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sur- prise party given at their home in Tignish in honor of r 30th wedding thanni- versary Representing e re- latives and friends who atten- _____.______i

ANNIVERSARY

OBSERVED

ded. Mrs. Walter Hogan read an address which accompani- ed the gifts presented to the celebrantl. Gifts were also presented by their 13 child- ren.\

MARY HAWORTH

Mother’s Lurking Malice Disiurbs Teenage Child

or Mary Haworth: It will take all of your knowledge and experience... but I believe that

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school. and a bit above average.

‘scholastically. I also participle volleyball. dancrng school.

paino lessons and charm cours-

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But I just can't get along with 'my mother. At times I feel like a martyr being tortured. She has critical remarks or objec- tions to make about almost ev- erything I do. even calling at- tention to my bad points in tne presence of my best friend and her mother. much to my em- barrassment.

When I try to change the sub- Ject. she stubbornly persists Then my girl friend tells my oth- er friends and I find I‘m being laughed at. Though I mention this to mother. she seems :lu- moved.

Speakin f my scholastic rating. the following incident happened just tonight: My sis- ter. age 7. had a problem with some new arithmetic which she didn‘t understand. nor did our ther. who ask me to help. i replied that my class was get- ting this new math too. which i didn't quite understand yet.

With that. mother flared up at me. then phoned a neighbor mother. who said her daughter, Jane. aged 11% (and slow in school) might be of help. Jane agreed to come over and ex- plain the problem to my sister.

Just then I came downstairs and offered to help. having worked out the problem mean- while But mother said "Get out of here!"l went back to my room and cried. Things like this happen all the time and when mother hears me crying (seem- 1ngly for no reason) she calls me "rrybaby" and my sister laughs...

My'fatlier. who is very under- standing and on my side. some- times tell he he will "talk" to mother and he does. but it helps Only briefly. In a few days, it all starts again.

I. hold my temper and dont say what I feel; I keep it just c

for “getting on her nerves”), there isn't much that outsiders. or insiders for that matter. do to assuage the child'd accur- ate sense 0 being tormented cruelly.

If there is a remedy for such maladiusted- mother behavior (the sort from which you sut- fer). it consists in the mother's waking-up to the wrongness of her unfriendly. unkind. unsym- pathetic pitch towards the child. and getting specialist (“family relations") Guidance in becom~ ing a good mother. good tem- pered. open- minded. w a rm -

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ea . Thus, to help you (if I can), I am taking this opportunity to speak to your mother. over your head. to acquaint her with the possible harm she may be do- ing to your ego and moral char- acter formation. by her tart re- sistance to your hidden hungry need of maternal championship, loyalty and appr tion (parti- cularly in your joint contacts with te outside world).

I am hopeful that if this poten- tially destructive aspect of her obscurer competitive. antagon- istic emotional reflexes in rela- tion to you is called, emphatical- ly. to her attention (are you lis- tening. Mom?)——I am hopeful that she will "come to her sells- es." turn over a new leaf and do all that is necessary to repair her mistakes.

Now. coming back to you: my suggestion to you. for safeguard- ing your emotional health in the situation. for taking profit (in terms of psychological growth} from your heartache. instead of letting it weaken your vitality. is to read Dom Aelred Watkin'i ok “The Enemies of Love" (Kcnedy. publishers).

I think you will find that lihe deep insights and soaring wis dom of this charming little book. will lift you above the temptation. or compulsion. strike back at your mother. or to retreat into tearful in when (or if) she determines your dignity or belittle: y o u r hurts H

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Mary Ha worth counsels through her column. not by mail or personal interview. Write her in care of The Guardian.

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NINGS.

Mr. and Mrs. and daughter Evelyn. Hazel Grove were the guests of Mr. and Mrs. Laken Lewis. York,

Mrs. Harry Cudmore. Direc- tor of Water Safety and first aid services for P.E.I. attended a meeting of the Women’s Wor- king Auxiliary of the Tiguish Sports Recreation Association in Tignish on Monday. on th Water Safety Day Camp p r o - gramme that is being planned by the association for the com- ing year. Much of the ground work was laid for this n e w l y proposed project during the past summer, that is expected to comprise 21 school districts with bus transportation.

The success of the Kensing- ton Day Camp was outlined to the meeting by Mrs. Cudmore.

Appointing water safety chair- men in the different districts and getting an early estimate of the number of children enrolling was new business under discus- sion at the meeting.

On December 7 Mr. and Mrs. Major Milligan will be celebrat- ing their 65th wedding anniver- sary at. their home in Inverness.

Today Mrs. Lina Francis of Victoria. is celebrating her 90th birthday.

This agile lady still does ner household chores. likes to go car - riding and keeps her man- folks supplied with hand - knit

Gerald Ross

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Mrs. Francis has two daugh- ters and a so. Mrs. Bertha MacQuarrie. Victoria: Mrs. An-

drew Landry. Montague: and Mr. Harold Francis. Lady Fane She also has three grandchild- ren and seven great - grand- children.

Following the regular meeting of Trinity CGIT held at A. D. MacKenzie Hall. Montague. last Monday evening. Arnold Wight- man. delegate to the General Council for the United Church, showed slides of his trip to New- foundland and also gave an int- eresting commentary. Mr. Wightman also showed souven- irs and literature pertaining to his trip.

The guests were welcomed by Joan Coffin. An exhibit of hand- icrafts made by the girls was on

lap ay.

Refreshments were served by the girls assisted by their lead- ers Mrs. Russell Burns and Mrs. Lloyd Fraser.

Eleanor Johnston and Pauline Hardy entertained in Alberton, in honor of Mona Coughlin. a season's bride.

G' ' a decorated basket; were presented by Patsy Hardy and Betty Campbell. The y were opened by Pauline Hardy; good wishes were read by Miss

"Christmas cookies" this morn-

grandchild looking on. In pantry. it was. which adjoins the cup each of butter and shorten- ‘ kitchen and is 'convenient both ing. the same each of brown and .to stove and sink. Ours is byl granulated sugar. The flavoring no means modern as go 1

The Cookie Jar Is Filled With Home Made Goodies

We mixed what we like to call though as they sometimes point out. “It could be that we're hun- gry. couldn't it?"

The recipe calls for one half

with Peter. our youngest

pantries then we add. “lest we forget". remains pretty much as which can be any one or a mix-

s when James was a child. i lure of vanilla. lemon and a!»

It i wa

‘Tme. away hack in the years‘ mond. to lend a subtly different

a new cupboard and a WOI'k- taste. Two eggs. well beaten. bench were installed. but other- . Two cups and a quarter of sift: wise nothing has changed. in- 5 ed all purpose flour. to which deed some of the dishes there i has been added. a teaspoon of

ave come down to us fromi baking powder. a half - te a -

those years bygone. The morn- ‘ spoon salt.

ing's first sun enters. the origi- “Now then!" peter grinned, nal small - paned .wmdow. to drawing a 10.15. and expect. “I encourage the African Violets breath. pieces of red cherries

we like to grow for their dainti- ness and the challenge in their culture. which are arranged on window - shelves there. The “deck” of a high cupboard near the cook's table has allowed in- quiring ones of the name. from Jamie down to Peter. as well as

to any

we then added and w alnuts. (crushed). to the mixture. Chil- led for a while for easy handling. we shaped it in two rolls. then wrapped in waxed paper. se it away in the refrigerator to remain overnight. or even lon- ger so to provide choice slicing.

“And who will get the first cookie?" Peter queried.

This was a day to plow. mil- dish as it was and given to sun- light. Mack having taken over the after - supper shift, continues

certain visiting youngsters view, comfortably seated, baking in progress.

now we were mixing the dough, Peter improving unwit- tingly his knowledge of measur- es by the cup. and spoons. we.

us d i it now in the starlight. Not alone . '. - - there “all in the dark.“ n the ‘lts a nice day for baking. ‘ .

isn‘t it? Mother says it‘s good i compan Jam'e' who also

to bake w h en the sun shines... p'f‘ws mum.“ it” “PM

Would you let me beat the eggs'!‘ Bed? WE mqml‘e M James

And measure the v sugar. per. 1 He shakes his head. "I would

haps?" he smiled coaxingly. 1583’. Ellen. there'll be no sleep Only a simple overnight r... I for a while! Thereare signs in

cipe we used. Basic, one which the stable that Will delay it.

gives scope to any artistic fan-! And besrdes l can:t go to. bed.

cies one» may have in the way i until Mack comes'ln.'l'd like to

of decorating the cookies before i knnw hm” i 9y did-'

baking. or by colorful additions; Now our last workaday of the

t celebrate the happy event.

then minister of the Untied Church in Elmsdale. The brides- maid was the bride's sister. Alice. now Mrs. Hilton Barnett and the best man was Erskine Wallace. brother of the groom.‘

M . and Mrs. Wallace have lived all their married life in Fortune Cove. They are activel in the life of the community and! in Elmsdale Church of the Na-' zarene. They ve three child- ren, Ivan of Fortune Cove. Lay- ton and Arlene at. home. i

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Happy Event iCelebrated At a [Cape Wolfe ‘

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I Mr. and Mrs. George Shaw of i Cape Wolfe celebrated the forty- fifth anniversary of their mar- riage on November 7th. M r s is the former Pearls|

In the evening members of their family. relatives and friends assembled at the homo of their son Robert to help them

Mr. Shaw’s brother Robert. who was master of ceremonies called upon th e i r son Robert who read an address to his par- ents. On behalf of the family their son Ivan presented a gift and on behalf of Mr. Shaw's bro- ther. sisters and their families. Charles Roberts of Charlottetown presented gifts. In open’ng indi- vidual gifts they were assisted by their daughter Adele. Re. - freshments were served by members of the family. An at- tractively decorated anniver- sary cake. made. by their dau- ghter Eva. was cut in tradition- al manner

It is of interest that two coup- les who were present. would also] celebrate their forty - fifthi anniversaries in November. They are Mr. and Mrs. Everett

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Soecial Occasion Merits

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Mr. and Mrs. Peter D. Gnvm. day came tr o m as {at

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Greetings

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O‘Leary. Summerside and fly

berto brated the fift‘etli anniversary of erhill, Mass. Mrs. Howard WPllg. their marrriage. Mrs. Gavin was the bridesm a id of fifty yes-y‘

the former Bertha Powers. ey were married at the Sacred Heart Church by Rev. Maurice MacDonald on Novem if). 1914 The bridesmaid was Kath- erine Gavin (now Mrs. Howard Wells). sister of the groom. and tht groomsman was the llit‘ Edward Murphy e newly married couple .iv- ed at first in their native com~ munity of Kildare. Soon they moved to Alberton South where they have continued to live Willi e exception of a few years in Saint John. NB. Mr. Gavin was a fisherman. Mr. and Mrs. Gavin nine sons. three daughters. fifty- one grandchildrtn n 0 great grandchildren. r children are Mrs. Edlow Albert (Vina) of Stratford. Ontario: Mrs. William Kent (Evelyn) of Saint John. Daniel of Alberton South. Alfred of Saint John. John of Alberton South. Ernest of Saint John. Walter of Lon- don. Ontario; Mrs. Harrison Mason (Anne) of Saint John. Re- ginald of London. Ontario; Wil-_ hum of Alberton, Justin and; Kenneth of London. The three children living In the immediate vicinity were" present for the anniversary cell ebration which was held Nov 3 em er members of! the family had visited their pa-l rents in June and on this special 1

occasion they telephoned their; greetings. -.

The anniversary was marked. by a family dinner when covers ' were laid for twenty - five, A two - tier anniversary cake can-

i i tered the table. Rev. Gerald’

obstetrics at St. Luke‘s Hospi- tal. Cedar Rapids. Iowa. is that many women are misled by the use of the word. They think it means labor and delivery en- tirely without the assistance of anesthetics.

"This is not so. The term re- fers to a reduction. not a with- drawal. of anesthesia and med- ication. We always ask the mother if she prefers o be asleep or awake when her baby is born and never expect all patients to go through labor without medication."

ducting le c t u re s on natural childbirth in Canada. has met with some success in his cam- paign. He says at least two Ca- nadian groups are considering deleting "natural" from their 11 mes.

T e noted obstetrician. who has delivered more th n 6.000 babies by the natural method. says 95 per cent of his patients are awake to hear their baby's st cry.

CHANGES IDEAS

"There was a time when l was proud if a woman told me she couldn't remember any-

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baby. but . changed my ideas since then."i Labor is considerably short- ened and mothers are much' more at ease when they learn the series of relaxing exercises to help through childbirth. says Miller. He would like to see teenage! girls given courses in natural childbirth in high school and be- lieves they would then be more likely to have their children by this method. "Education is the important thing. That way. mis- understanding is avoided and fear alleviated." ‘

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“$52!”. solve your 11 a mother falls down on the Mt of being a good mother.

showing a persistent strain of hostility. dislike or lurking malice towards one of her chil-

Word "Natural" Said Misleading

OTTAWA (0P) -— Dr. Lloyd Miller says natural childbirth associations should remove the word "natural" from their

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r and Mrs. Bruce MacLaren of Charlottetown. as well as; grand - children and gre ati grand children were present. A decorated birthday cake w as made and presented by MacLarer. to mark the special . occasion.

. OCIALS i. OLICITED . PHONE 4-8506 i t L Crisp December weather has arrived. inspiring the usual round of social events. News f coffee parties. afternoon teas. bridge parties or house- warm- ing are only a few of the interms l The Guardian- Evening Patriotl womens editor will be happy to publish free of charge. Do you. have visitors? Perhaps a form-i er Islander whom friends would . to contact. If you are planning a holiday giving a shower or entertaning your club. phone 4-8506 and help the social coloum inter I

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residence in Margate. were ten- ,by the

Leaman Caseley. Mrs. Hogg and Mrs. Lorne Grozier.

were‘frlends who assembled for married November )6. l939 andisurprise party. last week they celebrated their. John Rayner acted ,5

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in the mixing. Easily made. they ' week nears. Just past the ol d . r i campbell- ‘ ‘ > b are. and tasteful... We deter- ciock‘s long strike. that n a w Eggfig‘la‘yclgg'e a‘gglgrs' A! la: StgegiinVESth Zzfifggddflzzt'mei Refreshmem“ “ere “med y mine th is by taking stock of . day comes in. " '

Eleanor J0h‘15t‘m' Patsy Hardy the number of trips to the cookie Until tomorrow —— Diary — and 39m“ Gnrd‘m- .‘Jar. made by young or older. Good - night..... I l Mrs. Lemuel E. Jay of ML; . I i Stewart celebrated her 8an; M d A B -d l . birthday Dec. . dinner; l. e s 1 party was held in her honor at 1 l the home of her son and dau-; ' A ghter-in-law. Mr. and Mrs. Rol-; Twenty Five Years 90 i an y. ' E Her daughter and soan-law. : James Wallace and J 9 a n one hundred relatives a n d e a an S

ago, was the only had been present at the wedd'il" Other living but unable to be present at

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wedding guests stld

the Golden Wedding are Mr. and

Mrs. Peter Gavin and Mrs. Aen- eas Ahearn of Alberton,

M r s. Alfred Powers of Alberton South and Ernest and Jennie Gavin oi

Kildare

The family and friends it.-

ed the occasion wi t‘1

gifts and cards.

The bride of 50 years ago was attractively dressed in a navy knitted suit and wore corsage of pink carnations

HOUSEHOLD HINTS

Chill candles in the refrigera-

r ours before using. They‘ll burn evenly dripping.

w i t hout

To darn the fingertip of a torn glove. drop a marble 1n the finger. It's a perfect fitting dar- ning egg and makes the job easier.

keep cauliflower snowy

‘ white, soak for half an hour in

cold salt water before cooking.

Green olives are tastier if vou pour off the brine and replace with two tablespoons of ollv e oil, Shake well and let stand

‘one-half hour before serving.

Eiffel Tower Has 337th Suicide

PARIS (AP) —— Frenchman Michel Pusqueler. 38. became

the 337th recorded suicide from

the Eiffel tower here. Police said Pusqueler jumped from 175—foot high first level of the tower. and died in the ambu- lance on the way to the hospi- tal. The tower was built 75 years ago.

ART CRITICIZED

KAMPEN (Reuters‘ - Sims Cigar Works has run into press

OTTAWA lCPi—Three Cana-fhad carried out several rescues criticism for a portrait series of

twenty - fifth wedding anniver-lm. of cnemomes. Their chud-vdian soldiers and an airmany'of missionaries under the fire 11,1: men “5 Many, of the

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Their son and daughter ~ in - their only grandchild.

law, Mr. and Mrs. Ivan Wallace. teen mnnths 01d Gan Wallace,

opened their home to more than Mrs. Wallace received co

7‘; . lsage. On behaf of relatives and h13h°5t_ Peaceflme award

lfi d- t id th comm it . Val" re" T DU 5 e 0 read“ 3),], was awarded to Lt.-Col. Paul A.

ingrs. Hilton Barnett a dress Farewell Party