Women's realm

PAGE TWO THE GUARDIAN DECEMBER 11, 1951

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ELLEll'8 DIARY

8; an Island Farmers Wife

"I should think. Ellen” observed in the wake of a casual comment of ours at supper this evening, "that by this time you had arrived at an age when your mind shouldn't be occupied so much with the triviaiities of life -the frivolities, I call them. You should think of your grandchil- dren, if nothing else and endeav- 0llI' to set them a good example at all times.

"Now wouldn't it be better, El- len, if instead of running off- and how light then is your step, not a hit like the dragsy one you have when you ansu er some call of mine: - to practice for some Play or another, you'd quietly sit yourself down by the fire and try to interest yourself in some piece of handwork? You could if you were so minded. make a shirt fori one of the children . . . Yes, out of the remains of one of my worn ones!"

Was it baked beans we dined

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upon? Yes, brown from a spot of molasses, rather mysterious as to flavor because of the dash of mus-, tard and s1.vcrs of onion we had added, and of an excellent variety, Jennie had grown in her gardenl among the ttmzigcis down by the pond.

O 0 'Just think of the thrifty ways, of the mothers of the old days"l James cotzmtued. "Instead of buy-l ing clothing ready for the family's' backs, they brought home bolts of cloth and packages of yard- goods! They didn't sit themselves down to a bit of knitting from fac- tory yarn, and think they were being OYCI-WOI'l-(Cd. No, indecdl They often had to shear the wool from the sheeps' back, wash it by the brook - heating the water over an open fire in a great iron pot, and card it by hand, or per- haps send it to a carding mill. "And then in the midst of their other work - and mind you, they weren' just pottering about a kit- chen turning a switch or a faucet! they spun the rolls into yam. I can hear yet the sound of the little spinning wlzccl . . . in the kit- chen 'round about this time of year, when I'd come home from school. And some women spun on a big wheel . . . dear, dear, the miles they walked!"

"Ayt" we said on a sudden re- membrance ”and the sound was like an autumn wind crying about the eaves. It was 3 sad sound as though it regretted loosing the leaves and mourned for the lovely sights and sounds that were. But sometimes the spinning died away into a near silence that was like the gentle wash of the waves on the shore - a nice sound and in- clined to make one sleepy."

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James nodded, helping us and himself to a. piece of apple pie - the apples gathered from an aged tree in the sheltered orchard up at the other farm. the pastry made with a slice of lard from a render- ing which had followed the recent butchering.

"And then the knitting" James continued "what yards of it came from their needles! Not only pairs of mittens and socks, but long stockings for themselves and the children. and suits of warm un- derwear for their men." "But go on James" we urged "you've forgot- ten the thread of your discourse!"

"Forgotten, is it. woman!" he said raising his voice slightly. . . And there it is again, as he looks at the clock where the old hand indicates a surprisingly late hour, he offers: "You'd think we didn't have a bed to come to!"

Until tomorrow - - Diary - - Good-night . . . . 0

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That Body Of Yours

By James W. Barton. MD.

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THE GREAT MISTAKE OF LEAVING TUBERCULOSIS HOSPITAL TOO SOON

It is extremely discouraging for physicians and nurses in a tuber- culosis sanatorium carefully to treat and nurse 1 patient for months. have him almost recov- ered and ready to leave the insti- tution whcn he or his family de- cide he has been there long enough and he is taken, or takes himself. away. The majority of us would Probably sympathize with the patient. but physicians try to impress it on every patient that rest and rest only until healing is complete, is the only successful treatment .and that with a little patience. he will be able to return home and to work in time.

Apvery strong argument against leaving a tuberculosis ll1StilLlt'.(ln before treatment is complete was SW93 by Dr. Stuart Carey, Win- nipeg. Canada, to the last meet- ing of the Canadian Tuberculosis Association as reported in The Canadian Medical Association J0lll'l'l81- Dr. Carey stated that one of the chief problems in treatment was keeping the patient in hospi- tal long enough. I-lis study, based on records of three Manitoba in- stitutions during 1949. showed that out of 651 admissions, 305 were readmlssions. Of these only 6.7 were true relapses. Some of the patients had left against medical advice or -had refused surgery. some 27 were capable of leading a normal life but were possible 50l1l”C9S Of danger to Others. Dr Carey Spoke of an isolation center in England where the patients could live normal lives with their families rather than be confined to h05Dital. He felt that patients should be given a. frank explan- ation of their disease and treat- ment and a rcason for sanatnrium ages as soon as they were admit-

While I was visiting a young friend in s. tuberculosis senator- lllm. a new patient was placed in the bed next to him. I recognized the new patient as a heavyweight amateur boxer. He greeted me as follows. "Well, here I am. Doc, for the next two years. The docm, told me it would take two years to Cure, m9- 50 Tm Eolng to stick it out. ' This patient had been made ready to obtain a cure. It takes much less time today with the new drugs and surgery.

At this same meeting. Dr. G. D. w- Camemnv deputy minister of National Health, told the Associa. tion that successful treatment 01 tuberculosis was not alone drugs, surgery or bed rest nor did it stop when a patient returned home with his disease arrested or cm-ed, Further treatment was rehabilita- tion. providing occupational coun- selling, training and job placement and aoquainting possible employ- ers with the qualifications of

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DOROTHY DIX SAYS-

Office infatuation

Girl Should Quit Joli ' To Be On Safe Side A

DEAR MISS DIX: My problem began about four months ago when I took a new job. I am 18 and have been out of school a year. This is my fourth Job and I really love the work. the surroundings and the people I work with. But there is a man here with whom I have become infatuated. I know I do not love him but this infat- uation is getting the best of me. He is married and has two small children. He is 31 and has a very important position here

Whenever he is in the office I can't take my eyes off him. The problem is complicated by the fact that he feels the same way about me. People are beginning to suspect something is wrong the way we look at one another. He is urging me to go out with him. and so far I have resisted the temptation to accept his invitations but I know I'll weaken before long. , I couldn't bear quitting the job because every- one is so pleasant and I like the work. I'm so mixed up my life seems nothing but worry and tears. I feel so ashamed of myself. yet I still go on feeling the same.

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BABETTE

ANSWER: Regardless of your conviction that you can't change your feelings about this man, the one thing that you simply cannot and must not do is continue to float along on this romantic cloud that you've conjured out of the blue. You are headed for tragedy and disaster. You seem to realize the enormity of the step you're con- templating. but without enough comprehension to get out of the situation while you can do so with dignity.

YOU IVILL SIIFFIIB

This man is perfectly willing to accept the adoration of an attract- ive youngster, and might even go as far as to carry on a love affair with you. Then just where will you be? The heartache following such a course of events will be incomparubly worse than the pangs you'll suffer in breaking off all connections with this man at once. Thank your lucky stars you had sense enough to seek advice before it was too late, and turn your efforts to forgetting him.

Naturally the best thing to do is change your job. Since you've already had four in one year another move can't affect you too much. Then. turn your thoughts and attentions to boys your own ago.

Don't fool yourself into thinking you mean anything to this man. He's wrapped up in his wife and children. Though he is not adverse to a flirtation of varying degree with you. nothing more will come of the affair but more tears. and more worry for you. Be smart. Hand in your resignation fast, and don't leave a forwarding address.

DEAR MISS DIX: I have been a widow for four years and am 34 years old. I have a son of 12. I was in a T.B. saniforium for six months and thought that someday I would marry again and lend a normal life. Over a year ago I met a man of 38 and went with him for seven months. He told me he loved me and would do anything for me. I told him then that I had had T.B. He stopped coming to see me. and within five weeks married another girl. After two months he told me he was sorry he had married her, and that it was all my fault. I still love him. but have no intention of going out with him ever. Did I do right in telling him of my illness? That question always bothers me when I go out with a man. Should I tell them if they begin to be serious?

ANGELA

ANSWER: Of course you were right in telling the man you had been ill, but there's no reason for either you or him to act as if your ailment were something horrible. Frankly, from the way you describ- ed him in your letter tpart of which was omitted here), you are bet- ter off without. him. If you do marry again. you want a kind. consid- erate husband who will be a good provider-none of which this man was.

You should have a frank discussion with your doctor on your complete medical history. and ask his advice on your attitude with future suitors. Knowing your case. he is in a position to guide you in the best way. When you meet a man who does become serious, it would be a good idea to have him talk to your doctor too.

DEAR MISS DIX: I am 14 and in my second year of high school. My best friend and I skipped school twice, and were caught. Now my mother forbids me to see this girl, who, she claims. is a bad in- fluence on me. To be truthful, I talked her into not going to school. I promised my mother that it wouldn't happen again, but she still insists I do not see my friend. My mother is a very understanding person, but in this case she will not listen to reason. LOIS

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,then be the one to forbid a continuance of the friendship.

ANSWER: Have you told your mother that you were largely re- sponsible for the school-skipping episodes? She might view the inat- ter in a different light. but, of course, your friend's mother would If. is to be hoped that both you girls have learned a good lesson from the dire results of your escapades. Once you have shown evidence of being untrustworthy, it is very difficult to have faith in you restored. Your mother is indeed an understanding person, and she realizes that her daughter deserves a severe penalty for bad conduct. The only way she can be convinced that you and your friend are good for each other is for you girls to give a first class exhibition of good behavior. Keep it up until the black mark against you is erased.

DOROTHY DIX cannot reply , ally to readers but will ans- wer problems of general lnterestlhrough her column.

removed before mailing them?

A. Yes, unless there is danger of the ink smudglng.

Q. What is the maximum length of time before a person should acknowledge any kind of invita- tion?

A. An invitation should be ans- wered within one or two days if possible. or not later than a week when necessity forbids an earlier reply.

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By Robert: Lee

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I A country Garden A

Mrs. Gordon Msclullan

When I conside Life and in few years- A wisp of fox betwixt us and the

sun;

A call to battle. and the battle done

Ere the last echo dies within our cars;

A rose choked in the grass: an hour of fears;

The gusts that past a darkening

. shore do best;

The burst of music down an un- listening street-

I wonder at the idleness of tears.

Ye old. old dead, and ye of yester-

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Chieftains and herds and keepers of the sheep.

By every cup of sorrow that you had,

Loose me from tears. and make me see straight

How each hath back what once he stayed to weep:

Homer his sight, David his little lad.

-L. W. Reese. 0 O I

I have received a beautiful book from The Prince Edward Island Library written by L. W. Briggs on The Famous Charleston Gardens and it is a very wonderful book that anyone can obtain from the library or any of the branches.

Old and new. large and small. these gardens are described in in- triguing detail. With more than two hundred black and white il- lustrations and a frontsoiece in color, the book is practical, in- formative. and fascinating.

The author is a notable land- scape architect who has deslrzned the grounds of public buildings and private estates and gardens in the North and in the South. Mr. Briggs was formerly head of the Department of Landscape Archi- tecture of the New York School of Fine and Applied Arts. He has written many articles on lnndscaoc subjects and city planning. has lectured often, and has staged sev- eral garden features for flower shows. including the New York Flower Show. A: a gift to the Gar- den Clubs of South Carolina. he nlannerl the Memorial Garden in Columbia.

Concerning this book. Mr. Briggs has written the following message: "To see a beautiful garden radi- ant in the summer sunlight is an exquisite sensation. Securing pic- tures for Charleston Gardens in- volved many days of such delight- ful experience and with them came a realization of the priceless privilege that is ours who may so keenly entoy all the wonderful col- ors and forms of flower and foli- age. the lush green of grass, and the everchtmelng hues of the sky and clouds above.

In gratitude for this blessing above all others the author has assigned his royalties from the sale of this book to institutions devoted in bringing relief to those deprived of sight."

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For at least two hundred years

mous. Many have perished in tur- bulent times and with the chang- ing fortunes of the people, but new gardens appear each year and some of the older ones have been nreserved or restored: and garden beauty. ever recreated. maintains the traditional charm of Charles- ton and the surrounding Low Country. '

As Charleston was the center or. the social and business life of an' extensive area. the plantations within rt considerable radius have always been so closelv associated with the city that their gardens have been known as "Charleston Gardens" and are therefore prop- erlv included in this book.

In 1870 the English landed on the soil of South Carolina and took possession of the country and within the wildemess the colonists made their gardens. and for the first century the plants and the people who cultivated them fought aminst the ever encroaching for- cats.

Between Charleston and Sum- merville, formerly a summer resort of the early plantation owners and now famous as the Town". the moss-hung hichwav is a route of rare beauty and historic interest. As early 1707, well be- fore 9. bit of unmolested woodland had become unique, Governor John Archdale was so impressed by the local landscape that he wrote: "Out of Charles Town for three or four miles called the Broadway, in so delightful a road and walk of great breadth. so pleasantly green that I believe no Prince in Europe with all their Art can make so pleasant a sight for the whole year."

The mild climate and abundant. sunshine. with sufficient rainfall on a fertile soil have especially favored the Carolina Low Countrv in producing a lush and varied semi-tropic flora of great beauty and interest. Here. many membt-.3 of northern plant families mingle with the more hardy species of tropical types. Therefore it was natural that botanists would be attracted to this rich field.

Joel E. Poinsett was an emine .1. statesman as well as an accomp- lished amateur botanist. The Gov- ernment sent him as Minister to Mexico and from there he brought. to South Carolina our vivid Christ- mas "flower", the poinsettis. He passed the plant on to a Scotch nurservman, in lean, and so began the distribution of this popular exotic. and ever since this flame- l.ke flower has been called after Mr. Poinsett.

Actually the "flower" is a form- ation of crimson and sometimes pink or nearly white leaves around a tiny greenish-yellow center. which is the true flower. It can be grown out of doors In Charleston and during the winter one fre- quently sees it vividly displayed against a porch or in a garden.

OLD SCOTTISH CUSTOM

By ancient tradition. no scot- tiah cook cw mother of a fnrnllv will let the wichen fire die out on

Charleston gardens have been for