Irresponsible Male

Free-Spending Husband. Unpaid Bills. No Medicine For Hospitalized Wife

. DEAR MISS DIX: We been married for four years, and have two lovely children. I love my husband, but he doesn't mean to cope with responsibilities. Recently, I spent seven weeks in a hospital. He auured me that everything had been taken care of while I was away, bills paid, etc. when I came home I found he had lied. Nothing had been done, he had no money. and the bills piled up. The next day he expected me to get up and get breakfast. Then he departed on a. two-day bicycle trip. This is just L sample of the casual way in which he treats his obligations. This is the third time this year I've been in the hospital, and each time I come home to the same mess. My hus- band is 21. He says he loves me, but does nothing to show it.

MR5. A. T.

YOUNG HUSBAND NEEDS COUNSELING

.ANSWER: when you married a boy of 17, did you expect hi.m to handle his responsibilities like a man? He simply wasn't ready for marriage and utterly incapable, mentally or emotionally. of standing up to its responsibilities.

This lack has further been complicated by your awn serious illitrss. which kicked from under him the prop that held your marriage together-yoii, his moral support, and resulted in his com- pletely aimless actions while you were gone. Your problem certainly isnlt a hopeless one. but its solution will take patience and understand- fng.Pe:'sona1 ccuns .inc will be the best step for you to take now. and I urge you to nuke an appointment with a family counselor in your tltv

A Muriel Nlssen

DEAR MISS DIX. I have been going with a very fine boy for over a year, and nly parents only objection to him is the fact that his moth- er speaks no English. They like everything about the boy, who was born in this counirgx, but hold that one grudge against him. Due to pres- sure from my family, I broke off with him, without giving a reason. MARIAN S. in matter how embarrassing it is to give a reason for breaking ii il'l' p it's a lot better them summarily tossing a boy a- ride withcvii an c ..ar.aiinn. The narmw-mindedness of your parents :s a bit d;f' iiii. to understand. Living in a democracv as they do, they should realize. that our way of life entails some obligations-as well as entitling us to many priceless privileges. It IS incumbent on us as citizens of a free country, as well as followers of God. to be kind to the '- czitcs. Your parents. in their snobbery. are failing I . religious. and family dutia. Someone should awaken

ANSWER.

DEAR MISS DIXI I'm l4 and writing to a boy in the Air Force. My mother sags lm xirong to begin a letter with "dearest" or "darling". Is she right?

PATSY

ANSWER: Most emphatically. yes. The value of writing to boys in the servicc, both from your angle and theirs, is to keep your letters friendly. relzii.vcly impersonal, and completely unromantic. These boys

.vant checrinv up. not it sentimental involvement. Your salutzition ihoulrl he rVla..., "Dear Dori," "Hi, there.” or something else equally roricommiiai.

Miss Nlsaen cannot reply personally to readers but will answer iroblems of interest through this column.

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THE GUARDIAN SEPTEMB 1. 1953

Trainor-Walker Wedding

Baskets of white phlox, gladloll and snapdragons adorned the altar at the Church of the Most Holy Redeemer on Monday. August 24 at 9 o'clock when Miss Mildred Bennett, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Frank Walker, and Hugh Patrick. son of the late Mr. and Mrs. Frank Trainor, were united in marriage in a double-ring cere- mony.

Rev. E. J. Enrlght, C.Ss.R... who also baptized the bride, officiated and celebraied Nuptial Mass. Dur- ing Mass hymns were sung by Hubert McKenna and Aubin Rich-i ard, accompanied by Mr. Alex Mc- Lean, the church organist, and Miss Kathleen Hornby on they violin who also rendered violin solos during the signing of the register.

The bride given in marriage by her father chose a ballerina-length

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September? Ayel And "It's my month!" one of her many children smiled the other evening when, with some surprise, we noted its approach. "I love Sep- tember, best of all the monthsl" she said, "I guess because it's my binth-month . . . at any rate, I al- ways have had a high regard for it -a kinship you might say. I have always thought of it as a magic month, one," she chuckled. "in which, if you make a wish, it's pretty certain to come truel" ”Yes," she continued, ”my birth- day set it apart from the other months in the way that Christ- mas highlights December. It. nat- urally was an event I always an- ticipated for its excitement and surprises. That was one day when ,I was noticed and fussed over by lthe family and I loved it,, fairly ibasking in its sunshine. I liked il00- ml) 91”5- umugh the-V Wneigovvn of white net. over taffeta 19”” ”"15' '””e5 ' ” MW i"”'”lv-nil a fitted bodice of chantilly irihbon. a handkerchief or the llkeulate and matching hour”. H” lh”i'ui;lmY mliah (hall lgegnt l” '2" lshoulder-length veil of nylon tulle ,nr e Joy E.V B 01' 9- M 9 9. fu ' from a cornnet of icomd 9"” k"0W"' llpilzlirlzniarrlad lsllic carried a bouquet i Home my 93'9"” gave m9 3 M" -of American Beauty roses with ill” 3”” Sewmg box as 5 Kim ”;ivhile satin streamers. Her only marvellous affair, lacquered in a,.nmam,,m. was 3 string of pearls. sapphire shade with fittings ofltm. mm at mg groom. WWW Yellow Mm” msldl” "99 Miss Pntsy Walker. sister of thc ti-cushions and bcds for the scis-,h,,d,,' was h,.,d,.5mnm and im- WTS Emd '1'"? m11PCll0n 0f "9edl95idress was identical in the hricli-'s ,nnd threads. When not in use Win orchid shade with a halo of lcoultl be kept locked - which made 1 net, she carried a nosogay of it a treasure indeed! lmmed flowers, The groom was attended by his . ”On another bll”lhd5I.'v' I Wmemcicousln, Mr. Harold Trainer, Ncw ibcr well. when I was entering mviciasgow. N. s. The ushers were ltecm it was. they save me n rini;,Mr. James Gaudel and Mr. Adrian l . a little gold band set with n Lipton, New Glasgow, N. S. ,sapphire. Well," she smiled. "Was A reception was held at the lthcre anywhere a more bertutiful.,Qui-en Hotel for the guests. The ring than that one! Never. I'IPVE'l'l:l'lrlflD'S table was centcrcd with it ,l-low I trcnsurezi it and hoivlihrce-ticr wedding cake and vases proudly I wore ii! I kept it long of snapdrngons and sweet peas. falter my finger had outgrown it- The toast to the bride was pro- iand felt as if I were giving away posed by Rev. Father I-Znright and la bit of my heart or at least a part responded to by "18 groom. lof my girlhood when at last I gave Mrs. Walker, mother of the .it away to a deserving little girl." bride. wore a dress of navy crepe "And I was married in s.-ptmn-iwilh :1 sursasc of pink roses and pbe, E dld you kn.-qr-. E119;-,6 For me a neckpicce of stone marten furs. Where was no month nearly so love- Amld 5ll"WPl'5 0i 90”””l Md lv . . . with quiet days . .. sunny

"good wishes the bride and groom .and dreamily hazy toward the hor-

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lleft. on a motor trip through (Maine to Boston, Dnrchesfer anil

Mrs.

J. W. Adams of Ethelton, Sask.. has been elected president

of the Federated Women's Insti- tutes of Canada at its 18th bion- nial conference in Toronto. She succeeds Mrs. Hugh Summer: of Fonlhill, 0nt.- (UP Photo).

Mrs. Adams has come up through the ranks. having been interested in institute work since her mar- riage in I937. She helped organize a branch in her district and act- ed as president. She is also a pm-

A country Garden

Thou sre twelve months throughout the year.

From January to December--

And the pi-imeet month of all the twelve

11 the merry month of Septem- ber.

'I'l'usn apples so red

Hang overhead,

And nuts ripe-brown

Come showering down

In the boun-tiful days of Sep-

tember.

There are flowers enough in the summer-time, More flowers than I can remem-

ber- But none with. the purple, gold,

and red

That dyes the flowers of Sep- tember!

The gorgeous flowers of Septem- ber.

And the sun looks A clearer blue, And the moon at night

Sheds a. clearer light

On the beautiful flowers of Sep-

through . . .

vincial past president. and R vice- presidcnt of the national organiza- tion. She led the Saskatchewan delezation to the Copenhagen con- ference in 1950. and was co-chair- man in arranging round tables for the recent Toronto triennial. Only woman member on a six-

member Royal Commission ap- pointed by the Saskatchewan Govcnimeni. to study agriculture

and rural lliP, Mrs. several working committees. cluclimz those on education, i-cation, health and the home.

Saskatchewan Womenls Institutes, says the new president, have al- ways been known as Saskatche- wan Homemakers Clubs. Refusal to change the name to Women's Insti- tutes, as they are known in Out- ario and most other provinces. is "a matter of sciitiineiil. We have talked about it many times and tried to change the name, but it requires a two-thirds vote which we have never been able to get."

Mrs. Adams was not a daugh- ter of the farm She was born in England. received her elementary education in Calgary ed high school and university in Saskatchewan. She lives 15 miles

in- rec- rural

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(ember. -M. Howitt.

September is a lovely month in ithe garden as the annual flowers iare at their best. Last week I saw 'a wonderful garden in the eastern part of the Island filled with beav- tiful anriuals and perennials ar- ranged in a pleasing manner and lcarefully tended. I came home. to lmy large garden of almost all per- ennials and made a vow that some- where and somehow there would be more annuals here. It is true that there are Zinnias and quantitirs of Sweet Alyssum in mauve and white, also many bedding Dahlias and Tuberous Begonias and Glads planted in the borders but not nearly enough.

Every spare moment the last few days has been in trimming these borders of perennials that are through for this year and plans are made for (next year) as the tall stalks of early Phlox and Hol- lyhocks are cut down to make room

cook's corner

RAISIN AND NOT LOAF

it cup shortening

lb cup brown sugar

1 est;

1 cup milk

2.”; cups flour (not siffedl

3 teaspoons baking powder

1 "teaspoon salt

1 teaspoon vanilla

1 cup raisins

'4 cup nuts

Cream shortening and sugar. Add egg. Then add milk. flour. salt. van- illa, raisins. nuts. Bake 1 hour.

-Mn. Clarence Cur, North St. Eleanor: W. I.

season has been late because of the lack of sunlight. The Oleandcr that was wintered

a. good brown by cppl 5.1 'T Mix io drops of sa1frgi'lil1:'ifhfgrig,:', teaspoons of olive oil. Clean um” well first. as all dark apms Wm show. Apply with a piece of flannel Two coats should do it.

satin shoes

A cloth wrung out of Vinegar Wm remove dust and restore the luster of satin slices.

Buttons

1! you are sewing large button; on fine material. for fastcnlngs, me a small flat button on the inside at the material to prevent tearing Q hole.

in the basement and planted out- side when warm days came is now& blooming! Fragrant. soft, pink flowers wit.li a delicious fragrance tout of this woi-ldi. This plant was a gift from a neighbour who loved flowers and grew many lovely plants while on this land of the living. , 1

At the flower show last week,i notes were made on the wonderful: display of Dahlias by the Expert-' mental Station. This gardener is fond of the Cactus and semi Cac-

tus varieties and the loveliest were . St. Therese in mauve, Gra- tiola in salmon pink, Sunkist, ri

large deep orange. Hestia, a. creamy orange, and another mauve Cactus named Grace.

In the small Pom Pom Dahlia I liked Yellow Gem, Gretchen, Heine. a rose tipped white and Dr. Webb, a crimson red Pom.

for the later blooming Michael- mas Daisies and other plants. Quite a bit of thought is necessary ito have a. border bright with colnri land beauty for several months in;

The other moning. very early. when tracks were made in the dew! drenched garden. a glossy green humming-bird, sipping honey in

AI-ll-l, WHAT FLAVOUR

SUPERB,

the summer'and I am pleased witlillhe deep YEUOW Glad Called Pac- in new bordgr mar, 15 good now and iolus. rewarded the tired gardener: has been lovely all spring and sum- N0? the P-BTLV morning rlsllllill There, mer. There are double I-Iollyhockstis so much beautf 311 ETOUW1 grown from seed sown last year. I like these very much as they are not , so tall as the singles and look like

iizori; the 'river languid, but more 'solemn than lazy and very blue - .more blue than the sky; and the 'maples and bitches putting on itheir gay gowns . . . There was ;bright moonlight that night, I re- member with a little suggestion of

from the nearest. large shopping centre, and her husband has a wheat farm and a large herd of Herefords. She is the mother of two little girls, 10 and '7.

il.ynn, Mass. For going away the 5bride chose a cherry red gahardinc isult with grey accessories and a lcorsage of white gladloll.

CHOCOLATY

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i "Boast not so much the splendid dyes 1

Bismiinette-Doyle

and groups of Glads in aeparatel colors crowded close together sol,

By Am-is Ashley J.RS.U3S.l1.uUulL. . that they do not need staking. arei ' 2;

Q. How can I remove vegetable bright and lovely.

"My bouquet - but I'm tlringi you with old tales?" We Walled. Stella Maris Church, North Rus- eagerly. we who love flowers. llltlmo. was the scene of 3 was of white asters from the Manse

About a Milk-weed's purple head."

host, in its smug, we drove to y g uroses. There are also many late. Of cunningly wrought tapestries,

but the mings that come to I : How can l I I I Iibloomlng Phlox in very bright col-l Nor painters blue and red: ' 1 d, .1 1" h i h d ' ' I ' ' ors. Some of the finest colored hnd- I've seen three scarlet butterflies

RALFISIZE Slrybl lgitiy, ear mp E 0 Bug 0 l i l i ldirig Dahlias are in this borderi A-flutter in it golden breeze

For the short. fuller figure - a idrm that's both slimming and youthful! The bodice is beautifully

pretty wedding on Wednesday. August. 12

dtiled lth ft.k.sb , - . -.. I aecznvuzbie -piif; 5k,:?ei,l: sardon and fronds of llace fern when Ida Lillian, daughter of the an: fl':IlilK5h6ln:I1Ef:': igife sisiil. am A Tuber0ll5 3980315 3-'9, Plflgleld Household Scrap col: . grwgur mm Md hm lfrom that in the Manse parlor late Mr. Michael Doyle and Mrs. - F A P P ell 5 P in 3 new horde” SW" 11 3 A 9' -

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pockets. Pmporumed to mhdm ah bicarbonate of soda and chlorinated gm-ed spot, near the house and at

bits of th fm caught along I) .1 , b - th b 'd f Flt ht . . 31 305011! 1490 e 9 W e emme E H E 0 lg lime with boiling water and spreadiiasg, am covgygd with bloom as the

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This pattern easy to use. pie to sew, is tested for fit. Has complete illustrated instructions.

Send Thirty-five cents (35c) in coins (stamps cannot be accepted) for this pattern. Print plainly Size. Name. Address, Style Number.

Send order to ANNE ADAMS, care of The Guardian. 60 Front Street West. Toronto. Canada.

0 nine; Smile

The profemor was very absent-

minded. "Did you see this?" his wife asked as he came in. "There's a report of your death in the mperln

"Deer me," said the professor. "We must remember to send a lwreath."

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Retail drug stores in Canada had total sales of 8248,000,000 in 1951. sgairist 8l0l,000.000 in 1941.

version in plaid 'n' plain. Pattern 7019: Child's sizu 2.

is embroidery motifs. State size.

Send Twenty-flve Cents in coins for this pattern (stamps cannot be accepted) to ALICE BROOKS De- signs. clo The Guardian, so Front Street West, Toronto. Ontario. Please print plainly Name, Address and Pattern Number.

HARVEST AID MEJORT, Basic. tCPi-'rwen- ty-owo railway cars carrying 86 British-built farm tractors passed through here on route to Suk- stchewsn distributing points. They were part of the first 1963 ship cargo reaching Ghui-chill, Man. All scientific evidence collected so far indicates the earth is be- tween two and three billion years old.

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For her. September's child. and

for us, July's balm. shall we not Chantilly

find much to enchant us in Sep-I hember's "thirty days?" Until tomorrow - - - Diary- - -

Good-night . . . . .

Thai y Of Yours ..

Hy James W. Barton. ILD.

mat-ion pmbrerm. the white of the streamers -- Do Lieutenant Vincent Bissonnette, brides carry 'shower' bouquets son of Mr. and Mrs. Blaise Bis- Patiern 4775: Half sizes 1sV2,.nowadays Ellen? Yes," she smiled, sonnette. Staples. Ontario. Nup- 1895. llllo. zoia. 22”;-. 245. -Sizel”1 suppose I have good reason to Hal Mass was celebrated by the

I656 takes 37A yards 39-inch. love September and I find therein pastor Rev. Eric. Robin. istlll something about it which Given in marriage by her bro-i

the bride chose a of satin and fashioned with stand up collar, buttoned front! and fitted sleeves. tapering points over the wrists. The skirt was bouffant style with filmy not over satin. Her headdress was I halo of ruffled rayon net with a finger-tip veil of silk net bord- ered in lily of the valley design. She carried a cascade bouquet of American beauty roses.

Miss Elsie Doyle, her sister's bridesmaid, wore nile green taf- feta with metchlng headdress and mitts and carried a nosegay

ther Thomas, wedding gown lace.

R-EASSUR-ANCE RAE OPERAHON of Pernet yellow roses. Miss Win-

FOR CROSS-EYE

When the motiher first Lhat her child had cross-eye. there

ifrcd McMullln as guest soloist. and the Stella Maris girls choir

mluced sang appropriate hymns.

Flight Lieutenant Leo Corcoran

W35 3- lffflble 8h0Ck- She Pmund In close friend of the groom, was

her child going through life with this deformity and imagined the inferiority complex that would gradually develop.

Fortunately, today, when the mother first consults her family physician. he will assure her that while the eyes may straighten themselves. this does not happen often. However. straightening by glasses or operation can now be truthfully promised.

In the "Bulletin of the Sick Children's Hospital.” Toronto, Dr. A. Lloyd Morgan gives some good iadvice to mothers and infoi-mation to general physicians. "Some babies do not coordinate their eyes for the

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are crossed. hold a flashlight about 2 feet in front of the baby's eyes. The child will usually look at the light and if the bright reflexes are in the same position in the pupils of both eyes the eyes are straight. If the reflex is in the center of one pupil and to the outside of the other. they are crdhed."

Babii-s' eyes are tested (as are those of adults) by use of atropine up to mge of 5 years; iwer 5 years homstropine is used. If the eyes straighten with Itrophine or honi- atropine. it usually indicates that glasses will straighten the eyes. Unbreakable lenses are used and the glunes are tied behind the head of the younger children, if necessary. If the eyes straighten in six months with glasses, then an operation is neces- s

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operation can be done my time after one year of age and should be done before child .eIches school age. Dr. Morgan reports that they have found that better results are obtained by operating early film by wearing I disk over one eye to strengthen the musclu of the other

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eye and then operating end using eye exercises. What will be good news to par- ents is Dr. Morgan's statement .

and the ushers were and Lat- Station.