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Way to Provoke Aerimonious Debates, When by the Use of a Little Diplomacy Each Could Keep the’ Other Eating Out of His Hand?

Why do husbands and wives use so little tact in dealing with each other? They seem to think that tact is like caviar, too expensive for everyday home f. consumption and that it should be saved up to serve to company. They are l‘ the smallest number of married people who treat each other with even common politeness, to say nothing of ' showing to each other the courtesy and consideration that they would use toward the veriest stranger with whom they came in contact. Yet the same men and women who use the tactics of a brute and a boor in their family circles are noted for their suavlty abroad.

' We have all assisted, as the French say,’ in a thousand domestic squabbles, and there is not one of them that we cannot see could easily be averted by the use of the slightest diplomacy on the part of one or the other of the belllgerents.

All (‘if us know husbands and wives who proyoke acrimonious debates in which insulting things arc said and wounds that never heal are made by dragging on to the carpet topics that are Just as goodfor a row as s nickel is for s ginger cake.

All of us know husbands and wives whose marriages are Just as sure to

end in a crash as an automobile would if it was driven at full speed into a

. atone wall. because they go headlong into each others prejudices and con- victions instead of inking the trouble to gumshoe around them.

Why people with even ordinary intelligence do these things must forever remain one of the unfathomable mysteries of matrimony, but it does explain why divorce is so common. One would think that even a moron would reauae that there is no other relationship on earth so delicate and so difficult to mansg~ as that between s. husband and a wife and that it is the one that cells for the most finesse in the handling and is the place for diplomacy to do its great and perfect work.

Perhaps in the backs of our heads we do know this, but so basotted are we inselnshnesltsolazy and. unwllilngsre we to take any trouble. so egutistlcally certain are we that our personal chan-ns and fascinationsmre such that we can get away with anything; such a naive faith have we that marriage will stand any kind of rough treatment. that we go along treating our husbands and wives as we would treat no other human beings, saying to them things that we would never dream of saying to any one else, showing a callous disregard of their feelings that we would not exhibit to our enemies. and then’ we wonder why marriage is a failure.

lf husbands and wives were really so stupid that they never learned how

' to handle each other excuse could be made for their blunders, but this is not

the case. Before a man has been married to a woman for six months he has

a perfet working model of her temper and temperament, with every argie of

her disposition charted out, and he knows to a nicety Just what things are going to rile her and how to keep her eating out of his hand._

And long before a bride's troussea u has begun to show signs of wear she has gather husband’ snumber to the last figure and knows how lo pla'y upon him as upon a harp with a thousand strings.

But do these husbands and wives, who are so wise to each othor's little ‘peculiarities, use their expert knowledge to avoid conflict and get along in harmony? Not so that you can notice it. Mr. A. knows that he can jolly his Maria into doing anything; that if he will praise her cooking that she will cheerfully burn herself to s. crisp over the gas range preparing the dishes he likes; that if he will brag about her thrift and v1_l_lat a good manager she is tbaiishe will pinch every nickel unt i] the buffalo howls in agony; that if he will tell her how beautiful she loo ks in her old hat that she will wear it until it is a rag. i -

If he would employ this easy and frictionless way of getting along with Maria and improving her housekeeping andpromoting her economy." all would be well, but he scoms to use tact on a mere wife. He knocks the dinner and raises ruetlons over the size oi’ the bills and tells Marla that her hat makes her look like a figure of fun, with the result that there are tears and recrlmln- atlons and he has to pay for more mlllinery.

Nor does Mrs. A. use any more diplomacy in dealing with Mr. A. She knows all about his little vanities and that he has the head-of-the-hoilse eonlplei: and that he likes to pose as an oracle and believes himself a wit.

i But Mrs. A. refuses to use her expert knowledge of her husband to “sell” ‘herself to hlrn and getwhat she wants without a row. She won't make the i gesture of deferring to him, although she knows that she can do as she pleas- 1s if she will only pay him the tribute of appearing to regard him as a Solo-

mun.

She won't show him of! by asking him to tell that smustrg story over

again that he told at the X's, although she knows that it will tickle him pink and bind him to her with hoops of steel. In such low esteem does she hold domestic diplomacy that she would rather fight with her husband over every- thing she desires and run the risk of losing him to some other woman who will palaver over him.

T i what one does but how one does it that counts, and it is n it too much to say

‘ l that there is not a family scrap that couldn't be prevented, not an argument that couldn't be avoided, not a crisis that couldn't be happily ‘oived by the use of a little diploma”. ' a '

An ounce of soft soap would prevent a peck of trouble in every house- Jhld. DOROTHY DIX.

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Dear ulu Leeds-u) Will you pleaaetelime what l can do to re- move tlny ‘wrinkles from under my eyes? I unsure that I get enough sleep. ' (2 When I hold my head down the skin under my chin wrinkles _' and I have a double chin. Scrub my neck every day with a bath bllllih. Do you think that is tire cause? (3) Will neck exercises improve this ron- dition? Mother says l he'd m, maul down tocrrnuch. (i) ‘should I use a skin food or will I make it worse if l massage it? Thanking youvery much for your advice. knrnnrmn. Answer-ii) Perhaps your skin is inclined to be a little dry and that is the reason for the eye Wrinkles aP- pearlnl. or perhaps you use Y°\" W" a. great deal for close work or study- ing. Ilave your eyes examined and and out l! you need to wcar glasses. After the skin has been cleansed at bedtime, pat a little cold cream 01' oil on the wrinkles, wipe of! the ex- cess and leave a little on the skin overnight to lubricate it-during- sleep. (2) The bath brush should stimulate the skin and neck muscles and thus help to prevent _a double cnln and iiabbiness rather than cause it. How- ever, when using it, it is best to use a patting movement rather than a rubbing motion- Be sure to practice correct posture when standing, sitting or walking-Hold your chin up. ehwi elevated and shoulders well. back. 1n- correct posture-is responsible for a great lnanydoubls chins. l8) Yul. the neck exercises and massage treaty- ments should be taken regularly, as they will help to keep the chin and throat line youthful. Your mother is quite right and you must learn to, hold your head up. (i) After cleans- ing the neck at bedtime. pat on a lit- tle tissue cream or skin food and massage the neck for several minutes. Wipe on excess cream and take a few ngcgpbending exercises. . Molsten a p341 in a mild astringent such as pitch-hazel and remove theremain- der of the cream. Take the exercises every nighlxand morning.

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Dear Mlssbeeds“: Like many others. l am conung to you with my beauty problems. (l) I am a. girl 17 years old, ll feet 7 inches tall and weigh 11l pounds. How much underweight am I? (i) How can 1 gain weight‘! (31 Am l too tall? (4) I am becominfl round-shouldered. l-low can l over- come this? <5) I saw in your col- umn recently a lotion to remove freck- les. Should I use it? I have a few pim- ples", will the freckle lotion make them worse‘! i6) 1 have a long face and wearya, windblown bob. Do you think i! I curled my hair it would make my face look longer? M158 M. E.

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Learn to relax before and after meals.

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Eat. slowly and mastioato your food thoroughly. Be lure to have sufficient sleep every night Spend an hour or more in the trash air and sunshine every day. Relax during the day as much as possible. Take moderate exercise reg- ularly. Bat plain but nourishing

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TORONTO, Ont’... not. 21-mo- sion has been inade- by Queens Perk authorities to alter seating all-anal- mentsin‘ the legislative chamber m: the coming senlon. While up making a semi-circle of seats ll once luk- gcsled and denounced by rrcmiar U. l-l. Ferguson as an American inne- vatlon. the seats farthest M!!! Nil speaker are to be turned at l." "C" towel-as the chair. moths central aisle: narrowed at the main cntrllill to make room for the change. Cabinet approval has been given the ache!!! and chitects of the departmental works have brewed plan! l" W‘ peniars who will continence IOII ill‘ rnediately. rm ensure is mined '4 remove the cause of oomifllifl" 1"" many members m» than mm"! near the south end of the house 6N8‘ notibl lteard, and those at the nevi-I and cannot maba themselves beafli- '

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