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‘telligent Wife Whose Husband Treats Her as a Moron -+ What Treatment Can a Woman Expect Who Teaches Her Children That They Owe Her ' - - Nothing?

Dear Miss DixwMy husband has two cars, but do I drive one? No. am such a “careless baby" that while other wives are scooting about I home doing my half hour of instructive reading. When husband is away for a few hours, can I do what I please? Guess again. My lord and master .has left me parting injunctions: “Now, Baby, remember what I have said. You are to be home early. ‘You are such a forgetful child. Please remember carefully, won't you, Little One?"

All is tenderness, butI have to toe the mark and I am dragged away from parties just as things get going. At 9.30 I retire for the night and am tucked in by my jailer, who retires to his room. He decided long ago when we shall have our first child, which is about five years from now. Everyiilill! I , , do is supervised. Of course, it is all love, but I ‘iczzlkld rather he‘ would give ine a bla ck eye, because that,wculd at least show that he regarded me as an eflllfli-

But I am only a baby and vlhen I try to talk to him he is slightly amused and partly annoyed, and ff I resent it he gives me a new party dresF.‘ Yet I am an intelligent woman. At least I could be if I had a chance.

Now, 1 love my husband, but there are times when this constant babying gets on my nerves so that I almost contemplate putting poison in his coffee. Then I sit on his lap while he reads. Ugh! What a life! And what's to be done about it? ALICE-

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Answer: , - I" don't know. but many a woman besides you is miserable with a

good, kind husband simply because he forces on her a role for which she is: not fitted and in which slie is a bad actor. When the average man marries he treats his wife the way he wishes to treat her instead of the vray in which she desires to be treated. Which causes a lot of the mat- rimonial trouble of which we hear so much and leads to many and many a divorce. '

' It is curious, but true, that very few men ever visualize their wives as human beings, with thoughts and tastes and temperament of their own and an individual purpose in life. Most men see their wives as what they want them to be. Cooks.’ Slaves. Savings banks. Angels. Playthings. And they deal with them accordingly.

The man who thinks of his wife as a cook feels that he has done his full duty toward her when he installs her in a kitchen and presents her with a. puteiit gas range and a full set of new aluminum ware, and he thinks that she can ask nothing more of marriage than having a good home and a husband who is a good provider.

And it never occurs to him that his wife yearns to be regarded as a ‘Lady Lore and not a useful househo ld utensil and that she may hate and Joathe cooking just as much as he would harboring, carpentering or book- keeping or any other occupation for which he had no natural aptitude.

The man who thinks of his wife as a slave considers that belonging to him is blessing enough for any woman and that she cannot possibly ask for any greater diversion than the privilege of serving him. Having this great joy in life. he thinks it is outrageous of her to expect to be taken out to any place of. amusemmb or to have any more given her-as xvages for her hard work. i

And he never realizes that his wife may have an lndepedendent soul that makes it gall and wormwood for her to have to go to him for every penny and that marriage is dust and ashes in her teeth because of his petty tyrannies and because she has no personal liberty.

The man who regards his wife as aqsavings bank thinks she llflts a kick out of pinching nickels and nursing dimes and that she flies on winged feet forty blocks to a mark-down sale or a cut-rate butcher shop. He thinks she gets a greater thrill out of knowing there is $50 more in the bank than she would out of a new dress or a trip to Europe.

And it never occurs to him that wife may not have the mlser com- plex and that she dies of envy of the women who have generous hus- bands who give them pretty things and that in her secret soul she des-

The man who looks upon his wife as an angel believes that she pos- sesses some miraculous power that enables her to forgive and forget all his slnaagalnst her and to love him still, no matter how drunken, how no-account, how unfaithful he may be to her.

And it never occurs to him that his wife didn't marry to get a. weak- 11118 01' B PhUB-Ilderel‘ fOl‘ a mate, but that she wants a husband whom she can honor and respect.

The man who wants‘ a plaything in a wife thinks that all he has to do to make his Wife perfectly nanny ls w doll i161‘ up in flnery and to take hcr around to places of amusement and relieve her of all responsibility.

rAnd it doesn't occur to him that his wife may have a heart and brain

1nd resent being regarded as a moron and a weakling and long to be < ‘ treated as a companion to her husband. ’ '

DOROTHY DIX. , I I I i! I I I I

Dear Miss Dix-I am in my 60s and live with a married daughter who She often remarks that no child owes anything to its parents, that the parents brought the child into the world

y without its consent. therefore, all the talk of children's duty to parents

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.. c Paris Styles . 1 _ By MARY KNIGHT (United Press Staff Correspondent)

PARIS, Sept. 4.-(U. PJ-When Mlle. Gabrielle Chanel, that maker of marvelous Parisian frocks, gave her last party she erected l. huge tent of gold tissue in her gorgeous garden and covered one end of the pavilion with a-screen of flowers. Two orchestras fur- nished dance music for her very cosmopolitan guests.

It goes without saying that the evening gowns exhibited on this occasion were creations for the eyes of the gods. An abundance of white bore out the testimony from many quarters that this non- color color (what else is there to call it?) will never be demode. Neither will black. Neither Wlll the combination of the two.

Green is a Chanel favorite. And such delightful shades of green as she succeeds in getting is almost magic. Her system of tuckings in exquisite lines and flourishes keeps. simplicity from severity on the one hand, and from the border-line of ornateness on the other. Satin drapings and lacs ruflling are two other Spec. ialtles of the Rue de Cambon creator of the mode.

Chanel beads, perfume and pocketbooks command hours of at- tention for their workmanship is perfect in detail and none of

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The engagement of Lady May Cam- brldgeythe Queen's niece, to Cap- taln nenry Abel Smith, is describ- ed by a friend of them both as "a simple love match." When Lord Athlone went back to south Africa from leave at home two years ago he took Captain Smith with him as aide-de-camp. The engagement re- calls the fact that Captain Ram- say, who married Princess Patricia, was alde-cle-camp to her father, the Duke of Connaught, when he was in Canada.

Lady May Cambridge-she was christened "May," the diminutive by which the Queen was known as a Princess-is 25, Captain Smith is 32. Prom ‘the time of Princess Mary's marriage until her father's appointment as Governor-General took her to South Africa, Lady May Cambridge was often the com- panion of the Queen, who is very fond of her niece. She is, to quote an informant, “a fine, straightfor- ward, sensible girl," a great reader in French and German as well as English, fond of outdoor life, and "a beautiful shot." Captain Smith, who is a handsome Guardsman, belongs to an old, banking family with interesting social affiliations, and is well known to the‘ Royal Family. The marraige will take place at Lord Athlone's house in Sussex, some time in October. I I I Mrs. James George of Toronto. who has been a. summer visitor at Bracklcy Beach for many years is at Present stopping at the Cana- dian National Hotel renewing old friendships in Charlottetown, and has been the guest. at several soc- ial gatherings in her honor. I I I

Mr- and Mrs. T. B] Woodman have as their welcome guest Mrs. Woodmans niece, Mrs. Hugh And- erson of New York, who is being much entertained. Her hostess gave a most enjoyable Bridge in her honor Tuesday.

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t " Spirit serene-L 1 . . Strength for the daily task,- courage to face the road; Good cheer to help me bear the traveller's load, :-

Amflfor the hours of rest that come between,- An inward joy in all things’ - is

Rev. Mr. and Mrs. R. Moorhead

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minds.

is all bosh. Imagine how a mother feels who has this constantly im- pressed upon her! What license will my daughter's children take with her with these views impressed upon their minds?

As we sow, we reap, and I think your daughter will harvest witli- tears and bitterness the wrong ideals that she is sowing in her children's

For she will not want her children to treat her as she is treating her

Q. wnat lettering is best for per- sonal emu ' ' i, ' A. Roman or script lettering.

meats for a children's, party? _ A. Ice cream, cake, candles, or light nuts. ' Q. Should a woman remove her glove to ahaks hands? A. No, it is not necessary.

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Legato have as their guests at Bt- James Manse their youngest son. Mr. John J- IABI-tc of Mon- ti-eal, and their dcughtcr-m-law, Mrs. R. Moor-head Legato, Jr., and mg proxy’ Wm‘ w“ J_ A Bu“, now her little son Bob-also of Montreal. o‘, 1.0mm‘). but than mm‘ m Bu? The visitors arc being cordially vme‘ welcomed on their first visit. , , , ' ' ' Mrs. Dunbar, who has been vis- Miss mam‘ ma“ w“ ‘he iting her son, Mr. WJ-LV. Dunbar We“ °t h°“°' “t 9' charming t“ and Mrs. Dunbar, is leaving today Yesterd“? ‘nemmn m‘ m‘ cm‘ on return to he: home in Guelph. adian National Hotel, the hostesses on,“ being Miss Dorothea Stewart and , , . ‘Mm mm“ ‘Hutaw’ m“ 3”!“ Sir Andrew MacPhail accompan- leaves Sunday morning for Mont- led by ms broth“, 00L Mlcphau, ""1 “h” h" mamlli" i‘ i” ‘like and his sun-in-law, m. Lindsay left place early next month. yesetmay mwnmg on "tum to ' ' ' . Montreal where it is hoped Sir An- m- ‘md Mn‘ 1"‘ Dim” and drew will soon regain his health. - daughter. Mrs, ~McLaughlin, who , , , have been holidaying hers left ML and Mm A D. Cartwright Tuesday by motor for their home and them son; M,‘ Robert Cub i“ Avmel- N- '7' wright, who have been spending the ' ' ' summer at Brackley Beach have Mrs. C. A. Lamb who has been h“ Onretum w otmwm spending the summer with her _ , , , mother, Mrs. J. A. Measervy left» ML and ma fled L’ Jarvis who Tuesday m’ T°r°m° where ‘he Wm have been summering at Brackley be joined by Mr. Lamb. After vis- mach returned to Toronto m,‘ iting the Exhibition for a few days week’ they will motor to their home in , , . ll/"mesier- °i"°- ' The Chief Justice and Mrs. Ma- ‘ ' ' thieson are returning from their Mi” D°r°thy Mcwna“ h“ 5°“ summer home in Georgetown today. up to Boston on a. holiday visit ~ , , , relauves- ‘ Mrs. (Dr.) Scannel who has been visiting in Georgetown left this The"? b l‘ W“? matm“ m W‘ morning for her home in Boston. ronto-Mrs. Robert McCaughsy, , , , NW‘ hY°n3° Bmiewwh“ hapm“ Mrs. Richardson of Toronto, who to be a. namesake o‘! Lady Jellicoe. has been summering at Shaw." Lady Jellicoe and Mrs. Mwaughey‘: Brukley Beach’ ,5 new the guest mmhei- the“ M155 May Limham’ of her friend, Mrs. A. A. Bartlett, of Bellevllle, were girlhood friends who entertained m he‘. honor wed_ in the Old Country, and there was Dada,“ a pact that if ever the Canadian . . , Bill mallied and 1W1 a daughter» "res at the Golf Links this after- that that daughter was to be called noon Wm be served by M118. a H‘ B Fimme Gwelldmn- M's-i Ulllmm mngwoi-th, Miss M. Haszard, Miss later became Mrs. Stephen Lazier, M_ Brown’ M158 K Brown’ ML“- N‘ and when a fair-haired girl baby Longflmh, . arrived, she was given the pretty, , ,, , softly-flowing name, Miss caroll of The m, hustesses on Labor my 5L 5915' schwlv-m the ‘building are Mrs. O. G. Duffy, Mrs. E. T. of which the baby's grandmother Hing, ma A a Flsher, Mm c’ a had had such a large share, stand- mammoth M155 Margaret stenm I I I- _ Jean, young daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Reuben McDonaldyhad ahlce birthday party at her home yes- terday afternoon. I I I Empress Eugenie hats are sweep- ing everything before them in the millinery world, for even dresses are following the mode. But are we to see on Charlottetown streets on niepy afternoons this winter, tiny

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A FORLORN MOTHER.

Q. What are the proper refresh-

' were to which they_could flee in any time of trouble, no memory of how

own mother. She will not want to feel that they have no sense of obliga- tion to her, that they have no gratitude for all the sacrifices she has made for them, no appreciation of her love, "no memory of the long’ nights she watched by sick beds," of the times she has sat up to all hours so that they might have a new' frilly dress for a party, or the hdurs she has spent over the cooking stove making the kind of pie they like, no memory of how soft mother's breast was and what a. refuge her arms la mother was never'too tired or sick or busy to amuse them or comfort them or to enter into all their plans and hopes.

TOFOIWO 0n Monday afternoon. U I '

only done her duty by them when she has given them twenty years of her life, and that when they are able to stand alone and go on their own that they are free to go away and forget her. She will want them to

barrel muffs? These long-forgotten Vlllities. White satin or crepe dc- flrticlei are belns displayed as the fillies shoes are preferred to those very newest!

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Greeilns ofl-Iis Royal Highness

the Prince of wales to the Canad-

n National Exhibition and his

best wishes for its success, were QOBVBYBd by Earl Jellicoc of Jut- land, Admiral of the Fleet, when he

No. Your daughter will not want her children to feel that she has “ncmly "Veiled “l6 annual 1M1‘ in

Mr. and Mrs. Stewart Beal and

feel that they owe her a debt that can only be repaid by tenderness and 5°" B“: w!“ m" Well limit-ii!!!

her old age.

consideration and by their feeling that it is a privilege to cherish her in ‘he Slimmer ill the city left Tues-

dBY by motor for their home in We-‘llmflllllt. P- Q‘. accompanied by

ing them that a mother is merely an upper servant whose duty it is to serve them and that when they no longer need her work they are free to discard her? How can she expect them to honor her when she does

bore her?

No women are to be so much pltied as the mothers whose children w are ungrateful and unappreciative and who show them that they con- A

could, at least, have their own self-respect, than they are in the homes of their children, where they know themselves to be unwelcome guests.

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' But how can she expect this if by precept and example she is teach- “'5' winme Wriiiil Who his been Bum ill! in Summersidc.

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not honor her own mother? How can she expect them to be tender to- Md Y0"!!! son Bill left Wednesday ward her when she has no compassion or tenderness for the woman who f" the" Mme i" “T01R0-

I I I Dr. and Mrs. Keir of Alberton lth their daughter. Mrs- Clyde llid of ‘Ibronto, were among the

sider them burdens. I often wonder that such women do not realize visitors here this week. Mr. Auld re- how much happier they would be in some old ladies’ home, where they Wm“! l0 T011711"! M01148?-

I I I Mrs. n. Morris. with ' m: two

‘ Bl" he showed himself a bit of a

SPONGI OAKS

Sift cake flour once. than msssuré it cup, add to it i6 teaspoon II-it. 6 dessertspooas of cocoa, and sift four times. Separate the yolks from the whim of iivc qgc. To theyolks add l tablespon lemon Juicqcnd beat well until tbick- and lemon- colored. ‘This beating is important, as the unbeaten yolks would make the caks leathery. Fbld l cup cifwd sugar into the stlfllybcaton whitcs of the five eggs, then fold in yolks and then ths flour mixture. Bake in an ungrcascd tube pan in a slow oven for about b5 minutes, rcmovc from oven, invert pan on a cake rack until cold. Serve. the same day as it is baked. - '

bright young sons and daughter left Monday on returifto Sydney, hav- ing spent the holiday season at their summer cottage on Brighton shore. .- I I I

Miss _Evelyn Sinclair has entered upon hei- duties as private secre- tary to the Premier, Hon. J. D. Stewart.

I '0 c _c i The outstanding event of the week was the Spectacular Air Psg. eant on Monday attended by thou- sands of citizens. young and old, wiio cordially welcomed the visiting Trans-Canada Airmcn- Several social events were also held in the visitors’ honor including a buffet- luncheon at Upton Farm, when Dr. J. S. Jenkins and Mrs. Jenkins in- vited other friends to meet the air- men, dlnner at the Canadian Na- tional Hotel and a lolly dance at Beach Grove Inn with the Gyros as the hosts. It was a day long to be remembered in Char’ ttetown. I I I

Mrs. A. E. Strubel, with her dfilldilim‘. Miss Alice Strubel, and Miss Dora Ducheniein, of Sydney, arrived home Wednesday after llevllls spent the summer “in Bay Fortune.

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At the Tennis Courts this after. noon the tea hostesses will be the Misses Rattenbury, Dorothy Bent- ley, Pauline Nicholson and on Mon-. d"- Mi-‘Bes W004. Cecil» Shannon,| Edna Gordon. i i '

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One of the smartest Paris color schemes for evening still. “mam; white satin worn with red coral Jewelry. At the i-ecenLopenmg of the, opera, .a. large mniorlty-of- the fashionably dressed women the audiences wore this color combin- ation. _

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As Paris wears it, the coral-and. white combination is kept clear of Elly other. Any Jewels at all are of coral, and coral accents accessories‘ such as begs. cigarette cases, and

of red or anyothcr color. _ I I I ‘ _ < ; . Viscount Brocas maybe only 1g years old. but he i155 all the 11mm. ed. Salli-nay and courtesy- of- his sailor-father, Earl Jelllcoc. He‘ and hi! father. a together with no. George Ravioi- and M", Raykn- o; Piliifldeiphia. parents of u"; glfl who later won the women's ma“. thoh swim, wen: standing watching events on the wow Opposite the fin- I-shlns Point. They were talking about the swim, _of course, and mm there in front of them was Mar. garet Ravior. with ; her pink" up bobbins alone in the water, aims of all other comers, - ~ - - I I I‘ .

- The young Viscount likes Canada; he told the reporters so, And he also likes the Toronto Exhibition

diplomat, when, after he had been but two minutes at the, waterfront and was asked what hs thought of the swim, he answersdy"! don't think of it at all. so fsri" Later, as the littls party was about to break

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Mothsrv will welcome this cute model as well as tiny daughter.

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