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Bride Viiio Plans To Live With ln-Laws Warned lllvnrce Likely To Follow

DEAR MISS DIX: Everyone says that it is not good for a young married couple to live with their in-laws. We are going to live with my husband's mother for about six months until he is out of college and guts a position. His mother says that she will be glad to have us. She seems like a very nice woman. At least I never have had an argument with her.

Do you think it wise for us to stay with his mother for a while, or try to find an llpafllffléfél?

ANSWER: It is a fatal mistake for any young married couple to go to live \\'ith their _ in-laws, whether they are his or hers. Any bride and

groom who are foolish enough to do this had just as well have a divorce coupon attached to their mar- riage license. This sounds like a sweeping assertion. but if you will think of all the wrc-t-keti marriages at whose autopsies _\oti hate assisted you will realize that it is nothing but the simple truth.

DELICATE ADJUS ‘HENTS

Human nature being what it is, living with Mama and Papa is bound to work out that way. For when a girl and boy get married. they are starting on a great experiment. They are undertaking to get acquainted with each other. to arijtii-t themselves to each other, and whether they make n sucisess or a failure of it depends upon their being left alone to do it, with no interference from the outside.

This is an impossibility if they are living with their lit-laws. If there were no on-lookers, John's and Mary's little spats would end in a kiss and no harm (lone, but with Mother and Father taking sides in the quarrel it becomes a major issue that ends in the breaking up of an- other marriage.

Add to this the fact that Mother can't help feeling that her son's bride should make herself a doormat for him to walk over. and that Father resents his darling daughter's husband not being a millionaire. and that both of the parents feel called upon to give them advicepn every subjcrt in the world and to regulate their every act, and you will not wonder why divorce is so common. You will be surprised that it isn't universal.

If middle-aged couples want to live with their ln-luws, let them do it. By that time they have learned to give and take and to get along with other people. But it. is too dangerous a risk for the young and in- experienced to undertake. Probably no other one thing in the world causes more unhappiness than sons and daughters bringing their wives and husbands home to live with their parents. In-laws just don't mix. Don't try it.

DEAR MISS DIX: I am a girl of 28 and am very much in love with a fellow of the same age. I have been going with him for six months. but he keeps telling me that we are only good friends and that I shouldn't get any notions.

Please tell me what to do. Shall I tell him I love him? Every time he comes to see me he keeps reminding me that we are only friends and that I should go out with other men. Why does he keep saying wa are only friends?

ANSWER: When the lad harps on the "only friends" theme. he is I-ust ringing the alarm bell to warn you that he is not in love with you and has no intention of asking you to marry him. He feels that he is doing the honorable thing in telling you not to cherish any vain hopes about his coming across with a wedding ring.

But I think that when he insists so much upon the fact that you are merely friends that he is whistling to keep his courage up and trying to convince himself that he doesn't think as much of you as he really does. Probably he doesn't want to marry, or he may not be in a posi- tion to marry, and he doesn't want to give you any hold upon him. but, all the same, he keeps coming to see you, which he wouldn't do so if he didn't really care for you.

My advice to you is not to tell him that you love him, for that will scare him off. Just go on being good friends with him and some day he will abandon the "only friends" myth for being Friend Husband.

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and drastic manner. Study care- fully underlying factors, look for pitfalls and "catches," then pro- ceed on a direct and forthright plan, although using tact and fin- esse. Subtlety and strategy might pay better than strife or friction. Similar tactics should also prevail in personal complications.

A child born on this day will be earnest, energetic and clever. but might also find it expedient to re- sort to the “easiest way."

For the Birthday

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Lisbeth could never remember the next. few moments very well. Fortunately everyoneJs attention was rivited on Gay. and no one noticed the stunned bewilderment. in her daughter's face. Even Jon stared at the lovely woman across the table. And by the time his at- tention returned to Lisbeth she had her expressions under control. vaguely, through that first thick haze of astonishment, she had heard Carter Everton exclaim. "A very pleasant coincidence, lVLrs. Ferris! One that makes me look forward to tlhis vacation more than ever."

Then Jon was asking, eagerness and puzzlement warring in his di- rect gray gaze. "But. Lisbeth - you're coming too, of course? Why didn't you tell me?"

Lisbeth managed n faint smile made her voice casual: "But I'm not going Jon. Gay and I don't

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I shall never be an artist. And wire my laurels there- But you'd really smile to see the

way That I can paint a chair!

I shall never write a poem, Or a story, or a book-

Btit if you'll come to visit us, I'll prove that I can cook!

I shall never sing in opera, No musician's plaudits win- But I'd awfully like to have you See the rug that I “drew in."

I shall never win in business,

It wasn't what I chose—

But some folks say I have a knack Of making stylish clothes!

I shall never be an actress, With a home in Iiollywood—

always take vacations together. And it didn't occur to me that you'd be sailing at the same time." i She hated Gay for making iierf lie. For making her lie to Jon, of‘ all people. The rest of Gsssys party was lost on Lisbeth. Afterward, slie recalled that there had been a table of contract, that. she had danced with Jon, and with others! to the music of Cassys radio. She; remembered noticing her mother; and Carter Everton, sitting on a‘ deep couch utterly absorbed in‘, each obher. l After what seemed to Lisbeth like an eternity, she and Gay were, at home. ; Gay stripped oif her mink coat} as though nothing had happenedf But her eyes were apprehensive.- She said. "It was a lovely party‘.

wasn't it?" i. Lisbeth! face was stony. "What' are you going to do?" t] Gay went into her bedroom and‘, Lisbeth followed her. Gay hungi her coat on a padded hanger, put‘ it away. She sat. on the side of hers bed. ' she said. "I’m going to Ber-l muda. Is there anything repre» hensible about that?" "It was meeting Jon's father-i made you decide. Why?" Lisbethi demanded. "What are you plan-f ning. Gay's eyes blazed suddenly. I-ler voice was brittle with fury. "I won't be pinned down like thatil Made w explain. It's ridiculousil If I want to take a trip, I will!" As abruptly as it had risen, her rage receded. Leaving her crump- led, there on the satin coverlet leaving her small and shaken and, pathetic. There were tears on her-l lashes. Her voice trembled. "Heir-l vens knows, I need s. rest, e: change. All tihis trouble of Bob's‘ . .. I've been under a terrific ltntn for weeks. Arid cruises an always more amusing, if one knows someone on shipboard. To- night. when I heard the Evertons were going. it just suddenly oc- curred to me that. Bermuda was what I needed ,too. So I decided quite on the spur of the mo- ment . . ." Gay's softly plaintive voice went on, but Lisbeth wasn't listening. Her chin was still high, her gaze cold, but the stem young deter- mination had gone out of her, leaving only despair and a bleak

her own advantage.

cure her. She couio only plead. "Gay. don't do itl You can't! You

i Cause they're all so sweet and good!

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But you'd surely love my children.

I shall never do campaigning, Never lead a public life- But you ought to hear John telling me I'm a most successful wife!

—Consta nce Vivian Frazier.

CLOTHES ADhCE FOR CAREER GIRL

Tips which are guiding one young career-beginner in her choice of office clothes may prove as help- ful to others who are also tethered to a restricted budget.

These tips were gleaned by Van- ita Jo Hardin, of Dallas, Tex., award winner of a magazine's fashion de- Wiiiie touring on a traveling fellowship. she held inter- views with hundreds of experienced career girls.

Vanita, who is heading for a fashion design career, says the girls she interviewed root 100 per

cent for neutral-coloured simple suits and classic dresses. These choices are liked best for office

year when hard-surfaced fabrics, Gay said induigently , "Don't ‘WW5’. darling. I'll manage. I'll

sell something. The vacation will do me a word of good. You'll see. I'm Wily sorry I can't take you clans. but that's impossible. If we both went it would look too much like flight. The shops where

[I have accounts’ won't get really

nasty so long as things seem as usual."

Gay Returned Engaged To Jon's Father

Lisbeth turned blindly. escap- ing her mother's hand on her shoulder the sound of her coolly calculating voice. She said thickly "You think I'd go — no matter how badly you wanted me? You

think I'd have any part. in this?"... O I O Ilt was the mlddc of March

when Gay came home from Ber- muda. She hadn't notified any- one of her arrival. so the first hint. Lisbeth had of it was the sight of Gay herself, radlantiy lovely, standing in the hall with a taxi driver behind her, loaded down with smart luggage.

(To Be Continued)

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such as gabardlne. are used. Rea- sons? They stand up under rigor- ous wear and are resistant to soil, reports Vanita Jo.

Her “forum" told her that skirt lines must be critically chosen. Rea- sons? Too straight a skirt it apt to cup in back after prolonged sit- ting at a desk. Too-full skirts spill over chair sides dragging hemlines on the floor, which means quicker soiling and more frequent trips to the clean s. Choices recommended are moderately-flared skirts or those with some back fullness.

This “forum: aired other prob- lems as follows:

Because a suit’: skirt tends to wear out faster than the jacket, an alternate skirt which can be en- sembled with the Jacket is good business. It will double the life of the suit. Best scene-shifters for “background” suits and dresses are inexpensive scarfs and detachable starched collar and cuff sets.

Better than spiurglng on high- priced accessories which may have limited usefulness is a fur scarf. A good fur scarf is much less ex- pensive than a good fur coat and a scarf can be used to dress up an untrimmed coat or to lend an ele- gant touch to a suit.

One smali-brlmmed hat used for wear with office tugs is a good plan. This gives a finished, well. groomed look that an up-and-com- ing career girl should have. Simple shoes with medium heels are a fa- voured compromiae between fiat- heeied moccasins which may look too collegiate in an office. and spike heels which are apt to be uncom- fortable for day-long wear.

SHOULD FORGET FAVOUBS DONE

By her own admission she is al- ways "doing things" for people. And they are always proving un- grateful.

Hcr trouble, of course, is that when she does a favour _she doesn't abide by the rules.

Those rules are:

1. Ker-p your effort from seem- ing us though it is u favour. Even though it is really a lot of trouble, take pains io-make it seem as though it's nothing.

2. Keep quiet about it. Don't go around mentioning casually how you fixed things up for Old Joe or put a good word ln for Susie.

3_. Don't expect dividends from the favour-even in the form of gratefuiness from the person who accepted it.

4. Don't remind the person of the favour at some future date. when you think he may have forgotten it.

5. Don't allow yourself to take a superior or condescending atti- tude toward the person. simply be- cause you were in a position to do him a favour.

You can build and strengthen friendships on favours-but only if you abide by the rules.

If you don't abide by them, you'll probably end up by making enemies instead of friends.

Because you're not doing anybody a real favour when you put him in a position where he has to feel

grateful to you.

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mustn't!"

Gay rose. then, calmly collect- ed, entirely in control of the situa- tion. She laid her hand affection- ately on Lisbethls shoulder. She said. "You're tired. dear, You're being melodramatic and absurd.

ing. Go to bed now." Lisbeth insisted duily, know‘ ing it was no use. "We can't ab;

ford it. Where will you get the money? You owe so much now-"

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EARLY AND LATE RISING AFTER OPERITION

Just. u Government health authorities had reached their limits in accommodation for mental patients, the shock method of treatment. -~ insulin, metrazol and electric - was introduced. There- fore, while there is still need for mental hospitals there is now a greater percentage of cures obtain- ed than ever before.

Similarly, in general hospitals where beds are scarce and only emergency operations are perform- ed, e. method of getting patients out of the hospital in a matter oi days instead of weeks is now in general use. This method involves getting the patient out of bed and on his feet for a few minutes the same clay as the operation. and for longer periods each clay there- after. t Some months ago I spoke of a surgeon who had his hernia pat- ients drive their car to the hospital Monday, undergo tthe operation. and drive their car home Thursday or Friday. While hernia is a simple operation with no pus complic- ations, even dangerous operations now are performed wherein the patient remains only days. instead of weeks, tn hospital.

In "Surgery, Gynecology and Ob- stetrics." Drs. Nelson W. Cornwall and David T. W. Lin compare 266 cases of surgical operation. in which Lhe patients were allowed to be on their feet at an early date. with 221 similar cases in which the patients were kept off their feet for a considerable time after operation. The method used where the patient is allowed up early is as follows: The patient is permitted to rise 24 hours after the operation, re- gardless of its type. l-fe is raised in high Fowler's position (head of bed raised». ‘his legs are swung over the side of the bed, and he ls assisted to stand and to a conven- ient chair. He remains there i5 minutes and t-hen retina-is to bed. The next day he does this twice, and thereafter the number of times he gets up and the length of his walks are increased until he can walk to the batihroom tinsssistcd on the fifth to seventh day.

In appendicitis and thyroid cases. patients are allowed to go home on the fifth to seventh day. and others the seventh to the tenth day after operation.

Why is this early rising after operation considered best ewm where plenty of beds are available‘? There is more room for the heart and lungs to work, establishing a better circulation of pure blood, thc muscles do not lose strength or size from lack of use. the patient is able to pass his urine and wastes from the bowel much easier than when bed pan_is used.

On the average, tiie early-rising patients are out of the hospital four days sooner, and have less than half as many complications follow- ing the operation than late-rising patients. \VH\’ WORRY ABOUT YOUR

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