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Yes, There Are Times When a Divorce is the Best Thing, Even for the Children

‘Dear Miss Dix-Can you suggest some way whereby I can induce my mother to leave my father and start her life anew? She is nllfierflbly unhappy. So s he. And so are we all. We children have never had a home because of the long, endless quarrels between our parents that go back to our earliest recollection.

My father is a fine man, but he doesn't love my mother and never has, yet beoause of some queer sense of chivalry he has con- tinued to live on with her. She Won't let him go because the words "divorce” and "separation" mean something common w her and that would hurt her pride. so the two live in the same house and eat; at the same table, hating each other and never speaking. My brother and l. never go home because we just can't bear it. My father has offered to support my mother as he has al- ways done, but she won't listen to it. Don't you think that we children are at least en- prcvide us with a, home—t\vo homes if nec-

lit-led to ask our parents to essary-—whei‘e we could visit each and be happy and love them both and not having something heavy in our hearts all the time? E.

Answer:

1 certainly do, and inasmuch as your mother refuses to do anything about ending an intolerable situation on account of her -silly false pride, it is up to your father to take the initiative in breaking up the purgatory in which you all live, and leave a house that has long since ceased to be a home.

Divorces are tragic things, and husbands and wives should bear much from each other and make many sacrifices before they break their mar- riage vows, but no law of justice demands that they pay with a lifetime of misery for the mistake of a moment and one that they made in good faith. So when a man and woman find that they cannot live together in peace and harmony the only decent thing they can do is to part

No good and moral purpose can be served by a husband and wife dwelling under the same roof when they have come to hate each other. when each brings out all that is worst in the others nature, when" their

‘hearts are filled with hate and when they are murderers in desire, if not 4 in actual fact, because each is looking forward to the other's death as a .

release from a. torture almost to great to be borne.

1f by a man's lmmolatlom of himself on the altar of marriage he could secure his wife's happiness, or if by martyrizing herself a wife could secure her husband's happiness, then there would be some justification -of a couple keeping intact the marriage bond. no matter how deeply it cut into the flesh of one or the other. But when both hate and- loathe the tie that binds them together and fight like cat and dog, the sooner they break their fetters the better.

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It is often said that children are the innocent victims of divorce and that they have to pay the price of their parents‘ inability to get along to- gether. This is true. Every wrecked home buries in its ruins something vital to childhood, something sweet and innocent and optimistic and trustful that they never get back, and for which they are the poorer as long as they live. The children of divorced parents are almost always cynical in their outlook on life, warped and bitter, ~

Because children so need both a father and mother, and so need a home to grow up in. many husbands and wives who have come to dislike enclrother feel it a. duty to go on living together for the sake of their children. This would be a fine and noble thing to do if they had the strength of character to bury their differences and make a" home that was full,'of peace and harmony and in which the children could grow up in theatmosphere they need.

But very few men and women have enough self-control to do this. Theriisgruntled husband and wife make the home a place of perpetual strife. They quarrel incessantly before the children, and before the child- tenlthey accuse each other of the basest crimes. They appeal to the child- ren for sympathy and to take sides in their feud. They pull the poor little creaturm apart in their loyalties and make them utterly miserable.

So, when people talk about keeping their homes together for their children's sake, they do it to no avail unless they make them a happy home. Better no home at all, or the two homes for which my con-es- pondent longs, than one in w‘hich thejather and mother squabble.

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Dear Dorothy Dix-I have been married almost a year. I have a very affectionate disposition, but my husband is of the cold type. He is very good to me, and doesn't drink or run around with other women. but he never talks to me or says nice things. I am only 19 and feel that, 1 have plenty of time to find a man of my own type. I am thinking of getting a divorce and trying marriage over again. Maybe I'd have bet- ter luck. What do you say? Upon your advice depends my decision.

VERY UNHAPPY.

Answer: .

Well. if you will take my advice, you will stick to the good, kind hus- band you have even if he isn't an understudy of Clark Gable as a love- maker.

The two things in human nature that puzzle me most are' why women are so crazy to have their husbands make love to them and tell them how wonderful and beautiful they are and how they couldn't live without them, and why husbands are so stingy about handing their wives a little soft talk when they know that a few kind words and a compliment or two will nudge the poor silly things perfectly happy,

You would think that a woman who had a husband who was good and lgind to her, and worked his fingers to the bone to make he; com. fortable, wouldn't need to be told that he loved her, but that he was say- ing it with beefsteaks instead of orchids, But she does. She has to be told over and over and over again to make her happy. And you would think

‘that a. man who knew that a few compliment; would keep his wife beam- »

ing with joy would pay themto her, but he won't, and there you are,

But all the same, my dear, don’t throw a good husband into the dis- card ust because he is a dumb lovemaker. Thae glib lovemakers, who fancy their techinque with women, are never satisfied to confine it to their wives. They are always trying it out on other domes. Whereas the ‘man to whom courtship was a chore and who choked on his Adam's apple when he tried to get sentimentdl means what he says when he tells a Woman that she is the only one and when he gets married he is done with philandering forever. _

“Besidm, you never can be sure that you are marrying a neat lover. All men let down on their love-making after marriage and expect their wives to take it for granted- DOROTHY D .

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For Bad‘ Cough, Mix This Splendid Remedy, at Home

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You'll be pleasantly surprised when you make up this easil prepared mix- ture sud try it for a d stressing cough. It is no trouble to mix, and costs but a trifle, yet it can be depended upon to give uick relief. Ms e a syrup by stirring 2 cups of nulaied sugar and one cup of water or s few moments until dissolved. No = cooking needed. Get a 2 ounce bottle of Piuex from any dru It, put it into s18 ounce bottle and l up with your The 16 ounces ti: gives you four times II much cough y for your money, and is o very

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The HOUSEWIFE and HER ACTIVITIES .

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There is a destiny that makes us brothers: None goes his way alone: All that we send into the of others Come back into our own.

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I care not what his creeds, One thing holds firm and fast- That into his fateful heap of days and deeds The soul of a man is cast,

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Edwin Markham in From ‘Lincoln, and Other Poems,"

SIMPLICITY

Simplicity, in truth, is less de- pendent upon external things than we imagine. It can live in. broad- cloth or homespun; it can eat white bread or black. It is not outward, but inward. A certain openness of mind to learn the daily lessons of the school of life: a certain willing- ness of heart to give and to receive that extra service, that gift beyond the strict measure of debt w ch makes friendship possible; a cer- tain clearness of spirit to perceive the best in things and people, to love it without fear and to cleave to it without mistrust: a peaceable sureness of affection and taste; a gentle straightfcrwardness of u- tion; a kind sincerity of speech- these are the marks of the simple life. which cometh not with ob- servation, for it is within you.- Henry Van Dyke.

Per-spires Heavily

If your husband perspires pm- fusely and comes home from work with his clothes quitetdgmp, p15,» them on hangers and turn the electric fan on them. It will dry them quickly. air them and blow out some of the wrinkles

An Tip

Save the silk until last when ironing with an electric iron. Then the iron may be disconnected and the" is 11° 59118" of scorching. Also the iron is easier to hfljdlg without the cord attached in this dainty work.

Fine Silks

When laundering fine materials such as crepe de chene and chif. on. wrap while still damp 1n g Llgérklsh towel and let stand until

Y are the right dampness 1m- "Ofllhg. ‘The material will keep its color longer if this method is employed, '

Shelves For Books

when blllldifl! shelves for books l” 15 a W199 Drccaution to allow at least three inches between the well and books for free circulation of ml- Thls 1-1 especially advisable u: b ekgoolfs are old or valuable, for °° 13mm"! flkainst a wall often mean that the damp from “s. ble- . Per in: loos- ening of binding and pug”, M WANTS . TABLE MOUNT PRISTINE BEAUTY imsrihlrgrs)

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A proposal that the South Afri- can Government take over ‘the whole of Table Mountan and re- gtore it to its "pristine beauty" hag

eten made by Lady Philips somer- s}; ‘West, in a letter, to 0010M]

.i.z. Minister of Agriculture and Forestry.

T’ ‘Y Phillipa aussests that the mountain should be treat“ 1n l large way- “This," she adds, "would entail the destruction of the we. sent plantations of pines and the restoration of the mountain-side to what it originally was-the home of beautiful shrubs and flcwcrg mg a fiancturary for birds of all kinds.

It is a terrible indictment of South Africans today. As the Stronger enters Table Bay, expect- inll to see one of the most beautiful things in the world, he is confront. 9d bY B. 831117911 811d disgrggefu] mountain-side. What a heritage and how have we fulfilled our trust. It lies in your power to do a Very bis thing. and vou will have many willing helpers."

BAT! All SIJPPING

The Ottawa Citizen says: "New hats for women will be, worn well off the face. One of these days the fashion will call for wearing the ‘hat on the shoulder. It's slipping in that direction now."

SUPER-GIRL wAm-sn

somewhere in the United King- dom is a beautiful young woman with QGPSOIIIIIRY plus charm, a gold- cn voice and photogenic features- if she can be found, and the British Broadcasting Corporation hopes she can. If so, she will be engaged to take a leading part in the forth-

coming campaign to popularize television . - By “photogenic features,‘ ac-

cording to Gerald Cock. Director of Televisoin. is meant good looks which television well.

Besides the superlative woman. I ‘ superlative man is wanted by the ~B. B. C. for television two really

to begin with about three hours a day of short. snappy Programs

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canoe was carried on at the Art Gallery of "Toronto when Lord Tweodsmuir, Governor-General of

‘Canada, drank the toast to the King

from one of the historic “Simcoe Glasses." of beautiful English crys- tal, from which every Governor- General, on his first visit to the Grange, has drunk to the health of . is MB-jelty.

This glass came into the posses- sion of the gallery from the Boultcn family, who received it by bequest from Governor simcoe. The tradition is that every Governor- General of Canada from the time of Governor Simcoe onwards has drunk the health of the King out of this glass. Since it came into the possession of the Art Galley, n- cords show that this ceremony was performed by lord Landsdowne May 24, 1887, while Governor- General of Canada; and again by Lord Aberdeen Aug. 25 1897; then the Duke of Connaught March i9, 1914; the Duke of Devonshire Feb. 8, 1919; Baron Byng ofvimy May M, i925; Vicount Willingdon Nov. 26, 1930; and the Earl of Bess- borough Feb. 3, 1933-

USEFUL LEMON"

Lemon juice is invaluable for the toilet, and in the kitchen. Stains on the hands caused by peeling fruit and vegetables disappear when rubbed with the inside of a used lemon. The juice is an excell- ent aid in manicuring, as it whit- ens the finger-tips and softens the cuticle.

Always add the strained juice of half to a whole lemon to stewed fruit; it greatly improves the flavor. It also takes away the rather sweet taste of some stewed and bottled fruits. A few drops should always be added to icing and macaroon mixtures. lemon juice should be put into the water in which fish is being boiled. as it makes the fish firmer and improves its flavor- When peeling apples, pears, or artichokes, drop them into water containing lemon juice. to keep them white, Bananas or apples for salad should be sprinkled with lemon juice to keep them white. Artichokes should aJso be boiled with lemon juice in the water. If some is added to the water in which rice is boiled it makes the rice very white.

Aluminum pans kitchen utensils, and tarnished brass and copper are easily cleaned with a slice of lemon dipped in kitchen salt. Siains- on steel may be removed v by rubbing them with a paste made of powder- ed bath-brick and lemon juice. Lemon juice diluted with water is a good cleanser for gilt picture frames. Marks on tiled hearts and wells should be rubbed wit!‘ lemon and» draining-boards should be scrub- bed with soap and water , but no soda: then rub with a cut lemon and rinse off. It will be found that new leather takes a better polish if it is first rubbed with strained lemon juice. Polish when dry. Decanters and water-bottles may be cleaned inside if kitchen salt, moistened with lemon juice, is shaken inside them.

HATS 0F ALL KINDS

Millinery is so fantastic this sea- son in_ shape. coloring, type and trimming that almost any sort fits the style trends.

ALLOW rwo nouns ' ~ FOR ramp MAKEUP

"Please tell me exactly how to Broom my face for a "very for- mBl. important Christmas dance," writes a young matron . "Ordinar- il. I don't spend much time on beauty routines, but. this once, I'll spend hours if you say so."

First of all, we want to say that a girl who gives her skin a reason- ablc amount of attention day in and day out, year after year, doesn't have to devote half a day before a party to making herself attractive. If she always keeps her skin smooth and clear, hair healthy and nails neat. preparations for a dance should be little more trouble than getting ready to go to the office or on a shopping trip

However, if you haven't time for regular mask treatments and the like allow about two hours to get ready for a formal party.

First of all. clean face and neck and pat with tonic Then apply a layer of rich tissue cream and leave it on while you bathe, as- semble underwear and brush your teeth. Then remove the cream, pat again with tonic to remove every trace of oil and smooth on a mask. either a commercially prepared variety or one you have made from egg or oatmeal. Lie down for twxgnty minutes or until the mask

ry.

When you get up remove the maslnwith tepid water. use more tonic, the! put foudation on shoulders and arms as well as face and neck. The rest of your cosmetics go on in the usual man- ner. If you have a bottle of liquid powder. do not put foundation cream on srmsind back. Use the liquid and nothing else.

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On December 30th Rudyard Kip- ling will be seventy years old and he is still writing, at his country home in Burwash Sussex, England. Kipling has already written well over two hundred stories whose sub- jects and material have been gath- ered from all parts of tho world. Al a “teller of tales" he excels, and he has been called "a perfect crafts- man and a great word painwr."

A collection of Kipliugfls famous dog stories with illustrations by the

published some time ago and a very interesting collection of his stories. essays and poems has just been published under the title "A Kip- ling Pageant." .

The familiar and well loved Kipling story ‘Captains l‘ ageous" is on the Metro schedule of forth- coming film productions. Freddie Bartholomew, child star of "David Copperfield" and Franchot Tone are to have the leading roles.

Kipling is one of the contributors to "The Princess Dlimbeth Gift

the Princess Elizabeth of Hospital for Children.

The very attractive book is edit- ed by Cynthia Asquith and Eileen Bigland and begins with an intro- duction from the children in the Hospital, in which they fell their idea of asking all the people and animals they loved to read about to come to a party and toll their adventures so that they could all be made into this book. The child- ren's carefully written invitation card to the authors come next and then the stories! Barrie, mpling. Francis Brett Young, G. K. Ches- terton, Compton MacKenzie, James Hilton, Walter dc la Mare, Enid Bngnold, Hugh Walpole, John Drinkwater and many other well known names are represented-and their delightful stories and poems are as interesting to adults as they are to the children.

The illustrations too are amus- ing and clever and include two pages of photographs of the con- tributors-“What some of us look- ed like when we were very young." Many of the illustrations are col- oured and two very beautiful ones are “Childhood" from the painting by Frank Salisbury, ARA", and “HRJ-ll. Princess Izllinabeth of York’ from the painting by Philip de Laszlo.

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Philip de Laszlo was born in Budapest in 1869, he is now a. nat- uralized British subject and. since 1930, president of the Royal Society of British artists. i-le has received many honours and has painted many portraits of loyal peisonages.

Very important m exhibitions have been shown in Canada during November and December.