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Dear Mary Haworth: O n :-I son Chuck. 19. home from col-p le’e ‘o- the summer. is a sore, problem to us. He seems to re-l sent and - or envy his ‘annts' and at every step manages 'to poison the "tm’s‘here with his sullen carping hostile manner.

‘ There's no point trying to be , amiable. as he has the knack ’ of alienating us even w

‘ needs money or wants to bor- me the car. He never offers a l word about his plans and if we ‘ ask. he answers in e fewest :possible words. His behavior

is most obnoxious - to us. l However. he has been going5 :sieady since age 15. Lulu. I . year old than he. and a season-4.I -ed ater Ihaving gone steady.

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tal grasp of emotional forces that a child would have. hous- ed (so to speakl in the body of an adolescent who as been acting. in relation to his sex impulses. as if steady dating and the intent to marry (some dayi qualities boy and girl to make believe they are already man and wife. sex - wise.

is an established fact. I believe. that routine make believe of that sort. during ado- lescent years. tends to stunt the individual‘s social growth potential. in terms of annul- ling that enthusiastic personal drive towards full fledged ad-

ult excellence which character- izes fortunately well disciplin- ed. sexu a l l y self governed .

‘ since she was 12l. knew at once; YOU”!

.thai he was her final choice! for a mate. They act and talkl -with each other as old mar-' . rierl couples do.

She thinks he's God's gift to humanity: responsible. mature. loyal. etc.. and he acquiesce s gallantly to all her wishes. The most surprising aspect is his readiness to advise her mea -

thile stumbling into one pitfall after another in his own exist- ence for lack of foresight. If i we venture to advise him. he is sure to do the opposite...

ulu never g on with other couples their age: they're loners. Their isolated togetherness has unhealthy overtones and we have become dumb with worry.

Chuck Is all we have and his only wish. he says. is that we approve his marriage to Lulu‘ and pay their way until he‘s out of college. We are old-fash- ioned and feel that m-amiage in only for those who can assume .fullness of responsibility from the start. Perhaps that's the nub of our conflict. He threat- ens to pack up and leave and -rent a room to be near Lulu.

‘ Though we would welcome ro- Ilcf from the constant

strain .since he's been home. I am terribly concerned and upset.

Can you help us to understand? Other parents. similarly boxed in. may profit by your insights

too. A.S.

Dear A.S. If you are going to try honestly to understand Chuck's sullen. defensive. frus— trated envy of his parents. and by your courage perhaps help} him to see straight. you'll have. to reckon possibilities; painful to contemplate.

Evidence (‘huck has lost his bearings respect to the re allies of or- dcrlv individual social growth .in the kingdom ‘shall we sayl of human beings.

As of now. it seems he

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chn temperament and the men- dian.

a 0 indicates H1 ,9 isn't the constructive in of the. misuse he’s making

In his book "The Ameri can, Sex Revolution" Sargent. pub—l llshersl Harvard anthropologiin

(or is it sociologist’." Pltnrl m; Sorokin says (see 151):i "Our survey shows that therel

has been and continues to be a decline of creativity in the Uni-. ted States. This decline is cau-l sed by any factors. not the: least of which is the growth of?

sex freedom...

"We have drifted along file. currents of sexual freedom dan— gerously far. but we are not he- yo the possibility of chan-l ging our course and enteri ng: the deep waters of self - con-’ trol. peace. well being an creativity.“ l I that Chuck's “lso-l lated togetherness" (to use your. phrase) with Lulu has involved him in an impasse as regards his markedly immature filial. dependency on one hand. and his pretensions to being a‘ responsible competent protect-i ive adult - type sex partner in

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He probably feels branded; with guilt and failure on manyi counts in relation to Lulu. hisi parents and himself. wh i ch; would explain his porcupine. defensive behavior at home I

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IS Elllm’ pressure for _Sllb5ldi7r: treating their jobs as mother; pect complete and at the same ef‘l matrlage Md LUIUS Skate-.and homemaker as secondaryitime make significant contribu- Elc Whey of flattery and hn-‘to their roles as women. said tions to their countries.

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As for what to do. you perso- nally should cons uu it a first—. rate family relations counsel—l lor or perhaps a good psychoa-‘ nalyst. immediately. for guid- nce in reaching Chuck. psych~ logically. Subsidized marriageI

of his youth.

Mary H a w o r (h counsels through her column. not y ' or pets 0 n a l interview. her in care of the Gila-r—

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Motherhood Will Unlikely“ Be Replaced By Automation

By JEAN SHARP

WOLFVILLE, N.S. (CPl —— Women's primary role is still in her home. but she can como} bine that first allegiance with. others. This was the concensus1 of a symposium Tuesday. thel second day of the five ‘ day. Federated Women's Institutesl of Canada triennial meeting at Acadia University, . Too many women now are

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rs. John McLean of Eureka.“ a senior. national WI director, said: '

“We must. in our society. re-

turn to thinking that woman's reached out to establish organ-

rolc in adulthood is that of‘ mother and homemaker first, then she can pursue a career. . It is too early as yet for

us to evaluate what thetrue

[effect so many working mothers ally.

is having on our children."

S c said raising children is of the first importance. and. motherhood is unlikely to be replaced by automation.

stwm on. day after day. with- Lword "vacation." I said "real" 'member - at - large. Mrs. Arm-l

'out real rest? !

“But i do relax." you s a y. ', .That helps. but It is not rest. .Rest must be a longer period. i It must be quiet. reposeful and l to keep the rhythm of life har— .monlous. each major physical or nerve - draining period of l activity must .be balanced by a corresponding sustained per- iod of rest.

“But i can't take. s vacation .every time I do something ex 'txa,” you argue.

"rest" 1 In part.

which is different. And can be plan it e (1. means “Take it easy" each major activity.

For instance. after a hous cleaning do as litt housew ork as possible for a l few days. Keep off your feet. as . much as you can after several days of shopping. or hard work l at the church bazaar. of after i Daughter’s wedding. giving a 3 big party. or entertaining s ‘ houseful of weekend guests. And above all. practic pre- . paring time - saving meals at l which you. the whole family and guests can have in.

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ONTESTANT

not only a good cook but can sing and sew as well. A dau- ghter of Mr. and Mrs. Benja- min Bears. Betty is being sponsored by the Montague Y's Men's Assoc.

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. Pen- guests Home.

and Nancy of W nsylvsnia were weekend at. the Hilltop Tourist Baltic.

Marilyn Pierce. Boston. Mum. arrived to spend her summer vacation in Baltic. the guest of her' grandmother. Mrs. Edi Wall. '

Marlene Paynter of Freetown

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Andrey Jenkins. Women’s Editor: Phone 4-8500

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Mr. and Mrs. Graeme

don and Hartford. Conn. Re» turning via Bar Harbour. Maine Y-armouth. N.S. ferry they visited friends in Kingston. N.S. and have taken up residence at 169 Linden Avenue. Summer- side. '

Sgt. and Mrs. George Taylor and family of 272 Boswell Cres- cent. Summerside have left Summerside to take up their new residence in London. On- tario. Sgt. Taylor just recently retired from the RCAF. Prior to their short stay in Summer- side they were stationed with the RCAF in Greenwood. N.S.

Elizabeth Ramsay. NB. 5 her parents. Mr. Mrs. James A. Ramsay. Hamilton.

Mrs. Simmons, Remington. accompanied by her two grand- children. Joan and Lloyd Sim- mons. Burlington left on Satur-

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plan for individual develop- ment. Emphasis must be placed; on continuing education for women. There are opportunities for growth in rapid social change, a whole new frame- work of opportunity."

Panellisi Mrs. E. J. Roylance of Greenwood. B.C.. agreed that women must play a divided role. putting fa m i 1 i e s first. “They must keep this vital as-

An honorary president past president of the member organization, Roylance said. “women have

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izations through which they can work together." She reviewed some of the, Wl's work to illus- trate how women and their organizations can work nation-

flirs. Keith Tand of Port Wil- liams. N.S.. an area vice-pres- ident in the Associated Country Women of the World. the Wl‘s international organization. said

.day by train for Vancouver.

DC. where they will spend three weeks visiting relatives.

Link~ letter have returned from their honeymoon trip to New York City and the World‘s Fair. They visited relatives In New Lon-

pent the weekend with

IMrs. John MacPherson has re- turned to her home in Amherst, N.S. after an enjoyable holiday spent with her parents. Mr'. and Mrs. John D. MacLeod. Monta- gue.

Among those entertaining for the nurses of the 1964 Gradua- ting Class from the Prince Coun- ty Hospital. Summerside were Mrs. Earle 'Hogg. Wilmot Val- ley.

The dining room was attrac- tiver decorated with arrange ments of spring flowers‘and the table was centred with bouquets of daffodils. The hostess was assisted in serving a buffet tea Mrs. James Heffell while Mrs. Ralph Somers poured.

A hearty sing song. with Miss Marjorie McArthur at the piano. was much enjoyed by all.

Mr. and Mrs. Al Arsenallt and family Halifax. are vaca- tioning at the home of Mr. Mrs. Peter F. Gallant. also ing relatives in Lot 6.

an visit-

Mr. and Mrs. Charles Stafira returned to Chicago. 111.. after spending their vacation with

relatives in Piusville and Bur~ n. On their return trip they intend visiting relatives in Tru- ro. N.S.. Montreal and Toronm.

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Social Items 'Are Requested

This is a wonderfully social time of year! There are receptions galore for visiting convention dele» gates. shoWers Iuncheole and coffee parties for brides to - be. friends and relatives vacationing here. the pros- pect of your own vacation to some point outside the pro- vince. and those enjoyable sum‘mer get-togethers with

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Share your social news with readers in the women’s page columns. Just call Audrey Jenkins at 4-8506 in Charlotte- town. Gail Magee at 6-9331 or 6-5068 (evenings) in Sum- merside. or the news bureau of The Guardian and Patriot at Montague and Alberton

Jackie Bernard, accompanied by his aunt. Mrs. W. C. Donald returned from a motor trip to

companied home by Mr. and Mrs. Charles Lockhart of Bos- ton. Mass. Mrs. Lockhart is a sister of Mrs. William Brander. Baltic and Mrs. Parmeanus Phillips. Kensington. James Beairsto. Baltic. Preston Beair- . sto of Malpeque and Fred Beatr- sto of Charlottetown.

M and Mrs. Paul Hummel- lerger and two children. Paul

Boston. Mass. They were ac-f

Church on Saturday. was widely entertained prior to the ceremony.

Her slster-in-law Mrs. Carmen Paynter. Freetown entertained at a recipe shower. An original poem was read and s soc evening enjoyed. The hostess served refreshments.

Tuesday evening. Barbara Sinclair RN entertained at a dessert party. Two pieces of Wed were presented to the bride-lobe.

Mrs. Horace Paynter held an afternoon tea on Friday in bon- or of her niece. Mrs. Paynter presented the guest of honor with a hostess-11ft.

Mrs. Hamid Stone of Sack-

. N.B. ,.was hostess a miscellaneous shower. Paynter as been nursing in Sackville for the past two years.

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_A grocery party was held in her honor at the Nurse’s Resi- dence. Sackville on Sat. June 13th. A community shower was held at the home of her par- Mr. and Mrs. John Payn- ter. Freetown when over 200 friends and relatives gathered for the oceasion.

Beulah Moase played the Wedding March and Miss Payn- ter was escorted to a decorat- ed seat by her cousin Mildred Bernard. Baskets of gifts. were carried in by all and Susan Stavert. Cynthia Jardine and Robin Drummond: Anna Payn- ter. Carol Paynter and Mrs. Colbourne Clow opened the gifts. Verses and names were read by ;Heather Taylor and Jean Payn- . ter.

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Attending the wedding from Roxboro. Quebec were the igroom‘s parents. Mr. and Mrs. .‘E. C. Marshall. their daughter, lSusan and son R0 ert. and ar- bara Kirklin.

r. and Mrs. Bruce MacLean ! and family of Toronto. Ont.. are guests of Mrs. Harry William-

nieghbour. So I slipped the bl‘l- dle on the mare and came b the door to pick up the basket. Well. I didn‘t get it. until I had put my mount back in the sta- ble! And then I set out on fool. I often think of that when I see one of the youngsters get on the tractor. or in the truck to do some chore —- it may be to go

en. giving each little plant.- tion its perfect white blooms. You catch the delectable frag- rance. and know that it is made up of every June loveliness. It reminds one of bewitching gar- den s p o t s.

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where humming-

birds come by to dip into tne hearts of blossoms for sweets: w h e r e winds. warm on the

cheek. mere breaths of zeph- yrs linger.

"Don't you love the scent of narcissi?“ the one girl of this farm queried this morning. kneeling before a white comp- any in the border of lawn to en- Joy their perfume and grace.

Lilies of the valley too ring out their tiny bells these. times. calling to the “wee folk" to come out from leafy nooks and shades at midnight dance in the light of the moon. II. with lights out at the edge. of retiring. you come for a moment to an upstairs windo to look down on the lawn below. even the most practical one. day - through. can easily see them foregather. Catch too the

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from the sh ade of the lawn trees into the open there: Elves of creatures with pointed dark caps - the merry puckish lads. and pretty faery - gowned tiny lassies we can almost catch dancing their merry measures there on om- silvered bit lawn. And all about. except for the muted sound of the fall of water at the broken dam. the night is so solemnly still. There in the sunshine M

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rabbit this morning to break- 1. This was an ingenious move on the laddle's part. it i‘ ‘ . If the grass :could not by inclination be ta- 1 ken to the. bunny. then it follow- . . the pet must be brought to ' I

"See!" we grinned to James .. One of our absorbing intel- I, ests is to catch in these newer l generations. i own. but in district. t h o s e traits which

from some forebear.

And experiments similar this one. we had seen before in 1‘ Alex's line. in years one. . “That‘s one way of -d oin g .things" James commuted. "Is it ingenuity or laziness. I won- der’"

"Ingemrity" we smiled. experiment. That is how pro- gress is nude!" on may call it what you iwill. Ellen. Ingenuity. perhaps" .he grinned. “ tmy Mother would have termed it pure la- ziness! I remember that one

lelfin chuckles as they emerge . winter day when I was a

5 young lad. she was sending me lwith some delicacy to a sick

keep. Alex carried his w hite ‘

Mrs George Clarke of St. there have been women‘s clubs There is no charge for only far as the mailbox John s. Nfld.. national second since the time of the Roman; publication of such items and .Al‘d 1}" lemp‘ed to was"? lv1ce-president. was chairman of Empire. and traced the histor-f our staff will be very happy :wlth hlrn. But. I suppose this the panel of four. ‘ies of some of the world‘s out-l m hear from you, "5 ‘ dlflemm age' we have

l standing women. lcome to. CHANGES i Time seems to count for so

f Witth‘in tale1 lifetime of mostI . much And the hours o as e \v no pattern of rural‘ T S T C come. The bow, and smile. i: life has been altered." said o and pass. Add to farm - folks. I lit/Irs. Agmstrong of Arm-. as one of them sighed today. gage. n., iScussing women, F S M h T d " re ' th' I all in the community. A nationall O o affine dllsyflm mg a w strong said: "As Wl members! The "June lilies" —- the. nar- this morning. where we ean Until tomorrow - Diary —-

kind this spring has ; fancy such midnight pastim e s 5 Good . night,"

lson. Charlottetown. This week Mr. MacLean is visiting his un-

.cles. Everett and Herb Buch- i anan. Montague.

A surprise party was held Sa- iturday night in honor of Mr. 'and Mrs. Campbell MacPhcc. I New Dominion who are cele- ‘lbrating their 25th Wedding Au-

' niversary June 24. 1964.

Mrs. Margaret MacKinnon land her son Mack. Santiego, California. have returned to