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/ . {reemen rather than an lronbouncl contract, owing to the fact that economic

‘ iii In a word, a couple who cannot aflord to marry for many years should

' j upund by an obligation to marry that they feel in honor bound to carry out.

‘GE EIGHT . rm; CHARLOTTETOWN GUARDIAN

1 NOVEMBER 23. 1929

i A Womanb Realm

i: gDorothy Dior‘ Letter Box

ow Binding is an Engagement Ring?——Sh0uid if a Girl of 24 Let Her Parents Decide Her Career? Why No Woman Can D0 Exactly as She Pleases

Dear Miss Dix-Please explain what an engagement ring means and uld mean in this modern age. ‘If s. boy is in love with a girl and she is love with him, hasn't he the right to ask hcr not to go out with other

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- wer: An engagement ring is Just the outward and vis- le sign that a man and woman are betrothed. And ‘ is usually not given until the wedding day is in _ ht. However, this is a matter of individual taste ' d expediency, and a girl may flaunt her engage- t‘. ring in the faces oi.’ her friends for a. few weeks

. l The ethics of an engagement have never been settled either by custom

' ii law. Every now and then some woman sues a man for breach of promise

l cn he refuses to fulfill his engagement to marry her, and sometimes she

s heart balm, but oftcner she docs not. Some nationalities consider a

. trothal almost as binding as a marriage. Others consider it to be merely

w ti; option that a man and woman take out on each other. and that they can

fke up or let go at pleasure, if they happen to change their minds and de-

‘ TF0 that the investment doe:n't look so good to them after further investi- qtlon and mature reflection.

‘i 1t seems to me that the modern engagement should be a gentlemen!

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‘ifllnditions generally make it a. long-drnwn-out affair in which much can t, iippcn to nzakc a young couple regret the rash bargain they have entered ;Liw_ .

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;ve, nor from telling of their love. and it is natural that they should desire

I feel that they have some hold upon each other, but if they are wise they

‘lake thk tie a silken bond that they can unloose at pleasure, instead of a l fetter that they cannot break without causing pain to themselves and uiah to another.

‘ ‘lerely have an understanding that. when the time does come when they can lien-y that they will do so if they still love each other and want to marry. i , ‘stead of being bound by an obligation to marry that they feel in honor

p matter how much they have lost their taste for each other, nor how un-

' ~ j ood by marrying her two-or three-or five years hence if I had outgrown

y i during the prospect of spending their lives together seems to them.

i A long engagement works a great hardship on both the man and woman l cause it puts them in an unnatural position in which‘ they are neither fe. no: the liberty of the bachelor or spinster. They are supposed to be

‘to eaci’. cihr-r. yct have none of that community of interest that draws a

_ ‘ an and woman together. ll is a. situation more full of boredom, of sus- ‘ ion. of jealousy. of the hope deferred that maketh the heart sick. than

c y other on earth. and it is no wonder it gets on tlfeir nerves, and the vic- of a long-drmvn-out engagement are always quarrcling and always

aking up.

Worse still is their fate where the man goes ofl to seek his fortune and 1e woman stays at home to wait for him. Almost invariably the man ‘ihange: in his new environment and finds his engagement n. ball and chain

bout his feet. but he fccls compelled to go back and marry the girl who has iissed her chances of marrying some other man because shc had bound her- Jll‘ to him.

5o, if I were you, son. I wouldn't invest any money in an engagement , ing until I was about ready to, put a. wedding ringon a girl's finger. And wouldn't ask her to give up every other man for me. I wouldn't want to eel that I had done her out of all hcr other chances, and that I had to make

ucr. and Hie wasn't at all the sort of a wife that I wanted then. ; f DOROTHY DIX. O O ' I I I O I I

f ,' Des: M =5 Di.\' ~What is the duty of an only daughter? ls it to clay with v ner parents, or should her future be hcr chief lookout? I am offered the - 14111100 of my life to gratify my ambition and do the work I have fitted my- elf to do. but if I embrace this opportunity 1 will have to leave home, and '_ ny parents object to my doing this. My father is a failure. He and uzother 7' save absolutely no desire to get ahead and they see no reason why l should ‘I not be satisfied with a small Job. They insist that they know what is best , for me in everything, but, this is rather rubbing in the loving parent pro- , paganda when you are 24. What shall I do?

ONE OF YOUR READERS.

Tliere are times when a baby ll, . ,...... ~ 0,’... foo fretfui or feverish to be pun; to sleep. There are some pains a mother cannot pat away. But there's no time when any baby can't have the quick comfort of Castoriai few drops, and our little one is soon at easc- ack to sleep almost before you can

diarrhea, and other infantile ills. Give good old Castoria until your children are in their teens! Whenever coated tongues tell of constipation; whenever there's any sign of siuggishncss that

3 Of course, the lack of money does not keep a boy and girl from failing in '

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Answer: Go. Don't hesitate to get up and follow where fortune beckons you.

Opportunity has I. way of passing us by if we don't respond promptly when she knocks at our door the first time. ~

I believe in children doing their duty by their parents, and treating them with all due affection and consideration, but. parents have no right to ask their children to sacrifice their lives for them, nor to give up their careers for their whims.

You have your life still before you. They are old. Their fates are sealed. You probably have years ahead in which to achieve things. Their day's work is over. Just looking at. it from any standpoint, it isn't fuir, or Just, that you should give up all that you may do and have Just for the sake of giving them the pleasure of your company.

You are young.

I have known so many cases in which fathers and mothers have‘ blight- ed the ilves of their children by their selfishness. They didn't want to be separated from Mary or John. They didn't want to leave the old house in which they had lived so long. They were afraid of new things.

They had narrow and provincial views that. they wanted to force on their children, and so they kept John and Mary ticd down at home, or they prevented John and Mary from marrying the man and woman they loved. or kept them from following the careerthcy wanted to, and John and Mary's lives were ruined by doing what they thought nus their duty to their parents.

And, nine times out of ten. the parents would have been far better off themselves if John and Mary had refused to make the sacrifice, and had gone on and livcd their own lives and been happy and prosperous and better able to take care of father and mother than they were with their own lives failures. DOROTHY DIX.

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Dear Dorothy Dix-I am a girl 19 years old and I kn0w B 800d fill of both moral and immoral life. Your articles shock me with some of your old-fashioned ideas. Why should not a woman do as she pleases? Tell me where there is a man with so spotless a past that he dare question any man- ner of life his wife or sweetheart may have lived? I believe that so long as a girl keeps herself from being common, untidy, boring, she has the right to her own mind and actions. One more question, please. Why does n woman have to consider whether a man will or will not marry her? Certainly the day is past when a girl's only thought is of marrying. Why, then, must she consider her every move in fear that no man will marry hcr? I would rather go through life alone than with a man who was narrow enough to see sin in those lights. WHY. Answer:

My dear young lady, f am sorry you cmsidcr my ideas so old-fashioned. but the Ten Commandments are also old-fashioned. So is nature. .80 are the rules of conduct that civilization has built up through thousands of years 0f experimenting in the relationship of men and women,

There are about a million good reasons why a woman can't do as she pleases. Nature supplies about 999,999 of them, and there is nu good in arguing with nature because it always has the last word and renders the decision from which there is no appeal. The other reason is that '“ ', ‘ . tells on a woman more than it does on a man, and the that the woman who

goes the pace goes to the dogs before he does. Look at any blur-eyed, hard-

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marked the entertainments ll Rideau mu m: many yew- 1"" Friday evening's ball PIOVM 5° b‘ l‘ delightful and eaiovable u the" of former occasions. Their 1210811611818 the Governor General and the Vis- countess Willingdon have once new been most charmlnl I-l hm In“ hostess. Contrary to the usual 6115- tom, Their Exocilencics did not hold presentations. When the Bu"?! We" assembled at 9.45 o'clock, Their Ex- celiencies entered the ballroom with the members of their household staff and the bail was opened in n very 1n- formal manner with an exceptional- ly good orchestra in attendance.

ThsPriziccofwalesurillheadthe o- - list of society host's and hostesses Her Excellency wore a handsome who will entertain Inndon ls the black gown with her decorations, the Little Season gets into its stride. For Order of a Dame of the British Em- nearly twelve months al rnations o! pire, Our Lady of St. John of 5t- one kind and another have been gO- Jerusalem and her lovely coronet of ing on intermittently at York House. dflmond maple leaves. Nearly 1,500 and the Prince has at last got his guests were present and enjoyed the quarters there adablod more or lee! lilting program of dance numbers to his liking. Now he proposes i» "- and the elicious buffet supper scr- ceivo his friends there a mat dell ved in the Rack-lust Court. One of the more frequently than he has done small antcrooms was vised for the in the 95-"- lnd W “Willi! dill" serving of fruit punch‘ throughout as much as he has been in the habit the evening. The long tables were of being entertained. prettily adorned with silver bowls of

' ° ' pale yellow mums.

Autumn flowers in all the lovely tints were used Lbrouthout the vari- ous rooms. The Central Court of Ridcau Hall and the main refibtion room were utilized for dancing as well ls the ballroom, this being rather a new innovation ls t-bl lat- ter room has always been an ideal sitting out place between dances.

The lovely long Oriental saloon was thronged with guuis during the ev- ening, the handsome furnishings and putty ornaments being the subject of admiring comments on l! lidu. This room. In hallmark especial interspersed with private gatherings hobby. is e delight in every sense o! for his own particular circle of, the word. friends, at which the Prince will ' ' t have the support of his younger Mn. Palmer, wife of Judge l-Larold brothers the Duke of Gloucester and Palmer entertained at an enjoyable Prince George. More room has been mixed Bridge on Wednesday evening afforded for the reception of guests by the removal of‘ the secretarial Street, staff to another part of the house. ' ' This gives the Prince. for the first Mr. and Mrs. C. E. Mclaggan, who time since he went into residence at have many friends here, have arrived York House, the exclusive use of his ' in New» Glasgow, after some weeks own front door. absence. They accompanied their

g ~ ~ a daughter. Miss Marjorie to Montreal,

iAll the decorations at York House at the opening of» the McGiil Univers-

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scheme as a whole is likely to give’ the Prince every satisfaction.

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Happenings

Jug gtgnd aside and watch yourself go by:

Think of yourself as "he" instead of "L"

Pick flaws; find fault; forget the man is you.

And strive to make your estimate ring true. The faults of others then will dwarf and shrink, , Love's chain grow stronger by one mighty link.

where you, with "he" as substitute for "I."

Have stood aside and watched Y0"!- self

The Prince is very fond of the role host, and it is one which all his guests declare he plays to perfection. During the Inndon Benson he gave a. series of small receptions and din- ner parties, u did the ‘Disk; and Duchess of York. receiving well- known people often entertained by the King and Queen. members o! the Corps Diplomatique, and repre- sentative men and women in public life.

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Rev. Dr. W. T. Herridge. who was \ for nearly 40 years minister of 8t. With the hospitality that has 'Andrew's Presbyterian Church in .________i______________ Ottawa, a fromer Moderator of the General Assembly of the Pmlbyter- ian Church, and one of the foremost and best known preachers in Canada died last Sunday in London, Eng- land. where he was on l. visit. Dr. Herridgc was ‘l3 years old. Dr. Her- ridgeb first marriage was in 1865 to Marjorie Duncan, a daughter of Rev. Thomas Duncan of Bridge of Weir, Scotland. one of the most distin- guished Scottish divlnes. whose name is still a household world in that country. and who as pastor of St. James Church in this city is so kindly n- membercd by the older folk. Mrs. Herridgo pl ‘ecelsed the doctor some years ago. There were two sons and two daughters by this marriage. Gordong Hen-idge, a son, died a few years ago. Surviving are Major W. D. Herridge. son and Irene, wife of Mir. Kenneth Mo-Lachlan, of Arn- aiit . But. like other present-day'- prior. and Mrs. Gwendolyn McLlch- s... ::.::..-.-.;.~..n:=r::.-:-:.s.;i:.z 1-» -

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