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i Letter Box

z: Husband _ The only People Who Can , j . _ Hurt Us

' Dear Miss Dix-This the story of two mothers.

n. ‘Lani: themselves to death. She opened her daughter's mailmhd so completely dominated her that she rush- ed into an unsuitable marriage in order to get away from her mother's tyrannly- A5 50°" 85 We We"! married my mother-in-law took possession of my house and ran it; criticized my every move; interfered with my servants; managed my children, and was so unkind and dictatorial to me that my health gave Wl¥JlIld8f the strain of living with her.

That is one mother. Here is the other: When my

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.~ fafllb? died six years ago my mother refused to make

herself a burden on her children. She tried various kirids of work, but she had devoted her entire life to

jwhfot CanMother Do When the Children Are “Grownlb-Wliy a. Wife Can't Love a Lazy

My husband's mother is a. vampire who has literally sucked the life blood from her child- She forcibly prevented two of her sons from marrying and they both

liq family and was a mother and not hing else. Finally she got a position in HQOPPIIIIMHB where she is blissfully happy mothering little waifs and strays. Tljpy need just what she has to give. Her life-long training serves her well.

“Qty don't more mothers do something like this?

,1, There are so many thousands oi’ il- 'ess, motherless children, and thfcise-womon who only know how to be mothers are the very ones needed

~ f0; this work.

There are not only orphanages which have a hard time

getting the right kind oi matrons, but children societies, charitable or.

gmizatlons of all kinds that need that mother training.

I know a dozen

pffcei right now that need women oi average education and ability, but

stiperlative character. are in demand? 6928MB’ be llfll-‘llier. and a great work would gain by their services.

I. P. B.

Why don't more women find jobs where such gifts They would be so much happier. their families would

I commend this letter to the consideration of that vast army oi women

wlo at middle age find themselves at loose ends, not knowing what to do

with their lives. "

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How. the Experiment‘ ‘Worked

(no Mhlonaf! Mmmv) “Give-till ft hurl-s." our nrellmt h“ “m, "and your souls will be truly blessed." . Now "hurting" never b99011 W 810-, whether it be mylfllf or others. lo I set about finding some other way to bless my sensitive eoul and contri- bute my share oi the W. M. B. bud- get. - Next day I called on a neighbor. who had but recently come to live in our community. she seemed

popping full of ideal on household management and somehow our did- cussion led to flour base. Now. when the contents of these had been turned into family brain and brawn. r had been wont to take the scissors in hand and, afteriivc or fen min- utes‘, wrestling with the thing. first alrone end and then at the other. I got the chain stitch started. After a hurried hemming on the machine they became squares of strong cot- ton disfigured by trade marks, of course, but ready to perform any ser- vice beneath the dignity of a re- fined towel.

So I considered my duty done. But my neighbor endeavored to show me that I wasn't living up to my privi- leges. She made aprons. dresses and underwear from flour bags, and evcn curtains, which she hemstltched and trimmed with lace. It had frown to be a. fad with her, a perfect mania. She must have kept the family work- ing overtime consuming the contents of those bags; it was bag and bag- gage! Sometimes they put up a year's flour ahead, so that she could have the bags ‘to clothe the family. Here was a. chance to raise my mis-

;[ Death has deprived them of their husbands. Their children are married org gone, and it seems to them that there ls nothing to do but to break up thlighonles and go to live with their children. Yet they don't want to do

sionary money. family llneni

Economize on the The very thing! I

because they shrink from the idea oi being dependent on their sons-in- lavl, ‘and they realize that ft is going to be pretty hard for a woman who has always been the head of her own house to play second fiddle in sonic other

_ vvdlnanh house, even ifthat other woman is her own daughter.

‘W '7' Yet up to now it has been the conventional thing for a widowed mother '1 tofgo to live with her children, with the inevitable result that the mother has

aliost always been a source of mllerable herself. '

discord in her children's homes. and has been

1n all good truth there is no more pitiful figure than that of the woman fngthe fifties, or the sixties, who is suddenly snatched out oi her own home

and thrust into her children's.

She is strong and ablebodlcd and full of

energy, but she has nothing to do except be a. child's nurse and a. darner oi . stockings. l-lor daughter or daughter-in-law resents her interference with the E housekeeping. Sllf‘ has no personality, or friends of her own. She ls only ' Mary-Ht mother, and Mary's friends endure her on suflefance. Worse still, it , wearlLon her to have to keep perpetual watch on herself in order not to ali- , vise, or to suggest. or to interfere with her in-laws. And she knows herself ' unwanted, and that the family would be happier and better ofl without her

. presence. '

L Notwithstanding all of this the middle-aged widows have felt that they had to zlccopt this fate and endure it with what fortitude they could, but this

isle mistake r-nud they need lo get a new slant at the situation. They need to realize that n woman in her fifties and sixties is no longer an old woman if

sh} has good health. She still has ten or fifteen or twenty years of work in

her, and shc will be a million times happier and better off if she strikes out for herself in some gainful occupation than she will be if she goes to live

must have dozens of those bags around somewhere. It would sim- ply ybe fun putting them to such at- tractive uses and nobody would be “hurt?

“But how," I asked her, “do you get rid of those gigantic trade marks that seem to stick like glue?" "Easiest thing in the world," she assured. me. with an airy wave of the hand. “Just boil them in a solu- tion of soap and washing powder and away they gol" . _ Well, next day I put what bags I had on hand into my boiler and the eliminating process began. The house became filled with a sudsy odorfand I hadn't room on the stove to cock the breakfast cereal. It was August, and I couldn't have a fire in the af- ternoon on account of the heat, so my husband had to do without his porridge, which we cooked in the double boiler the day before, and that put him in bad humor for the day. About eleven I had to remove the boiler and give the dinner o. chance. With high hopes and s. stick I hauled out my bags, but in- stead of the spotless condition I had been deluded into expecting, I found

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with llcr children.

In ihr‘ way slle will have her independence, her freedom. Bhc can hflMc her own littlc home, in which she can do as she pleases as she cannot do in her children's. she can have her own circle of friends. Bhe can live

, hit‘ own life, instead of having to trail along in the path blazed by others. Ffimhermore, the chances are that she will not have to work any harder

l th§n she would in her children's homes, and she will get a salary for what slid docs, as she would not if she was working for her children.

Z Nor need ille woman who has only been a wife and mother and house- kfller feel that there is no need for her services. 'I‘hei'e will always be belies to be cuddled, children to be taken chrc oi, institutions where wise. mBilerly. experienced matrons are needed, mothers who would gladly pay soils other woman to give their children the care that they cannot give

. tlgm themselves. noftorrlir nix.

EDesr Dorothy Dix-l cm married to a man who is young and strong srfl healthy and capable of making a good living for us, but he will not keep. a Heady Job. l-le can always command fine wages, but he will only work log enough at c. time to get something he wants, and to give us barely enlugh to gct by on. Now here is something curious I. want to ask you about 41in. he is oi‘ work 1 love him to death. Every time 1 look at him 1 want to pa: my arms around his neck and smother him with kisses, but when he dfilft work I Just couldn't kiss him if I had to. He has noticed this and

them changed but little.

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my work had gone in- nfllung, and I wsnttotncwindolvaadeutafew malevolent glances in my llflhborta direction as a cert of “few-valve to my feelings. At the earliest pp- portunity I informed hi!’ of Nihil- m.

"Oh. you abould soak them om night in eels water first and than rub coop into them. I clean forgot to uu you that." she declared apol- mticlll).

Nothing daunfed. though feeling rather surly, I tackled the job again. After coaxial. l looped them accord- ingtodirlctlcnsandltartedtbcbou. lug process again. Ionic of than: wm Quaker flour ball and, u I held them up on the stick aim boiling awhile. there wu the smug counten- anerof the old Quaker ltill grinning lvlv at mo. lam u life:

In no enviable frame of nuns _I again aculht my thrifty neighbor. who cheerfully fcucml my also-k looks and covert rcprocchcs. while she smillngly apologised for omitting - other little mm.

"I should have warned you that some of the trade marks are so stub- born, they need special treatment. Take them on a board and, while wet rub some strong washing powder into them wish l brush. It never fails to remove them." Y .

Bo I girded myself once more to the fray. I some the old Quaker and his background out on ‘the sink shelf and went at him with washing powder, rubbing it in with a new scrubbing brush and a. savage delight, and fathered his tantalizing counten- ance into oblivion. I

This treatment worked like a charm and every disfiguring mark disappeared. In fact, it worked foo well, for when I removed the last piece from the sink ‘shelf. I found that. like Mary's lamb, everywhere the scrub brush went, the point had sooiably followed. and there was the board as naked as the day it was sown from the tree!

Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter. f had a few pieces’ of coarse white cotton which were worth little more than’ the soap and other cleansing agents used in tht operation; plus-the elbow grease. do- mestic inconvenience. and finally the paint. concerned in the atamacticn. l-fenccforth my neighbor's chatter about thrift fell on my ears even as the clatter of rlindmpl on a ‘tin roof. with glad and thankful hurt 1 duly dug my hand deep into my pocket and gave till it “hurt." convinced that many of those makeshift: for raising the Lord's money arc but de- vices to cover our own meanness.

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A Morning Smile

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The judge was giving his regulation lecture on the evils of gambling. “so you see.” he concluded. "whet a wicked thing it is to shoot craps, ea- pecially on the Sabbath. l-lavc you nothing better than that to do on Sundays?

"Oh. yessuh, Judge," replied the prisoner. "Most gcnhlly ah caddies fo‘ ya when you plays golf with Mistuh Bmith fo‘ a dolluh l hols."

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spQks of it. Why is it, Miss Dix? MR8. J. R.

2ft iss because when he is acting like s. man he routes your admiration arfl respect and love, but when he is nothing but a lazy loafer he is re- pldllve to you becausclyou are nllcd with contempt for him.

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inc woman who has the right principles herself can love a man she does respect. She may have pity for a welkilng that makes her‘ condone his ts. She may feel toward him as she would toward an afflicted child.

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but that isn't the sort of love that any rul man wants his wife to have for him.

nannnnehi The ideal love of a woman for o mania baud primarily upon respect.

she must look up in him. sh. must feel his strength. abs must feel that abs can rely uponhimJndthathewilical-ry onond dc his part in lffl. ‘nails why when you see your husbmd qualifying ac a real nun you love him.

11-i- _ When you see him as a quftur and chirkcr, one who evades tbs respon-

sihllitiee cf life instead of ‘bravely muting them, one who cam lo littlc fer hi! family that he is aot-wullng to curt hlnmlf- to support it decently, you recoil from him because be shatters your ideal. _ _ _

After all. we oia only love the lovable, and n lacy man is about the

ieut attractive thing on earth.

Dear was Dian-Why do the people we love the best hurt

-. DOROTHY DIX.

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‘The Daily N Argument

AUNT HET

B! BOBER. " HUILLEN

‘i! know It's hateful. but if I didn't makellgbt of Ella’: opcr- atfon an‘ keep hel- mad, she'd be over llsre borrowin’ some- thing ever’ day.”

Scll Personal -:-l ‘Fashions

Early HourRuling For Girlie; Upheld

round woanllv or so snounn an noun n! for. M. BB1"!!! COURT nacnans

LONDON, Ibbucry, a-Until what hour should a Iirl of 20 be allowed to stay out at night? Not later than l0, according to the Willesden mash- mo’, Dr. Lloyd Williams. He was cli- led upon to decide between a B111 °f 2o and ber father. The father chim-

‘ ed to his daughter going to dances

and, as she refused to be home every night by l0 o'clock, he took away her latchkey.‘

The girl resented the application to herself of the rigid discipline W“ may have been forced upon her moth- er thirty years ago, one went to the local magistrate, and lodged a. com- plaint against hler father. To the amazement of herself and many thousand of flapper-s of the same ale. the magistrate supported her fath- er.

"I think he is right," he said. "What business has a girl like You to stay out after 10? That is quite late enough, and you must obey your father."

By this decision Dr. Williams scarcely heard oi before beyond his own maglstlerlal environment,’ Jump- ed into the limelight cf publicity.

"Ten p. m.i" said one girl of 20. "Why, in a. few months, when 1 have turned 2i, I shall be called upon to register my vote at the general elec- tion. I suppose my mother or my great-aunt will be expected to lead me by the hand to the polling booth! If I am important enough to possess a latchkey, to be used at my own dicretlon."

'A father, with all the makings of a martlnet in him, waited furious in denouncing the behavior of the mod- em girl.

"If n daughter of mine, still living in my house, dared to stay out later than I had ordered." he said, "I would not be content with Just tak- ing the lstchkery from her. I would give her a~ good, sound spanking, send her to bed and, if need be, take away all her clothes. Disgraceful, I call it, the way parents allow their girls to carry on!"

The sanest view seems w be taken by a woman, a. social worker, who has had the training and control of many hundreds of girls. she is old enou, to remember the days when girls were scarcely ever allowed to stay beyond their immedlatevislon, and when Mrs. Grundy used to lurk in secret place, always watching for a chance to throw up her hands in horror.

My opinion, she said, "is that when a girl of.20 is wholly or very largely depended upon her parents and lives with them, she should re- spect their wishes-within reason, of course, but it must be remembered that thousands of girls of 20 are nct only earning their own living but contributing largely to the , t of their parents. They are indepen- dent, they have mixed with the world and they are quite capable of taking care of themselves at any hour oi the day or night."

Lessons in English ' B! W. In GDBDON

WORDS OFTEN MIBUSED: Do not any. "I don't know ‘but that f made a mistake." Say, "I may have made a mistake."

OFTEN MISPRONOUNCED: dis- cretion; e as in "met," not as in "me." _

OFTEN MISSPELLED: jardlniere; note the lniere.

BYNONYMB: illness, ailment, dis- ease, disorder, sickness, indlsposftlon. complaint, infirmity.

WORD STUDY: "Use a word three tifnes and it ls yours." Let us in- crease our vocabulary by mastering one word each day. Today's word: IMPOBIbRr one who deceives by false pretenses. "Now is cur oppor- tunity tc expose this fmposior.“ _

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In ncnt Waves Dear Miss Leeds-I used to have a marcel wave cvsry week which would be almost gone the day after. I than decided to have a rmaflent wave. but I.am riot the lent bit lltllflell with it. I have had two finaer wave! in two weeks and yet the Wave! d" not stay in well. What causes this? Do you think I should let my half 8° just the why it ls and push it back instead of having finger waves? H. V. D. -Answel\-I think the trouble is that your hair was not ln I006 Wnilllm" when you had the permanent and you have expected too much of the wave. Permanents reel-Ill‘! resale! care to keep them in good condition. It is usually flne, soft hair that will not hold a wave well. The qualitiel in hair that make it hold a wove well are its health and elasticity. Having your hair marcelled so often hi! probably destroyed these qualities- The way in which the hair is wound on the curling rods before the Der- manent wave determines to a lars! extent the amount of care the finish- ed wave will require. The mt wind will give a wm that mrlncs bee! into place after wcttlas without finger or comb waving. “nus method of winding the hair on the rods ll not suitable fol- all types of he". however. When a poor held of hair has been pemlanently waved it needs an extra amount of care tc keep it from becoming dry and strawllke. You should have an oil treatment before each shampoo. as this will en- courage the wave; use only pure cae- tile soap for washing the hair. Have the finger wave put in after each shampoo. Massage the scalp well every day. Spray brilliantine on your hair frequently. LOIS-LEEDS-