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Grown Children interfere With Father's Remarriage

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DEAR MISS DIX: An old maid, 50 years old, married a widoweri

or 6O who has tivo daughters, married and living in another country.’ The wife is n splendid woman who does everything to make her hus-

band comfortable zirid to help him and they would be very happy to-‘

gcther cvccpt thzit his daughters have made the man feel that he tiiii . veiy wrong in marrying again and putting somebody in

their mother's place. They flood him with letters filictii witii "Mother" and how they miss her, about her stif- forxies, her death, her grave. ho\\' they can never get over her death and so on and to please them he buys

costly floral designs with the ivord "Wife" in lcirgoi

lc‘t~rs to place- on her crave. Ho never gives his wife I a flower or present of any kind. Everything goes to

’ the cemetery. This makes my friend very unhappy and i

lhe szzys if this goes on she is going back to her old home and leave him |

i-("iters m} Ml l!!! UNIT lemon-in. What do you thini: ~

she Nioulii do‘?

A FRIEND

I think she should first have a plain talk with her hus- hiri see what a folly his daughters have drivcni lil’l(i then she should tell him frankly that siic‘ second fiddle to a grave and that he can iukt; his filOiCf‘ hem-ran a live wife anti u dead one. l

Tho rcni \ iriins in this case are the daughters whose jcalot's_v., mixed \‘.'iiil ni-iriili st-ntinietitziiity, is making them wreck their father's} iiii», TI it'll t1i.it it is romantic for their father to go on niourliin t‘ their i :i:iii i-zecping her grave decked in flowers. They don't; ivant to be hntipy. They don't want him to forget. And so thcv keep stirring him up hi; the time about their mother's death and that‘ is a mean rind selfish t ing to do.

\\'hen chiirirc-n interfere with their middle-aged parents‘ itiarriage and prevent them ~ironi taking suitable mates. as they’ often do, they do a very wrong and foolish thing and one that very often becomes the boomerang that annihilates themselves.

For when they keep father and mother from marrying and main- taining their own homes, they automatically acquire father and mothe: as permanent fixtures in their o\vn homes and that seldom makes for the peace and harmony of the establishment. For sons-in-iaiv rind fifillgillefS-ih-ilfll‘ are not keen about having their husbands‘ and wives’ parents live with them.

A widower is a particularly helpless creature. He is like an animal that has been house-broken and who does not know ho\v to take cure of himself when he is thrown out again into the wild. He is accustom- ed to the comforts of his own home, to being the head of the house, to having a wife take care of him and to feminine society and he is miser- able without these whether he tries to live in his children's homes or in clubs or hotels.

So if children really loved their fathers they should be glad and thankful that some nice woman of his own age had taken him in charge and made a home for him. Many a stepfather and mother saves o man's and woman's own home.

DOROTHY DIX

DEAR DOROTHY DIX: Is a man of 67 too old to marry‘! Should he marry a woman less than 407 B c A. . .

ANSWER: Certainly I mun of 67 is not too old to marry. That is Vhe prime of life now, and if a man i: strong and healthy he has many years of life yet to look forward to.

I think that. middle-aged people are very wise to marry, because they need companionship during tho last lap of the journey more than they do at any other time along the road. The young can step out and go places and do things. They can find amusement and society, but when we get to the time of life where we want to stay put we want some- body across the lamp to whom We can say: "Do you remember?"

But: I think a woman under 4O is too young for a man 67, unless she happens to bo of a particularly staid disposition. Otherwise she would not have tho lame interest: nor have the some background as the man.

But after 30 age does not count. It la u matter of disposition and character. I know men and women in their 80': who are still mere laughing, light-hearted lads and lassies, and I know other: in their 20's who are a: old a: Methuselah.

DOROTHY DIX

DEAR MISS DIX: What do girl: think of tho married man who flirt: with them? Would they marry such a mun knowing what he is?

Do they pity the wife? DISILLUSIONED

, ‘ ANSWER: Depend: on tho girl. Sometime: lho think: tho married Inan who flirts with her is easy money and good for good timer. Some- me: lho thinks he is a contemptible beast who make: her putting up gwlth hi: lovemaking the price of holding her job. _ Many n girl marries such a mun because her vanity make: her be- lievo that she can hold him even if his wife couldn't, Many other girls have seen so much of flirtatious husbands that they have lost all faith In men. Some girls pity the married flirt‘: wifo and thunk 60d that

~ d ‘t h v to live with him. n” on a e DOROTHY DIX

DOROTHY DIX cannot reply pcrlonnlly do radon, but will nnlwer blame of general interest through her column.

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ill A Country Garden

i By Mn. Gordon Macmillan i ‘

It is a happy day for mo when J l bring the first Gladioli bloom of the season from the garden, as they are the very best cut flowers for all occasions. For ten days I have been cutting them and it is

Q- What is the proper wny to announce n wedding engagement?

A. By means of an engagement Party. by sending notices to the HBWlPB-pflrs. and by sending en- graved announcements to relatives and friends.

Q. When one accidentally brushes BBaIn-st a person, which is the bet~ ter expression to use. "Pardon me," or. "I beg your pardon"?

A. “I beg your pardon."

Q. Is it proper at a large din- "ner or banquet to wait for every- ,one to be served before one begins

again and a satisfaction to know that the new ones ordered last spring are so lovely.

I do not have the very new ex- ' pcXlSlVE varieties but have had success with the following older giacis and like them because of, their color and beauty. i

Leading Lady, a white sport. of Picardy and Lady Jane.

Corona with rose edge. i“, 931;?

Mystery in Salem and Essa] A. N0; you may begin eating l5 Maile- soon as served.

Aladdin in a deeper color and' Burma as a ruffled rose.

Algonquin in the scarlcts andi Red Charm, a beautiful crimson. i

Elizabeth the Queen is still a lioud lavender .and Tunial lilaho- mct and Vagabond Prince arr.- good for baskets.

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There are many many more, beautiful glads and we have some , outstandzng growers on the Isiunti \\'iiil hundreds of breath-taking giads in their gardens; they grow

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WHILE there :.re indications oi major objectives or lofty ambi- tions hoidin-g promise, with initia- _ _ _ tive, scund judgment, and coopera- not any Parllwlal‘ ca"! l" siofmg- ‘tion from influential sources to be l‘13m"1§>' m‘ sroivmg. They are ‘counted upon, yet there may be de- piantcd in rows in the field and , lays’ gtbqtgglg-s o; [gmpgrgfy blqgk. ivc-eded some. No staking is done lng of most desire-t Q9315, pprhgng and they are planted thickly to due to personal enrnitlcs, jealousy. hold mach other up. They arc not or business competition. 0r ill sprayed but do very well with the .- health could enforce position.- care they receive. ments. However, patience could be

ln Canada we have many Giad- i1 BEHWIIIVIB “We W bridle ‘"1" inii originators. and almost ail diffli-‘illilim ' the bulbs I grow are Canadian. Fm’ the Huh“? If you wish to learn all about growing glads, join the Canadian Gladioii Society.

I have ordered my tulips for next springs blooming. It is dif- ficult to choose the varieties when there are so many you wish you

Those whose birthday it is, may find that they may be :ble to cope wvith stagnation‘; delays or other obstructions by holding faithfully to major objectives or ambitions. In such confidence and persistent ef- forts the cooperation of those in

“mm haw- high places may be counted upon. I save them from year to year This is the reward gm- effi¢19n¢y_ by digging and covering them warthwhue projects or pfupggi.

with sand in ah out of the way place, and. this week I have gath- crcd them into paper bags. The larger ones will bloom but the small bulbs will need to be. grown for a year or two before they \viil reach blooming size. In the Per-_ ennial borders they are left for

years and still make quite a

good showing but in centre beds

they require lifting because therel must not be any missed in a dis-f play and you cannot depend onl them after a year in the garden.

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From the time a tulip seed is‘ sown seven years must go before. the bulb will be of blooming size and much care in cultivation will be required. The showers have helped in my transplanting of many diauthlns and Pricks to the rock garden. Such sturdy grey leafed plants, it is a pleasure to work with them and you are sure of beauty and fragrance from them for years.

I sowed seed in May procured from the most famous English grower of Carnations, and have them in many colors, Allwoodi Delight and Sweetness in many nice colors and Westwood Beauty, also many vioias have been sown in the garden, Arkwright Ruby, Jersey Gem, a good purple, Blur.- Butterfly. and Mauve Queen; some seed of this year’: crop of Del- phinium in blues :nd the new white.

Pansies have been sown for early bloom in the spring as soon

tions, held against enmity. iefllou-SY or vindictive competition. Keep watchful, persistent in hopes, and so win the day. Also be watchful of health or other discouragements of personal nature.

A child born on this day. while Wssessing high ambitions, with ex- cellent promise of eventual suc- cess, with assistance from high plates, yet may have obstacles or frustrations to overcome.

.i- as the snow leaves the garden. iThere you will {incl them.

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Clematis Jackmanni is in full bloom and will last. for several weeks. I have seen some wonder- ful plants of this Clematis in 0th- er gardens, and it is : hardy climber even on the north of the house where I am Erowinfl ii-

This year I planted another Clematis of l pale lavender and it is doing very well, but. the wine colored variety has died. I think I shall try it again. I8 1 l!" "TY fond of these climbers.

I had some very unwelcome visitors to the garden this wcelf. in fact they called twice and l tried my best to can them to- ward the garden gate. but they were determined to stay. "15 they were very rough and rude. upsetting and breaking garden furniture, knocking down Holly- locks, drinking out of the bird- bath cnd leaving many kinds of tracks everywhere. They were four-footed large black and white cows. About a dozen of them,

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ELECTRIC SHOCK TREATMENT IN PRIVATE MENTAL HOSPITAL

A few 7'9"" 8K0 before World War II it. was estimated at, the rate mental cases were increasing that onehalf the people of the world would be needed to look after the other half. This was before the shock treatment was known when all mental hospitals were already operating almost at full capacity. Today the outlook is brighter mostly because of shock treatment, more particularly electric shock treatment.

Some months ago I spoke of the results obtained by two New York psychiatrists. Drs. Nathan Savltsky and William Kai-liner, who treated 200 cases of mental disease in their offices. These physicians reported that 96 recovered with five or fewer treatments and the average num- ber of treatments given the 200 cases averaged between a and 9, the "Canadian Medical As- soeiution Journal," Dr. A. L. Mac- Kinnon (l-Iomewood Sanitarium, Guelph, Ontario) reports results of treatment of 300 mental (psychia- tric) patients virith all types of mental disease over a. four you Deriod Patients. Patients with heart disuse or high blood pressure were not included. although pat,- lents of advanced age, were in the group.

The 300 mental cases chosen in- cluded depressive states, melan- cholh, double personality, persist- ent. dream state and others. The number that recovered was 101, the number greatly improved was 98. the number slightly improved 57, nnd unimproved 50. This means that in this group the shock treat- ment helped 5 of every 6 patients in which it was used.

Patient: classed as flreoovered" were free of any signs or symp- tcms of mental disturbance. Those classed “as greatly improved" were able to return home but still showed some remaining symptoms of mental disturbance. Those slightly improved" showed definite benefit; many were kept in hospi- t:l but were finally :ible to live :. hirly normal life at. home.

The smallest number of shock: were three given to six patients, four to thirteen patients, and never more than t5 in one series. Psychic- triat: using electric shock treat.- iments know that by usu:l methods of mcntl-l hospital truhment a goodly number recover or greatly improve. Not only does electric nhock trutment obmn result: in much lea: time but it also cure: or greatly improve: many one: that were not responding to the uaucl mmtll hospital trectnient.

NIUBOBIS

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becoming Increasingly common. 81nd tothy for Dr. Barton‘: tn- formcttvo booklet on this subject emitted "Neurosis." To obtctn it

stomp. to cover coat. of handling and nailing. to Th» Boil Syndicate in clro of this newspaper, Post Of- nco 8oz O0. Station G. New York I9, IN. Y" and Mk for your copy.

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1. Wlnt i: wrong with tbll Im-

tcnca‘) "W: nw them in New York some week: since."

2. what is the correct pronunc- tot-ton of "pen-nit." (mun and verb)? l. Which on: of then word: t: niiupeilcdt Hilarity, hymn, hiero-

ypbic.

a. What Mo: the word "doopie- nbio" moon‘! ‘

b. What t: c word beginning with lo the! mun: "d0 Otlntlni

closely"? ANIIIII l. fly, "lam: with: up." i. Ac- cent noun on flrlt lyiilbie, verb on tut syllable. a. Hygiene. 4-.I'lt o. deserving to 11 amt»- .

‘hwith 1h: hIy-makln: ct Rob's "6 dlyl. extra choring come: t; the women-kind ut Aldcrlea. But, a: James would have u: believe, not, of course, on hi: accoum. No indeed! When he is outward bound to hi: Work of the day, h; wgve; “l l" 511')’ IQOd-byc from l bend in the lane. And then without any concerned “Now be sure to take cure of yourself, Ellen!" he calls instead "Remember: don't close yourlelf up in the house, Ellen and hfget there are such creature: n: animal: about the place-they're apt to break pasture-um flies are bad in the heat, you know" and then with a thoughtful gesture which we have learned contains no dhred of meaning, he adds, "now dont you bother with the milking —therea really no need of it! We can do it us well as not when we come home. And don't irou bother with the calves, either.” On m". sideration "you might, if you aren't ‘"0 busy at the time, have the cows home for us," and we smile ox ~ "the thin edge of the wedge." " es and you might let those tvi-o in with

their calves - - - and turn them out again. Oh well, perhaps you H9011!!! bother. - - - Those big

calves get quite a bit of ‘grows-i’ - - - but we'll attend to them nil

when we come home. We shan't beltoo late this evening, I expect!" ' I I I

Ellen i. Diary '

l! ll Inland Inner’: Wile

_A GUST 9, 1949

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DELICIOUSm. on the table /

l0 James said at rising this morning , that he "never saw the roses on the trellis so pretty as they are this Year.” He Was hoisting u suspend- er to a shoulder at the time. and then neared the new window to catch the direction of the wind on the milipond below the front moa- dow. "This is going to be a good hay-day, Ellen", he commented, then chuckled suggestivciy, "You, the roses are pretty-have you no- tlced them yourself lately, Ellen?" And we too, must rise and come to the affairs 6f our day. Over our breakfast, even when we suspect- ed that he was weighing the present mowing in mind. he must tell us of yesterday's doings at Rob's. How Jamie had been learn- ing to drive the mare in the "lift".

good a lud also was the younger fellow, well content just to be til- lowed to look upon the activity about him though he protested "as is only natural", James said, "when his bed-time came, and he must leave every lonely interest there to come indoors t.o his rest. I

In spite of their expectations, our farmers were late homing. The moon had climbed above the house on the hill, its light bridging the millpoiid with a silvery span, and casting its spell over the country- side. We recall now the sounds of evening about-m truck at the mill unloading “at one full swoop" its burden of logs for tomorrow's sawing, with a resounding, echoing crash. We remember too Paul's present excited bark. once our far- mers turned into the lane. were on the‘ old stone doorstep then. loitering there alone in the coolness, Jennie having gone to take grand-daughter to her cot- wctching the moonlight make mys- tic ‘shadowy places about the lawn and pointing other spots with brightness, the holiyhocks and delphiniums which thi: afternoon had been visited by is neighborly goldfinch. O I

And below the front meadow like a fairy craft, our small white boat rode at anchor. Such a bewitching boat u: this, we thought fancifuliy‘, the two had recently launched and boarded to sail life's stream to- R8ih9l'—~thB!e twain that tonight the folks of the community were gathering to honor in their new and blessed estate. A mature cou- pie this is, who will find in that maturity a mutual outlook that will make their married life, a delight- ful voyage together. “The heart of marriage" one ha: written, "is the day-to-day yesr-in-year-out compon- lonship and co-operntion of husband and wife. Here in the continuous interaction between one personality and another, every marriage is mad; - - '- or marred. "We believe i

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