenvine highway when

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Today in an engaging incident. Gage who manages to keep his eyes all about the place found in- teresting treasure. sheltered by over-hanging pieces of hay. there in a nest nest at the edge of the mow we must come to see. was a number of eggs. "I can under- stand why she would like to lay there," he nodded. "but how could a hen manage to steal past the carpenters? That's what I should like to know. Anyway." he smiled proudly, "I found the first nest - the very first one that was made in lhis barnl"

In an old barn not far away a pigeon is hatching. It was fortun- ate for that bird's peace of mind today that a parcel of bees on a

The swallows are still with us mak- ing the yards gay with the lift of their wings. And hailing the

of the chick flock sent out

window by the ladder barred a small boy's way to her nest . . .

bright A recent wedding in St. Mich

ter of Mr. and Mrs. J. W. McCabe late Mrs. Whclan. They BF0 Phi” performed the Whelan; Miss usher. Mr. and Mrs. Whelnn will

rift of this morning, crowing birds sharp funny calls to greet the approach of day.

And later when first shades of the sunrise were building colorful bars on our bedroom wall - and James offered: "Let's not lie here wasting the best of the day, El- len; let's be up to our work!" - a bluejay called from the bit of orchard which lies against a -hill. It forecast. despite the promised sunshine, the electrical storm of mid-morning. Dark then the clouds massed; the day how ominously still! Like the passing of a great train, the thunder roiled while the lightning cries-crossed the sky.

We closed doors and shut win- dows - and felt some concern for the children in school. We recalled

Boiler English

By D. 0. Williams

pres-1

I. What is wrong with this sen- fence? "She saw me previous 10 me going." i ,

2. What is the correct pronunci- ation of "impotent"? ,

3. Which one of these words is misspelled? Barrack. hammock. haddock, panlcy.

4. What does the word "alter- native" mean?

the profound hush which always , - descended on such occasions in 5' Wm” Ll A lmid lwtlflnnuin classrooms of old and saw again Mm P” ma" melms ex” "8 n

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the look of dread and fear in small ones' eyes. While these lads are much relieved to see a storm pass they manage to endure one fairly well.

"And how about you? Do you mind it?" we asked of a carpenter- helper of these days. a capable and quietly alert fellow. He chuck- led at the thought.

"When a fellow has come through what the first Great War gave . him overseas," he said, "hes not, going to get excited over a bit of st thunderstorm! Mind. I'm not say- ing it may not harm one, but . . ." he shrugged.

What did We today? Made bread, i setting it early to have it baked be- fore the heat of the day - and loved the sight of the sunny fresh-

I, say. "She saw me previously to my going." 2. Accent first syllable. not the second. 3. Panlcky. 4. An offer of two things. "If this demand is refused. the alternative is war." 5. Potential.

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For Tomorrow

WITH the Moon in Leo this

ceremony; Mr. Al MacLellan. usher; Agatha M('Cnbe, maid of honor:

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ael's Church, Cor ran Ban. united in msrr of Sianhope. and Frederick, son of Mr. (left to right) Reg. MacLellan, grooms Clare McCsbe. bridesmaid;

alnt John, N. B.-(Photo by Meyers).

A New York couple. motoring lb.l'I5llI'h bhb &Lllh. ran into 3 new ,wrinkle in hitch-hiking. Near Hon. Laiie. Miss. they owed a boy with 'a sign reading. "Stop at Bill's any iyards Ahead." Up the road was an. i0l.l!llO'l" boy with a sign saying "rm Bi .

They were hitch-biking "bug V, college. -

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Furniture Creeks

lage Gertrude Anlis, daugh- Whelsn of Ottawa and the lght Rev. 0. P. Wood who men; Mr. and Mrs. and Joseph McCabe.

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- Every family needs the ex trs Vitsmii.

By Anne Ashley

Q. How can I remove ink stains from my rugs?

A. Mix up a workable paste of milk and cornmeal, cover the spots liberally with this, and let stay 12 hours or. st least. Overnight. be- fore sweeping it up.

Q. What can I do about bare spots that show up on the backs of mirrors?

A. You can repair them by cov- ering them with tinfoil. Secure the tinfoil to the glass with "shellac. dark paint. or glue.

1 pinch of salt Put in saucepan. Cook until 3-hililii cool slightly. add 30 marshmallows. 3 cups crushed graham wafers crumbs. add 1 teaspoon of vanilla.

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washed fields and the smokey haze which lies nowadays toward the summit of our rim of hills, veiling softly the outlines of wood- lands. Liked too to see. when the work delayed by the storm was presently resumed, the walls of the barn being clad in a pretty shade of gray as new boards are covered by a "siding."

"Doesn't seem like finishing a building at all - not to cover it wlth mill-shingles," James offered. surveying the expense so treated when twilight shades brought him back to our side. "I don't know. El- len.' he commented. "but I like to cling to the old ways."

An old way took him to town to- day. whither of late to bring back "store-feed," for the maturing hogs. the little truck plies with more frequency . . . And it is an old way - and the moon preparing to rise! - which will take us present-

for events which affected his her- vous syste-m. Did he have a shock. or scare, or other occurrence in childhood or during adolesce ice which affected him so that he has been looking inward instead of out- ward as he grew into manhood? Did he play group games? Were his parents overprotectivei”

When the family physician has made a thorough examination and finds no cause for symptoms, and then gets the story of his life. he is able to give the necessary assur- ance that will, in most cases. pre- vent real or organic mental illness developing.

Modern Efiqueff

Q. Should all the women be served first at the dining table where men and women are seated alternately? A. This would be a foolish waste of time. The guests should be served in regular sequence. whether man or woman.

Q. If a wedding is to be. so small that engraved invitations dont seem necessary. how should the

dreams.

Good-night . . . . .

guests?

invitation personally.

Needlecraft News

6- by; Pa19.h(e Roy,

RE ARE SO MANY lovely household and fashion designs that you i can crochet. Crochet owes its widespread spies! to the fact that it is 5 easy to do and lends. itself to so many delig tiul interpretations. The ' simplicity and adaptability of the basic stitches tempt the novice to try her hand and challenge the expert to outdo herself.

Popular New Designs

In Crochet It's fun to work on dainty ero- ehet projects. Edgings of lace are always a popular pastime as you

cloths, bath towels, tlremer sets, etc. in new attractive colours. New crochet designs are a combination of old favourite patterns with the modern touch, so that your new crocheted pieces fit right into your own decoretingpians. Floral de- Ilznq ere attractive. in summer for making doiliee, luncheon eels or dremerp sets entirely in crochet or, as edging: or insertions. There is such s wide range of colour in crochet cottons that these designs can be worked in their own natural shades which makes them even , , more effective. Butterflies are an- . other popular summer pattern. This delicate (1 pi, worked in colour, makes a wonderful trimming for many household articles. Ruffled 'doilies or runners are lovely too, when usedtooavu'sndproteetyourtebletope.Theyesnbdmedetomstoii or bsrmonise witlryour colour theme or, in frosty, always fresh-looking white. Howe!-y Edging And Iluerlions

Right out ollthe dower pr-den come these little edging and insertions worked in natural hues. At the top lpluhy ark red cosmos make s bright bore er in a lattice of green. Bones use dell: sky-blue forget-me-uots and tiles bottom I row of peulefin shaded y llowl, fuehszas siid lsvenderi. three level motifs are designed in an insertion and ed pattern. Ilse them for your towels bed llhlilkgllot mats or hsndkere efs. Directions for mu. u... imoalu. soc oe AND msaarrosa In Ivllllbld ifyou seism ' i N H; fDepert-

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lbeneflcent day, the aspects are ex- jcellent for all sorts of social af- 'fairs. Dining out. attending the theatre. arranging picnics or sur- prise parties and participating in cultural activities should prove not only pleasurable but a means of mental and physical relaxation. Encourage new friendships, too, be- cause R. spirit of harmony prevails. Where business matters are con- cerned, it would be best to main- tain conservatlve policies and to clear up outstanding details. New ventures can wait until the more propitious period which begins in a few days. Romance and travel are favored.

For the Birthday

If tomorrow is your birthday. the

I ........ i encouragement from superiors and. , while you may have to wait I few months for the financial rewards therefrom. you sho ld find prestige enhanced and a m re solid fcunda- I tion laid for your security in the; future. ' You may have experienced some stress during the past few months but do not allow circumstances to! embitier you. Realize that every experience mntributes to growth and that each is a lesson from; whidh you can profit. Domestic of-l fairs should be exceptionally her-A monious in the months ahead and both social and romantic matters may be unusually stimulating. A child born on this day will be

prospects for the year ahead are excellent. Constructive and imagin- ative ideas should win support and

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