As a woman you.need to know:

- Sex-role stereotypes of passivity, submissiveness and coyness are dangerous and can.create a climate for sexual aggression. =

- Say no when you mean no; say yes when you mean yes, stay in tough with your feelings to know the © difference.

- Believe in:y-our right to express VOUE feelings and learn how to do so assertively. —

= Be aware of fe that prevent you front self expression, such as “anger if en = “being passive is feminine 3 =

- Be aware of specific situations in: which you do not feel relaxed and. i in charge. =

After an assault has occurred...

* Get to a safe place as quickly as possible.

* Get immediatéwaedieal attention.

* Do not shower, ¢hange clothes, or comb your hair.

* take acomplete change of clothes to the Bospital, as

the police may need your clothape fortorensic testing

* Make sure that the hospitaFknewswhathas taken place, and that a thorough exammanenisdene ==

* If you decide to report to the poHee=tetithem everything, even if you feel it may hittyeurease. Evena small lie or discrepancy can bé yeu Our in court later. 3

* If your attacker threatened you, be sure ote telithe

police. Keep in mind, though, that most threats are

just that - threats. * Call the PEI Rape and Sexual Assault Center. *

REAL MEN DON’T RAPE

Real men accept the responsibility to not harm an- other person.

1. Itis never OK to force yourself on a woman, even if;

-she teases you

-dresses provocatively or leads you on

-she says ‘‘no’’ and you think she means “‘yes’’ -you’ve had sex before with her

-you’ve paid for her dinner or given her expensive gifts

<=you thunk women enjoy being forced to have sex or “what to be persuaded Hie woinan is under the influence of alcohol or drugs

eo Rape is 4 crime ofviolence. It is motivated pri-

marily by desité $6 ¢entrol and dominate, rather than by sex. Itis illegal.

3. If you have any doubts about what your partner wants, STOR ASK. CLARIFY.

4. Not oo Sex of fot ‘‘scoring’’ does notmean

you are hot 4 ‘teal man’It ts OK not to ‘‘score™

5. No one asks to.be raped. Nomatterhowa woman

behaves, she dgés not deserve to have her body used in ways she:d6es not want.

6. ‘‘No*ymeans no. Ifyou do not accept a womans ‘‘no’’, you might risk raping somegiie Whom you thought meant “yes ™ 7

7. Taking sexual advantage ofa person who ismen-

tally or physically ineapable if giving consent (for example; drunk) is rape. fa woman has had too much to drink and has passed out, Gr is not in control of herself having sex with heris rape.

=. The fact that yousw ere intoxicated fs nota legal

defense to fape. You are responsible for your ac- tions. whether you are sober or not.

o==Be-aw are that # fan $size and physical presence can be intimidating t6a woman. Many victims repole that the fear the fear they felt based on the man’s size and presence was the reason why they did not fight back or struggle.

£0. Do not assume you know what your partner wants heck out your assumptions.

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